OK, it was frustrating. But mad and sad -- why? Seems like you might want to expand the vocabulary a bit so you can be more precise. Then you could say/express "I'm frustrated and I need your help!", which seems much closer to the truth. Then have her help fold (or hand things to you, can't tell how old she is) so it gets cleaned up sooner.
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Yes, we do some sign. Not a lot anymore because her vocab has really taken off and she prefers to talk. But I feel like we should start courses so that I can be really fluent and teach her as we go along in life. I worry because she is neither fully deaf nor fully hearing--she's inbetween the two worlds. I just want her to feel comfortable in whichever one she chooses.
I said I was mad and sad because, well...I was. I love the idea of expanding her vocabulary--hadn't thought of that
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Sorry, coming from someone who doesn't know the lengths we've come and the amount of work we do on expanding her vocabulary, that comment really irked me. I appreciate the sentiment. Please know that our entire day is a speech therapy lesson. Even being able for her to understand those words is an amazing thing.
Tonight we were making dinner together and she said, "Mama, you okay? Sad mama?" I said I was okay, just busy making dinner. "Mama, mad violet throw clothes? No, no, Violet. Too Messy." I replied, "Yes, mama was mad. We don't throw clothes on the ground. Mama is all better now. Not mad." She said, "Violet screaming. Violet sorry screaming." I told her I was sorry for yelling, too.
I wanted her to understand that throwing the laundry was not okay. I don't know that I should post stuff here--questions, anyway--because the communication is just so different. I don't know.
Jesse
I said I was mad and sad because, well...I was. I love the idea of expanding her vocabulary--hadn't thought of that
Tonight we were making dinner together and she said, "Mama, you okay? Sad mama?" I said I was okay, just busy making dinner. "Mama, mad violet throw clothes? No, no, Violet. Too Messy." I replied, "Yes, mama was mad. We don't throw clothes on the ground. Mama is all better now. Not mad." She said, "Violet screaming. Violet sorry screaming." I told her I was sorry for yelling, too.
I wanted her to understand that throwing the laundry was not okay. I don't know that I should post stuff here--questions, anyway--because the communication is just so different. I don't know.
Jesse
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My ds, too, seems tremendously sensitive to the ideas of "mad" and "sad." It's like he takes very personally whatever we say in those terms, and he becomes consumed with his own sadness as a result. When I say "I'm/Daddy's sad because XXX," I don't want him to feel bad, I just want him to know that it isn't okay to do XXX and when he does do XXX, mad/sadness on our part is the result. However, it doesn't seem to be working lately...he just internalizes some bad feeling. Anway, I'm talking in circles here.
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What I've found abates that somewhat is to hold him on my lap and tell him why I'm sad/mad/whatever. That physical touch goes a long way in telling him I still love him, he's not bad, etc. while giving me a chance to express that it's his action that's not okay.
Anyway, HTH.
And congratulations on the strides you've made in improving communication with your dd.
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I have friends who are speech/language pathologists for very young children, and a friend whose son has had some speech difficulties, so have an idea of the challenges you face daily.
jess
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My ds, too, seems tremendously sensitive to the ideas of "mad" and "sad." It's like he takes very personally whatever we say in those terms, and he becomes consumed with his own sadness as a result. When I say "I'm/Daddy's sad because XXX," I don't want him to feel bad, I just want him to know that it isn't okay to do XXX and when he does do XXX, mad/sadness on our part is the result. However, it doesn't seem to be working lately...he just internalizes some bad feeling. Anway, I'm talking in circles here.
What I've found abates that somewhat is to hold him on my lap and tell him why I'm sad/mad/whatever. That physical touch goes a long way in telling him I still love him, he's not bad, etc. while giving me a chance to express that it's his action that's not okay.
Anyway, HTH.
And congratulations on the strides you've made in improving communication with your dd.
jess
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Sorry if I offended. You have a situation which I probably don't understand and I probably assumed too much.
Originally Posted by indiegirl I said I was mad and sad because, well...I was. I love the idea of expanding her vocabulary--hadn't thought of that
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