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NullSet

Discussion Starter · Aug 29, 2009

Who do you tell and when? I'm still deciding for this pregnancy as I have some other circumstances going on. I'll probably end up waiting (maybe not

see how indecisive I am about this) In previous pregnancies I've ranged from telling everyone almost immediately upon testing to telling at 16 weeks.

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Tenk

· #2 · Aug 30, 2009

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Who do you tell and when? I'm still deciding for this pregnancy as I have some other circumstances going on. I'll probably end up waiting (maybe not

see how indecisive I am about this) In previous pregnancies I've ranged from telling everyone almost immediately upon testing to telling at 16 weeks.

I've done it both ways. I've been pregnant 10 times, counting this one, and this time we told our parents and my BFF, but that's it. I have waited and miscarried and been upset with no understanding since no one knew, and miscarried when everyone knew and had to explain to everyone for weeks. So I don't have advice, but we have told people.

YAY! for preggies!!!

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Jelinifer

· #3 · Aug 30, 2009

We're going to tell my parents next weekend, but otherwise we're waiting till 12 wks.... I think for me it would be too hard for me to explain to people if I lost the bean and they asked...

mwright

· #4 · Aug 30, 2009

I'm selective this time around. I told my parents right away!! I couldn't hold it in.

I've told a few people at work and I told my husband it's time to tell his parents now that I got my beta levels back and things are looking good. I've told one friend.

Last time, I told everyone right away and it was a pain telling everyone that we lost the babe a week later. grrrr

I'm just now talking to my 3yr old dd about it.

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brooklyn_warbler

· #5 · Aug 30, 2009

last time i waited til we heard the heartbeat at 11.5w to tell everyone.

this time i'm more laid back about it all and would rather people knew if i miscarried...so far i have told my sisters and two of my friends. we're telling my parents tomorrow.

Phoebug

· #6 · Aug 30, 2009

I've told just a couple of people so far. DP wants to wait until after our first Dr. visit to tell anyone else...that will be around 9 weeks.
I won't tell people at work until at least 12-14 weeks.

I'm hoping to surprise my mom when she comes to visit next month, it's her 1st grandbaby! I'm terrible with secrets, though, so we'll see...

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Happily Blessed

· #7 · Aug 30, 2009

Everybody knows already. I work at a school and I tell people I do not want the kids to know. I don't want to have to explain a loss to them. We have done it both ways before and we this is our sixth pregnancy, with one DS.

LilMama23

· #8 · Aug 30, 2009

So far we haven't told anyone. Since I'm nervous because I'm having such bad cramping, I will feel more comfortable if we wait until after we've had an appointment and seen a heartbeat to tell anyone.

AliciaP8

· #9 · Aug 30, 2009

Since we did IVF and my family knew about it they were waiting for the blood test reslts as anxiously as I was. So we told my parents, brother and sister and our 11 year old son. No one else.

If it hadn't been for the circumstances of IVF we likely would have waited as long as we could. We're thinking about telling the rest of the family and friends around Thanksgiving (Canada). So when we're almost 12 weeks.

brooklyn_warbler

· #10 · Aug 30, 2009

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So far we haven't told anyone. Since I'm nervous because I'm having such bad cramping, I will feel more comfortable if we wait until after we've had an appointment and seen a heartbeat to tell anyone.

hugs, mama. i have had a lot of cramping both times around.

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Dee-Groovy

· #11 · Aug 30, 2009

I've told hubby and my parents but nobody else. I'm wondering when I should tell my boss since I teach college and know that she's working on the schedules for next summer already. I'm hoping I can afford to take the whole summer off. I've lost a few pregnancies but they were all early and I'm now a few days past the point where I would normally lose them. Hmm. Suggestions?

bethanta

· #12 · Aug 30, 2009

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This is our first pregnancy, and we are both so excited about it I just couldn't keep it in. My first reaction was to wait and not tell anyone until we felt a little more sure. But, I think it will be equally hard to come to terms with a miscarriage whether people know or not. Then I thought about how horrible it would be to tell my parents and in laws about a miscarriage if they didn't even know I was pregnant to begin with. So, we ended up holding it in for ... 2 days!

And those 2 days I was waiting to take another test and make sure it got darker. Once I was convinced, I just couldn't keep it in. We told my in-laws that night; my mom, brother, grandmother, and a couple aunts and uncles on Tuesday; my sister in-law yesterday (waiting to see her in person). I have told a couple people at work also. I'm not announcing it, but they all know I have wanted a baby for a while, so they will all guess soon enough.

And I think we decided we are going to announce it at church this coming Sunday. It will be such a blessing to have so many of my family praying for me and my little one

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thefreckledmama

· #13 · Aug 31, 2009

We've told family. close friends, and the few people my daughters told at church over the weekend (so I'm sure the news will spread like wildfire). It's so funny because my husband repeatedly asked his parents not to tell anyone, and we totally forgot to tell the girls it was a secret.

We'll probably end up telling everyone else we know in another month or so.

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Starfish11

· #14 · Aug 31, 2009

I'm extremely superstitious about this stuff (in fact posting on this DDC makes me a wee bit nervous but I can't resist!). I told my best mommy friend last night b/c I was in such shock and needed help working through it all.

Other than her and another dear friend, DH and I won't tell anyone until after the first trimester I bet.

Maude04040106

· #15 · Aug 31, 2009

We typically don't tell anyone until after 12 weeks or at a minimum after our first ultrasound, to confirm that everything is *ok*. For some reason, despite the fact that I do not like to draw attention to myself, I have a very strong desire to tell people this time. Its going to be hard to make it through the next 7 weeks w/ out telling.

jillybean7681

· #16 · Sep 1, 2009

We told our immediate family members but that's it so far. I'll wait until I see/hear the heartbeat to tells other people. I figure if there's a miscarriage I'd want the support of my family, so there's no reason to keep it a secret from them.

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