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My LO turned three months old today. He's been teething for about 2 weeks now (I know, that's weird and incredibly rare, but it's true.) Usually he's okay with it. He'll chew on my finger for awhile and nurse and stuff, and he's his happy, smiling self. Well, today, while I was watching TBOBB (AWESOME movie, BTW), he randomly starts screaming. I don't mean just crying loudly, even though there was plenty of that, too, I mean <b>screaming</b>. I think he's only screamed twice in the three months he's been alive, today and another time when he was teething, but that was only for about a minute and then he calmed down. Today, though, he was screaming on and off for about a half an hour, or maybe it just felt that long. I don't know. (Please nobody say that I'm a terrible mother, because I seriously feel like one. I just had no idea how to help him.)<br><br>
So I'm trying to get him calmed down, but nothing's working. I walk around with him, which helps a little, but not much. I try to get him to nurse or chew on my finger, but that just makes him scream louder (which makes sense because he has to use his gums for those things). DP comes in to see what's going on, I tell him that Jamie is teething, and he tries to hold him. He just keeps screaming. Then he gives him back and says, "Have fun!", goes back into the living room, and shuts the door. So I'm trying to walk around with him, because every time I sit down with him or set him down, he screams so loudly that he starts coughing. I know isn't helping much, but I don't know how to ease his pain, and nothing I'm doing is working, DP isn't being supportive or helping at all and won't even call his mom and ask her what to do, because I have no idea. At one point, he tells me that I should prevent this from happening. How can I prevent him from teething?!<br><br>
Finally I put him in his kangaroo carrier and give him his teething blankie to chew on. (That little boy on the box the blankie's in, by the way, is not teething. If he was, his face would be beet red and covered in tears and he'd be clutching and biting at that thing like there's no tomorrow. That box made teething made me believe until today that teething is no big deal. Yeah, right.) He's still screaming and crying and tries to frantically shove the teething part of the blankie in his mouth to chew on. Eventually, after much screaming and drooling and crying, and me ending up crying and wanting to scream with him (only I didn't because I didn't want to frighten him and, honestly, it wouldn't have helped much), he falls asleep. I'm still crying a little because it was the worst thing ever. It was so horrific. I thought someone was going to knock on the door and ask if we were beating him or something, it was so bad.<br><br>
If you have a child who has been through teething or is presently going through it, how do you do it? How do you keep from just going insane knowing that your child is in immense pain and there's nothing you can do to help them, and that anything you try just hurts them more? How do you keep from breaking down and jumping out the window or something? I was going to get those Hyland's teething tablets, but didn't because he was doing so well and I didn't think he needed them. Well, now I'm convinced, if he doesn't need them, I sure do. I think that might've been the worst experience of my entire life. Please someone tell me how to avoid this screaming, or at least how to ease the pain from teething, so that this never, EVER happens again. I never want to be a witness to that ever again. I don't think anyone should ever have to see their child screaming like that, especially if there's some way to prevent or stop it. Do children remember the pain of teething when they get older, like even 2 or 3? Because if Jamie remembers this, and ever asks me why I didn't help the pain go away, I would literally go insane. I seriously would. I would shrivel up and die.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> mama. That sounds terrible! We've had similar incidients, they just haven't lasted for as long. (and DS started at 3 months too)<br><br>
We use the Boiron Camilla Teething remedy. (DF calls it "teething goo") It helps. In extreme circumstances we've given Tylenol. Some babies like chewing on cold wet facecloths.<br><br>
Remember though, that humans have been teething for hundreds of years and it hasn't traumatized any children yet. (Not sure about their mothers though...)<br><br>
Hang in there~!
 

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HUGS mama! My DS started teething at 3 months too. We will have 3 day teething marathons where he is just miserable for those days and screams like your LO. It's hard on the nerves but we just work through it. I would try the Hylands tablets if I were you. They really help and DS sleeps for a good hour after a couple of those. Also try the camillia liquid. I also make my own teething tea which has lavender, chamomile, lemon balm and cat nip. I mix the herbs and use 1tbsp per cup of water...let brew for 15 min then give 1tsp at a time. I use one of those little dropper things. DS loves it and it really calms the nerves.<br><br>
I wish you the best!
 

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I feel your pain! Teething is not fun. For my DS, he teethed for almost 2 months before it even came in. We tried every teething thing we could think of. To make matters worse, he didn't like anything to be cold! Damp wahcloths seemed to be the only thing he even kinda liked. But, I'm not just going to commisserate with you; I'm going to give you hope. The next tooth to come in isn't nearly as bad (or, it wasn't for us).<br><br>
Hopefully your little one will pop that tooth through quickly. I agree with the previous poster that it is more traumatizing for you than it is for the baby.
 

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oh mama, i empathize. my son too has been "teething" since he was 2 months old (not rare). we've had many weeks like what you're describing--we<br>
re in onw now. it doesn't stay that intense for the entire teething duration, but it comes and goes and you just eventually figure out how to endure the madness. one thing i've noticed is that all the screaming tends to lead to more swallowed air and more gas/burping. so sometimes what starts out as a teething fit ends up being more about a gas/need to burp fit.<br><br>
and yeah, we've tried all the teething homeopathics too. the only one that seemed like it might have helped a bit was the viburcol liquid.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm so sorry. My Ds is almost 4 months and he's been working on those teeth for a month now. The only thing I can add is that when he's having a really hard time of it I take rescue remedy because at least it helps me calm down a bit. I have to say that I've ended up crying right along with him many times though.
 

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I HIGHLY recommend the homeopathic teething remedies. Hylands Teething tablets were a life saver when my dd was teething, and with this baby I´m using a liquid one.<br><br>
Get them, they work!
 

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we rely heavily on Hylands (tablets or gel)...and DS wears his amber teething necklace 24/7. It really does work for him<br><br>
I'm so sorry!
 

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My DS was also an early teether. And not just an early teether, but a loooong teether. He'll work on a tooth for several months before it finally comes through. I'm feeling so relieved to have had about 4 months off, until he started acting toothy again today (at 14 1/2 months).<br><br>
Hyland's helps almost every time. When he's really upset, we do use Tylenol, but when he was little it turned his poop electric green, so I try to avoid it if I can. Another thing he really liked when he was that little was frozen milk popsicles. I would have to hold them, but he would just gum them like crazy.
 

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Hyland's Teething Tablets, even if it's just a placebo for the mama, are a godsend. Also I would give my DD's an ice cube in one of those mesh feeding things.<br><br>
When I was 18 I was out of the country for several months and getting my wisdom teeth. I used Orajel it like crazy to numb the pain. We broke down and resorted to that once with my oldest DD. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: The numb sensation was more distressing to her than the pain of the teething was!!
 

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Oh, mama, teething is no fun for anyone.<br>
I doubt that your little one will remember teething, but he'll always know you are there loving him and trying to comfort him. You can't keep him from ever hurting or crying, but you can be sure that he doesn't do it alone.<br>
Homeopathic teething tabs are great. Definitely give them a try.<br>
Now about your DP . . .<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shake.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shake"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/nono02.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Nono02">:<br>
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Yeah, I talked to him about that. He said he would've felt weird because he'd just want me, which he did hold him for a bit and it didn't help at all. He gave me a few hugs, though, and bought me ice cream at the store, so that was good. I think he just can't handle the yelling, which is kinda sad, but oh well.<br><br>
Teething that early isn't rare? That's the last time I ever listen to Baby Center about anything! They're wrong about a lot of things, but I didn't think they'd be wrong about that, for some reason. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> We've had a few nights like that, waking from a sound sleep to blood curdling screaming at 3am. Teething started around three months, and DS just got his first tooth at 5 months, 1 week. The second tooth made it's appearance last Saturday. Hyland's worked very well for us!
 

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I just wanted to share that my little one was born 3 days after yours, and we are in the middle of our teething initiation too...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/thumbsuck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Thumbsuck"> It means so much to me to be able to come on to MDC and read posts and responses like this! Thanks to everyone who offers comfort and suggestions as the OP is not the only one your helping!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/stillheart.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stillheart">:
 

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I did that the other day. He does everything a lot earlier than they predict he will in those emails, anyhow. They're not helpful and they give bad advice. They've undermined my mommy instinct a few times, too, like when I was afraid to take him in the bath with me for fear that he might drown. Luckily I scrapped those fears, because it's so much easier than those tiny baby tubs.
 

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I'm so sorry. My firstborn was a big screamer. It was so hard. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Are you sure it's teething? Could it be gas? Or an earache? The intensity of the onset is what makes me suspicious. For my kids, teething has been more of a continual grumpiness and wakefullness--not an acute episode.<br><br>
If it is teething, the intensity of distress you've described makes me think a dose of acetaminophen is in order. I'm not one to reach for the drugs at every little whimper, but this case sounds extreme.<br><br>
I've tried homeopathics. Personally, I didn't think it helped. I know other mamas swear by homeopathy. Hopefully your experience will be better than mine!<br><br>
I've tried an herbal teething oil (Gum-o-mile by Herbs for Kids.) My LO hates it.<br><br>
At 9mo, my LO really likes frozen washcloths. I don't imagine he would have enjoyed it at 3mo. Maybe yours will, though.<br><br>
The thing that was most helpful when my firstborn had screaming fits was changing the scenery. Going outside for a few minutes (even if it was cold--but obviously not bitter cold) was often enough. Sometimes a bath helped, sometimes it made it worse. Sometimes nothing helped, and I resolved myself to tea, chocolate or a glass of wine, depending on the severity, my resources and the time of day.
 

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I was thinking this, it could have been gas or a tummy ache due to swallowing all that drool.
 

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He's been drooling a lot and chewing on everything. When he had his fit, he would put his hands up to his mouth like it hurt, and he wouldn't nurse even though he was hungry because it just hurt too much. Any time I would put something by his mouth he would scream louder, like if I'd try to get him to nurse or chew on my finger. He's usually pretty laid-back, even about teething, but it just got really bad this time, I guess.
 

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I would reccomend Gripe Water, as that can help teething AND gas/reflux/urpyness if that's more of an issue than you know. I have been in your shoes, and send you lot's of hugs, and please try the gripe water or hylands colic tablets. In a situation where baby went from 0 to 60 in a second I would give some tylenol after 15 min. Your instincts will tell you if this is "Holy COW! What's wrong with you?" that's when you give tylenol. I try to catch before with the gripe water when I see they are uncomfortable. Hang in there!
 
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