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Just thought I'd share this in case it helps someone else. I'd been really struggling with continuing to nurse my 2-and-a-half-year-old DS along with my 7-month-old DD. I had been forced to put some limits on his nursing, for my own sanity as well as for DD's supply (she had weight gain problems we couldn't resolve without limiting his time at the breast). He simply was not responding well to the limits--crying and very upset when we'd have to stop. I felt like I couldn't make him happy no matter what I did, and maybe we would be better off just weaning him completely.<br><br>
Then I read a post somewhere here on the boards where someone mentioned, in passing, that she taught her DC to be courteous and say "Thank you mommy for nursing me" when it was time to stop. I was flabbergasted! Was this possible?? So I tried it with DS. I sat down and decided what type of nursing I was going to be able to provide for DS right now (nursing to a count of 10), explained it to him, and then made a commitment to be consistent. I also began prompting him, every time, to say, "Thank you, mommy, for nursing me!" and then give me a hug and a kiss when we were done nursing.<br><br>
I couldn't believe it! Within a day or two, the child who had been screaming and crying at the end of every nursing was not only thanking me with a hug and a kiss, but laughing as he did it, like it was the best game he'd ever played. Now, a couple weeks later, I'll often forget to prompt him only to be surprised by his thank you and hug. I think now that he knows what to expect (rather than sometimes getting to nurse longer, sometimes not) and has a reliable, pleasant connection with me at the close of each nursing session, he feels much happier and more secure. And I no longer feel the need to wean him (which I was so close to doing). We're both so much happier!<br><br>
Also, I think since he's no longer picking up on frustration and resentment from me, he feels more secure with me in general and is better able to connect with me in other ways. The other day, he came up to me and said, "Mommy, I need to snuggle with you," climbed up into my lap, and just cuddled with me (I gave DH big raised eyebrows over DS' head!). This is so cool! I love just cuddling with my kids, and when he felt pushed away from me before, he was very resistant to this kind of thing.<br><br>
Anyway, I know this won't work for everyone, but if you're having the kind of problems I was, you might want to give it a try. If I hadn't read that post, I never would have thought this was possible with any 2-year-old, let alone my tantruming DS. But it's made all the difference! (Big thank yous to whomever posted about this previously!)
 

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Cute! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> that is the sweetest <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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That is so great to know about! Thanks for sharing.<br><br>
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