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After experiencing stop and start contractions for weeks labor finally started with great intensity on the morning of September 7, 2003. Within minutes of waking it was obvious that we would have a new baby in arms soon.<br><br>
Right from the start contractions were long, very painful, and about 5 minutes apart and it was all back labor. My previous labor and birth was very quick and not very painful, so I was optimistic that I would have this child by that afternoon. Boy was I wrong.<br><br>
It was easy to cope with the contractions in the early hours of my labor. They were quite painful, but I was very excited about this birth, so my positive frame of mind seemed to help me cope. I tried to keep myself distracted and we went about our day as usual. I took many baths throughout the day to try to ease some of the pain in my back.<br><br>
By early evening it was getting harder and hard to cope. After several back to back contractions I could feel the baby turn and wiggle. I had suspected a posterior position and was happy the baby was finally in position. I thought this might speed things up a little and that though brought me some relief as I had been laboring for 12 hours already. Shortly after my contractions pick up in intensity yet again (which I didn't think was possible) but were more focused in my abdomen then my back.<br><br>
As the evening went on so did my labor. Before long the contractions were in my back again and I was starting to lose control during them. Thankfully Akira was content to hang out with daddy and they left me to labor in peace. I felt a strong need to be alone. By about 1 am I tried to nurse Akira to sleep after Jon's attempts to put him down failed. The pain was to unbearable that I broke down in tears. Jon took him for a nice long walk, which eventually put him to sleep and I stayed in bed and cried. After attempting to sleep between contractions I got up tried the tub yet again. At this point nothing was helping and the pain was too much for me to handle. I had been in active labor for 19 hours with almost no food or sleep and I was quickly losing my ability to cope. I was nauseous and shaking beyond control and alternating between sweating and freezing and could hardly move because of the pain. Contractions were one after the other and I had no chance to recover between them. I got back in the tub and tried to push lightly with the contractions. That helped the pain immediately, so I kept with it for a while.<br><br>
I could feel the baby move down some more and finally could feel that I was dilating the final bit (after the baby had turned it seemed my progress had stopped, that was 4 or more hours earlier). When Jon got home (with a sleeping Akira) I told him that I was feeling like pushing and he was excited. After a few more contractions I sent him to bed. I knew it was going to be a while and I wanted to be alone. Besides, I knew he would need to be awake and refreshed to deal with Akira when the time came.<br><br>
After pushing a little with each contraction for about an hour the pain again became unbearable. It hurt when not pushing, but it hurt even more to push. I got the strong feeling that I needed to stop pushing for a while and give my body a break. It was about 4 or 5 am at that point and I was beyond my physical limit. All I could think about was how much I wanted this over. I alternated between the rocking chair in the living room, the toilet, and various positions in the bathtub. Each hurt more than the last and I could not stop my back from having spasms during contractions. Between contractions I drifted in and out of consciousness and during contractions I moaned or cried.<br><br>
Jon and Akira woke up at about 7 am. I was completely out of it. He helped me to the bed and got me something to throw up in. He looked very concerned about me, but trusted my judgment completely. He also knows me well enough to know that keeping Akira occupied and giving me my privacy was the best way to help me. I was thankful to be alone.<br><br>
At this point I really just wanted to go to the hospital. I wanted them to knock me out and cut this baby out of me. I didn't care, I just wanted it over. I just kept reminding myself the only relief would be to give birth. Plus, I really didn't want to endure getting dressed and to the hospital. I figured that would take too long and involve dealing with other people, neither of which I could deal with.<br><br>
I decided to give pushing another try and felt relief immediately. After a couple of pushes I could feel the baby moving down. I reached down and could feel a head RIGHT THERE! I called out to Jon and he came running. I told him the baby was about to be born and he ran to get Akira. I pushed as hard as I could and could feel the baby start to crown. My body eased up on pushing and I sat crouching in the bathtub waiting for my body to start pushing again. It was totally beyond my control at this point. I pushed one final time and felt this slimy little ball in my hands. My water broke as the head was immerging and it seemed the whole body followed in the same instance. Stunned, I yelled out, "Its born!".<br><br>
I pulled this little body out of the water and heard the first loud cries, this scared Akira and he started crying too. Jon ran after him and tried to calm him down while I dealt with the crying newborn. I wrapped us in a blanket while I let the water out of the tub. When Jon and Akira returned we checked the sex..another boy! I got out of the tub and eventually made my way to the bedroom where I delivered the placenta. After over 26 hours I was done! I couldn't believe I had birthed my baby myself, and I was amazed at the whole experience. I imagine I will be processing the events of that night for some time to come!<br><br><br><br>
LaurieDW
 

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Blessings Momma. Thank you for sharing your story.
 

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Laurie,<br><br>
Amazing birth story. I liked that you didn't need to mention in your narration "i decided to go unassisted" or some statement like that, which in some way assumes "assistance" It was very interesting because since you didn't mention this fact ofr the lack of it. I never thought about thar and all the process seemed so natural and you went through it so fearless and powerful.<br><br>
Congratulations on your birth and Welcome baby to our world!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> ,<br>
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Wow.. I hear ya about the back labor. Wonderful job, mama! I admire you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bow.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bow">
 

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Hi Laurie<br><br>
Just saw this post about your birthing experience. WOw...didnt realize it was a long labour for you compared to the first one.<br><br>
You mentioned that you felt your baby moving inside you...was your baby posterior position during check up??<br><br>
Interesting you didnt stay in the bath to deliver the placenta to avoid having to clean it all up. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I found I was shaking so much after birth, despite only being in labour under 5 hours and when I read that you calmly pulled the baby up from the water, wrapped it up, went to the bedroom etc... I couldnt believe it. Especially from the long hour of labour you were in. I bet it was the Adreneline kicking in. Right? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> AFterwards then you were exhausted. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
COngrats again!<br><br>
Stephanie, tandem nursing mom to 3.5 year old Delfina and 8 mos old YUkio. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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