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I rarely go out without one or both of the girls so I have not received any comments from strangers before that go too far. I think they usually just focus on the girls. But I went to three different stores in the same day by myself, and at each one got into a conversation with at least one person.<br><br>
It went very much the same, asking if girl or boy. Am I dissapointed? So you are done now, right? Looks of disbelief when I say I don't know... we are going one kid at a time. Etc...<br><br>
I have heard the stories about people acting like this, but never experienced it before. And boy do some people have verbal diarrhea.<br><br>
I come from a big family with 8 kids, and know that it can be done. Right now 3 seems like a lot to me because I really do just have to go one kid at a time. But that doesn't mean I am crazy for considering having more when the time is right.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> sorry you had to deal with that.
 

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You are not crazy, Mama. People are just rude!!! Make your family the way you want to and try not to let what others say bother you. You know what is right for you.
 

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Grr, I feel your pain. I got my first comment today too... "So... you're done now? WELL!! How many more do you think you'll have!" as though I offended her with my fertile ways.<br><br>
I've never been a touchy/sensitive/whatever preggo lady, but for some reason (heat? exhaustion? over it?) I have zero patience with the stupid comments this time.
 

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Sorry to hear about the comments, mama! That's so annoying!!!<br><br>
Sometimes people really just say the most ridiculous things! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">
 

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I already have a boy so being pregnant with a girl invites a lot of "Aw one of each! How lucky that you don't have to try for a third!"<br><br>
Responding with "Well actually we wanted TWO of each" usually shocks them into silence. "We're shooting for twins next time" also gets the same reaction depending on how snarky I feel any particular day <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Since 99% of the time I am out with my younger four (3 girls and one boy) I get a LOT of the "poor boy!! Is he at least getting a brother next? No??? Awww......I'm sorry!!"<br><br>
Yes. Thank you. Because girls are horrible and we hate them. *grrrr* SO sorry I am offending you by daring to have four girls in a row!!<br><br>
Its very annoying and I totally understand your frustration. I learnt with my twin pregnancy to just LIE and tell people what they wanted to hear to avoid the stupidity, I think I will start doing that again...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I already have a boy so being pregnant with a girl invites a lot of "Aw one of each! How lucky that you don't have to try for a third!"<br><br>
Responding with "Well actually we wanted TWO of each"</div>
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I love that line! We are happy just to be having a healthy baby, but we really kinda wanted another little girl. People say "Oh, now you'll have a perfect family, one of each! How wonderful!" as if having another girl would make a NOT perfect family? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"><br><br>
I wonder, did *I* make these stupid comments pre-kid? I know people don't mean anything negative when they say these things, but it really annoys me! And since people are being so freakin positive, I feel like a grinch saying something negative in return!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I wonder, did *I* make these stupid comments pre-kid? I know people don't mean anything negative when they say these things, but it really annoys me! And since people are being so freakin positive, I feel like a grinch saying something negative in return!</div>
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I thought about that same thing. Sometimes it seems like they said something without thinking about what it really means. I have done that plenty of times and felt horrible after wards.<br><br>
And other times it is just that some people have lost their "inappropriate things to say filter." And it was no mistake.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I know people don't mean anything negative when they say these things, but it really annoys me! And since people are being so freakin positive, I feel like a grinch saying something negative in return!</div>
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I'm feeling seriously grinchy this time around. I don't even want to have people asking me "How do you feel?" I don't know why but it seems like the implication is that I should be feeling unwell or sick or whatever. It's me though, cause I realized that I just don't want to talk about the pregnancy at all in a superficial way. I don't want to have the inane boy/girl, oh-you-don't-know-what-are-you-hoping-for conversations. I don't want to talk about how tired, hot & cranky I am. I am coping. I will have a baby. I'm hoping baby remains healthy and I can stay hydrated enough and that I can make it to term. And then I feel badly cause, like you said, they're just trying to be positive and friendly and I'm the one with a chip on her shoulder!
 

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right there with you all. i don't know if it's because this is my third, or because it's hot or what, but *every* comment is annoying. especially "oh WOW, you REALLY look pregnant now!!!" o geez, thanks for letting me know, because all the mirrors in my house are broken and i don't have the ability to LOOK DOWN AND SEE THAT I AM IN FACT, PREGNANT. here's hoping for a 37 week (healthy) baby...
 

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I got a weird one today, not necessarily rude, just weird.<br><br>
I had a major craving for a burrito so I go to my favorite place for lunch. I ask for the HOT salsa on the burrito.<br><br>
Burrito guy: HOT?<br>
Me: Yup<br>
Burrito guy: Are you sure? (looking at my now huge belly)<br>
Me: YES<br>
Burrito guy: I'm not sure that's a good idea....won't you give your baby reflux?<br>
Me: I ate raw jalapenos with my first, pour it on.<br><br>
He was also put off that I didn't want any lettuce greens on it. Sorry, but my pregnancy nutrition is probably more healthy than most people's regular diet, not that it's any of your D*&$ business.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">
 

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Here's a weird one as far as convos go...it happened in an elevator of an office building.<br><br>
Random Woman: Did you just get back from an OB/GYN appt. too?<br>
Me: No. I actually see a chiropractor on the 9th floor of this building.<br>
RW: Oh, ok. I just got back from my appt. I found out I have a UTI.<br>
Me: ....I'm sorry.<br><br>
Sooooo awkward.
 

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LOL<br>
People are weird!<br>
I had a woman -run- past me and rub my stomach and said (while running off) "Boy or Girl?!" - I was so confused I didn't even have words to come out of my mouth. She came back a few minutes later and then asked again. I told her girl and she asked if my husband was mad about it! Ha! I told her no and she said "cause men they only want boys." Overall she was really sweet and not totally intrusive.. it was just bizarre. AND it is my only encounter with anyone so far.. no other belly touching without permission. (knock on wood!)
 

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Yes, why do people feel pg women are community property that can be touched or asked the most insane questions, or rude ones and for some reason they think it's okay?? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I have 3 boys and now we're having a girl. I get so irritated when people say "oh at least it's not another boy." Yes, we're beyond thrilled to have a girl, but if we had 4 boys would it mean we wouldn't love him as much - of course not! And it would be much cheaper since we already have everything boy related! People just don't think and it's irritating. And can I just say if I hear "are you sure there aren't 2 in there" one more time I may hit someone <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"> I'm 5'1 for crying out loud, there's nowhere for her to go but out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Ahhh, feels good to get that out!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm feeling seriously grinchy this time around. I don't even want to have people asking me "How do you feel?" I don't know why but it seems like the implication is that I should be feeling unwell or sick or whatever. It's me though, cause I realized that I just don't want to talk about the pregnancy at all in a superficial way. I don't want to have the inane boy/girl, oh-you-don't-know-what-are-you-hoping-for conversations. I don't want to talk about how tired, hot & cranky I am. I am coping. I will have a baby. I'm hoping baby remains healthy and I can stay hydrated enough and that I can make it to term. And then I feel badly cause, like you said, they're just trying to be positive and friendly and I'm the one with a chip on her shoulder!</div>
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Your comment enlightened me... I wasn't sure why I was reacting the way I was. I generally don't enjoy casual conversations with strangers, the superficialness and how-do-you-do's is a struggle for me. So, I should've realized that would carry over into my pregnancy. I too get annoyed with superficial pregnancy talk and I then become annoyed with myself for being annoyed because people are just being nice and have so far been quite positive with me. I've also noticed that I appear unexcited when they are making inquiries about my pregnancy and so I get asked a lot, "are you excited?"<br>
Yeah, of course I am, I guess I don't show it well enough to strangers!
 

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thenaturefreak -- I have the same attitude with my soon-to-be 3 boys. No, we're likely not done, we'll take 'em one at a time. I got a lot of comments before we knew it was a boy with people encouraging us to finally get the girl. Now I get some sympathetic looks when they hear it's a boy, but I say it in such an excited way that they don't often say they're sorry to hear that anymore.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Agreed, people ARE strange!<br><br><br><br><br><br>
Your comment enlightened me... I wasn't sure why I was reacting the way I was. I generally don't enjoy casual conversations with strangers, the superficialness and how-do-you-do's is a struggle for me. So, I should've realized that would carry over into my pregnancy. I too get annoyed with superficial pregnancy talk and I then become annoyed with myself for being annoyed because people are just being nice and have so far been quite positive with me. I've also noticed that I appear unexcited when they are making inquiries about my pregnancy and so I get asked a lot, "are you excited?"<br>
Yeah, of course I am, I guess I don't show it well enough to strangers!</div>
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Wow, I get exactly like that too. I hate being asked how I am, because people really don't care whether my tailbone hurts but I'm not super-duper-great so I don't want to say that. The whole conversation makes me grouchy and then I feel silly about the grouchiness.
 
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