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Does anybody else have the problem of feeling invisible 'round here? There have been multiple times I've worked on a post for a while, posted it in a very active thread and had it totally ignored. I don't know if I'm too mainstream or boring or not argumentative enough or whatever, but I guess I'm wondering if I'm paranoid.<br><br>
If it had happened once or twice, I'd understand, but it's happened several times. I'm starting to develop a real complex about it and I hate feeling this way.....<br><br>
Am I alone????
 

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You're not alone. I felt that way for a long time. Only recently did I feel like anyone responded to me. And that's just occasionally.<br>
Mabye post something controversial. Or spend a lot of time <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/argue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="argue">: in activism.<br><br>
Here's another <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
It's no fun to feel ignored here, where you're supposed to be among friends.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">You're not alone. I felt that way for a long time. Only recently did I feel like anyone responded to me. And that's just occasionally.<br>
Mabye post something controversial. Or spend a lot of time <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/argue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="argue">: in activism.</div>
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Thanks! It helps just knowing others have had the same feeling. I'm the kind of person IRL who's "alone in a crowd" and it's weird to have that same feeling online. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"><br><br>
Thanks again for the <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> and back atcha. Back to work I go.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/whistling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="whistle">
 

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did you say something? :LOL<br><br><br><br><br>
Seriously, about 1/5 of my threads get more than 2 replies, so don't feel bad.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I feel the same way. I will post a thread and like 500 ppl will view it and I am lucky if I get 2 replies. I also had/have a complex about it, but then I think, ok there are plenty of threads I don't reply to that I read because either I have nothing to say or what I do have to say will cause a scene so I just don't say anything :LOL<br><br>
I will try to look for your posts from now on!
 

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Don't get a complex, I get ignored too. Sometimes I post something and everyone goes crazy with replies and other times I hear crickets...<br><br>
You are not alone girlfriend! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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I just thought I was posting after the thread was essentially dead. I also have poor follow up, so it may take me a long time to get back to my own thread. I don't know what it takes to make the "cool" group here, but I think you're cool. Does that count?
 

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I've found that I need to be selective about where I post. Special Needs is my "home" and I never get ignored there. (Well, one of my threads hasn't gotten a response, but I'm pretty sure that's just because no one has any advice to offer on the complicated situation). If I say something on one of the other forums from my Special Needs perspective, it generally does get ignored, mainly because people want reassurance, not warnings. So I've learned to only post there if I have something helpful and positive to say (unless something raises glaring red flags).<br><br>
This isn't the best approach for most people, but I don't have time to get caught up in the controversies (I have three children 5 and under with special needs), so I limit where I post.<br><br>
Hope you find a way of coping with "invisibility" that makes you feel better.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I just thought I was posting after the thread was essentially dead. I also have poor follow up, so it may take me a long time to get back to my own thread. I don't know what it takes to make the "cool" group here, but I think you're cool. Does that count?</div>
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I have always thought you are the coolest one on here! You are very inspiring!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">FWIW, lotusdebi, your posts always stand out to me because I know some of the background behind them (from living in the same area) and because you make well-written points that I agree with.</div>
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Oh, that makes me feel so good! Thank you! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I suspect there are a lot of other lurkers like me who think that another mama has posted something that was more eloquent and thought out than what I could come up with, and hesitate to jump into the discussion with nothing more than a "yeah, what she said!"</div>
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Yeah, what she said!<br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">:
 

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Love and hugs! You aren't invisible! I hear you!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hearts.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hearts"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbsup"><br>
Chrissy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug">
 

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I feel the same way!I try not to take it personally.I am also the type to feel alone in a crowd,so I'm pretty much used to it.I have recieved support here though,quite a few times.But I mostly lurk,as you can see.I've been here for 2 years,and this is only my 129th post.<br><br>
thoesly-I think I know which thread in special needs you are talking about.The sibling one?I actually had a long reply for you(I go through the same type of thing)and my ds shut off the computer on me! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">: I will try to write it again now.<br><br>
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Oh, gosh, thanks, moms. I so appreciate your words of support. Yeah, I know what you mean about being in your own "area," seems like in NH&BC I have more activity. I tried to branch out and knowing that others feel the same way gives me more hope and courage. I guess there's just so many folks here these days and it's a big crowd.<br><br>
Thanks again, moms....to all of you a big grateful <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> from me.
 

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I have that feeling a bit too. But I am really quite new to the group so I know it will take a while for me to be really noticed. I do know that I sometimes don't post to a thread because I feel like what I say isn't important enough because I AM so new but I realize that is my own hangup not anyone elses.<br><br>
So....this is my mission for this week. I am going to post if I have something to contribute and not worry about it so much because I'm pretty sure I am the only one thinking that I am not worthy to be here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> Besides, I am never going to feel like I belong if I don't join in.<br><br>
To the OP....don't worry, you aren't alone in feeling this way! {{{{{hugs}}}}} <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I think there's a pretty big community out here...i'll only post to the ones that get my blood boilin' or someone in need of support....<br><br>
My PC was down (Let the 2 yo play w/ it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"> ) & I couldn't afford to buy one until now, 3 mo. later. I missed this .commune SOOO much I realized how much I totally value the info & debates & just feeling like there's people who believe in simplicity & mothering....YET, no one noticed I was gone sniff sniff. Only kidding.<br><br>
Maybe we just need to acknowlege it more! Like Spiral Chrissy, your reply on this post rocked!!! Way positive. And Gr8ful Mom, I always always notice your posts--I dig your screen name too. And Nursing Mother, I think you are way brave to have shared your experience with your son here. I was awed at all the support that came online. Even when I separated from my dh, people wrote me when I posted about how awful I felt. It helped me get through, honestly. Tracymom, I bet it will for you too, when you really need it! I think you were great to point this out, it made me think about really connecting with people<br><br>
So maybe it comes through when you really need it. I try to keep an eye out now for people that seem to be in nee'd. Tho not all who wander are lost, right Gr8fulmom!!!
 

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i feel it alot too... jus takes time i guess and really big fonts to get noticed <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">:
 
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