[kewpie-o]

This is a strange question, and I don't know if anyone else is in this exact situation, but maybe someone can relate....

This baby will be our first, but I babysit a 13 month old boy in my home 3-4 days a week. These past few days I have found that I'm extremely irritated by his behavior and it's not even really "bad" behavior. I mean, he is only a 1 yr old and he's the sweetest little guy......but he is just...I don't know how to say this without sounding insensitive...."high maitenance" I guess is how I would put it. He's very headstrong and when things do not happen the way he wants, he screams and has a bit of a tantrum. It can be really difficult to get him down for a nap and he's super cranky before and after. Really, I don't blame the little guy for being so cranky - He is at home breastfeeding w/ momma the rest of the week, so when he comes to my house I know it's a rough adjustment for him and I'm just trying to deal the best I can.

I said all that just to say: I feel so irritated with everything he does lately.

It sounds bad, but I can't wait for him to go home everyday. Sure, there were days when I my nerves were worn a little thin before I got pregnant......but now it just seems like my hormones are going nuts and my body is telling me that this little dude is not my baby and he shouldn't be around. Does that make any sense? I don't like this feeling....maybe it's nothing but just being newly pregnant and irritable, but I don't want this "territorial" feeling to get any worse. Now I'm definitely beginning to think I will have to take a LONG break from babysitting when my own little one gets here, because I can see myself acting like a protective mama bear and not giving the other little guy the attention he needs and deserves.

Does this happen with biological children too or do you think this feeling is so strong because he is not my own and sort of feels like an "intruder" to me? (I hate saying it like that....it sounds so harsh) Does anyone else watch someone else's kids and suddenly feel like they're invading your little nest?

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[MonTana Mama]

YES!!! In fact I stupidly thought mine wouldn't be so awful. I took care of a little girl just a few months older than DS. Boy was I in for a real treat! Now, we have one of the most high need little guys out there and now I am sure others must feel that way about us!

: In our case what goes around comes around.

: I do think it is hormonal and partly mental. You are trying to picture what things will be like for you when baby comes. Don't worry, try to relax-esp. before and after the little boy comes over. Also, delight in his accomplishments. You are integral in a really fun stage of his development!!!

Good luck, mama!

 

[imosbc]

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I loved my nephew before I got pregnant with my first son and even now I still just really can't stand him anymore...he still drives me nuts! It's sad, but I can't stop it.
I also stupidly thought mine would act differently, but my one year old is soooooooo sooooo high maintenance and my three year old makes me want to scream sometimes, but it's not as bad because he's mine

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I don't know why I started to feel that way when I was pregnant, but there was nothing I could do to change it...just like after I had my first son, this lady at work would hold him and get her smell (perfum) on him and it would drive me insane...I'd spend all day trying to get it off of him. It didn't smell bad and I loved the lady that put the smell on him, but I couldn't take it if he smelled like someone else. We humans are weird creatures

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[kewpie-o]

Good. Whew! I'm glad I'm not the only one that has had feelings like this. I've even had thoughts like "Oh my gosh! I hope I'm not this highly irritated all the time with my own kid!!!! Maybe I'm going to be a bad mom!"....but I really do think it'll be different.......not saying he/she won't irritate me, but I know the fact that the child is mine will override the negative feelings. I'm just going to rest up like MonTana Mama said and make a conscious effort to make the time I spend w/ the boy I watch now fun and relaxed. It's so dang hot here so I never take him outside anymore and I'm really trying not to use much gas, so we're sort of house-bound.......and I'm sure that doesn't help matters either. I will just have to get creative and make sure my hormones don't totally take over.

 

[koofie]

Half the time I am irritated with DD. I'm sure if she wern't mine, I woudl be even more so in my state. Here is a weird example: usually I love that little girl smell she has, but lately being near her is icky. There are times when she smell, but even those times when she has her normal smell, I just want her away from me! Also, she has been talking up a storm at home, as usual, but lately, I have just wanted to tell her to be quiet!

I feel bad because I love her so much, but at least I know it is the hormones talking!

 

[MonTana Mama]

SO interesting!!! I love these little stories bc then we can all feel just a little bit more nomal!