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its a show about kids who since birth feel they were born into the wrong gender.<br><br>
This one transgendered girl that is 10 is bullied mercilessly at school. I can't see why these parents don't pull their kids out of school and instead homeschool them until they are old enough to handle the pressures that come with being transgendered.<br><br>
Poor, poor kids.
 

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She did seem quite unhappy. I really felt for her.<br><br>
I think that 20/20 probably went looking for the "normal" stories so those would be the kids in traditional school....<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">its a show about kids who since birth feel they were born into the wrong gender.<br><br>
This one transgendered girl that is 10 is bullied mercilessly at school. I can't see why these parents don't pull their kids out of school and instead homeschool them until they are old enough to handle the pressures that come with being transgendered.<br><br>
Poor, poor kids.</div>
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I know, it makes no sense. All those children really seemed deeply effected by these bullies at school. I can only imagine.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I just wanted to hug all of them.
 

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Something that was not addressed, that I have heard of moms of trans kids doing is to start a new school when they transition. So that no one knows that they aren't biologically the gender they identify with.<br><br>
The youngest had a bit of that, but none really did it fully (and I would expect those that did would hesitate to be on 20/20)<br><br>
Not saying it's a better choice, just a different one that wasn't addressed.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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I think it wasn't addressed just for the reason you mentioned. If the kids were in new schools and no one new about them being transitioning and then they appeared on 20/20 it would blow their cover. They would then have the same problems of being bullied or whatever as the other kids do. I just think it's great that these kids have parents who are open and willing to accept their kidsas they are. Too many kids who are different don't have that kind of love and acceptance from their families.<br><br>
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This one transgendered girl that is 10 is bullied mercilessly at school. I can't see why these parents don't pull their kids out of school and instead homeschool them until they are old enough to handle the pressures that come with being transgendered.<br><br>
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I read an article about a child in Fla last year... the parents stated they wouldn't hs becuase they wanted to require the school to be accepting and to protect their child from bullying. The child was a Kindergardener.
 

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But shouldn't the parents be the ones protecting their children rather than sending them into bully-ing situations in expectation that the scholl should/would do something about it? It's one thing to fight for change in a school or fight to have a school enact better policy, but to make your child, at any age, live through that process each day is just wrong, in my book. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I think it's important to keep in mind that homeschooling is still considered quite counter-culture by many. The decision to homeschool is a complex one: it genuinely isn't the best choice for everyone. I cannot pretend to speak for any of the families on the show: but just to look at it from another angle, it may well be that these families already feel that their children are so marginalized, that pulling them out of public school would only intensify their feelings of isolation.<br><br>
My nearly-8yo daughter is transgender, MtoF -- she is living fully as a girl. We homeschool. I honestly cannot imagine making a different choice for our family, but I was already a homeschooling mother of many year's standing when my daughter was born.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I cannot pretend to speak for any of the families on the show: but just to look at it from another angle, it may well be that these families already feel that their children are so marginalized, that pulling them out of public school would only intensify their feelings of isolation.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">:<br><br>
If you're of the "everybody goes to school" mindset it could be just something else awful that would happen to your child to have to homeschool.<br><br>
But perhaps it could save these kids *some* of the heartache....<br><br>
-Angela
 

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I didn't see the show but I can say that bullying is one of the reasons I don't want my kids to go to PS. I was mercilessly teased and abused (yes, physically- as well as sexually assulted AT school by a classmate.) But my mom just didn't understand why I wanted to be HS'd and thought it would be better to work through things. She was a teacher at the school and I know that was a huge part of it. In defense of my mom, she's an absolutely wonderful person and the most caring person you've ever met, so its totally beyond me why she allowed the torture to continue for two whole years (even now I wonder and its been over 15 years). I finally changed schools in high school because I threatened to kill myself if I had to go to that same school again- it ended up meaning a 45 mile drive to and from school every day for 3 years (senior year I went to the local collage.) Anyway, my point is, sometimes parents feel they are doing the best thing for their kids by keeping them in PS even when they are being bullied. Just as those on this board feel its best to be at home.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">But shouldn't the parents be the ones protecting their children rather than sending them into bully-ing situations in expectation that the scholl should/would do something about it? It's one thing to fight for change in a school or fight to have a school enact better policy, but to make your child, at any age, live through that process each day is just wrong, in my book. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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I totally agree. I've seen a similar argument used by many parents of special needs kids too. It feels like turning your kid into a pawn, to me.
 
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