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This is great. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br><a href="http://www.truebirth.com/?p=14" target="_blank">http://www.truebirth.com/?p=14</a><br><br>
This is why I would never say I was "attempting" a VBAC. It just sounded so negative. Instead, I always said I was HAVING a VBAC, or even "planning" a VBAC, which is a little more positive.
 

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I'm the same way. I always say i'm going to vbac, not i'm trying to vbac. Positive thoughts and words are the best! I have my affirmations posted all over my house too!
 

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Yes... I always say we're planning a VBAC, or we're "going for" a VBAC (because that can mean you're shooting for a goal, or that you're on your way somewhere to GET something). Sometimes I say "I'm a VBAC patient/mama" when explaining why I'm having difficulty getting the birth I want. ;-)
 

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I did not want to say that I "would" vbac - there are no guarantees in life. I did say "planning on" or "going for"<br><br>
the ICAN wear all says "ICAN VBAC" (catchy and it fits eh?) but I actually made my own shirt with the Little Engine That Could that said "I THINK ICAN"<br><br>
now, I wouldn't say my doctor was going to "let" me "try" a vbac. My doctor wasn't letting me do anything! But for my own personal journey, I had to acknowledge that nothing was guaranteed. I didn't consider it negative thinking, just realistic.
 

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Yeah, this is why I really hate the term "trial of labor after c-section" (TOLAC). It's like, "hmm.. yes, you can <i>try</i>..." not really very confidence-boosting!<br><br>
When people ask me (knowing my son was a c/s) whether I'm going to have another c/s, I just tell them I plan to have this baby the way Mother Nature intended. (It's not always polite to use the word "vaginal" at work - and not everyone knows what VBAC stands for! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I just tell them I plan to have this baby the way Mother Nature intended. (It's not always polite to use the word "vaginal" at work - and not everyone knows what VBAC stands for! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">)</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I do the same thing around some older (male) relatives. I say "normal birth," since I know it can make them uncomfortable... and frankly, I don't want the subject to change, because I <b>like</b> talking about birth. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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