Well, the title says it all. My kids have an invisible Grandma. They have other grandparents, and even two surviving great grandparents. But MIL is currently invisible, and decided almost two years ago to basically disappear from our lives. No explanation, just came to visit one time a few years ago when our daughter was a few months old and never made plans to come back. Over the past six months, she stopped calling like she used to or sending emails. She used to send packages to the kids, used to say how much she wished she could see them and how much she wanted them to "know her", but the packages stopped too. DH finally opened up about the situation when he talked to her a few weeks ago to ask if she was ever coming to see her grandchildren again. He told her when his vacation time was this summer and that that would be a good time to come and visit. She has the summers off, but had already planned a vacation out of the country with one of her friends. DH doesn't like to complain or even discuss this much, but a pattern keeps displaying itself. I'm really hurt because I hardly know the woman-she's never given me the chance! And regardless of what she thinks about me or our family I would hope she would want to know her grandchildren. DH is furious because he says given the chance, MIL will always prefer to spend time with her rich friends and go shopping and basically indulge in "frivolous" things. He says she's always been like this and she'll never change. I don't know, I guess it is hard to see because I was always close to my grandparents and I regret that my children are not going to have the same experience. I've already accepted that MIL and I will never have any kind of relationship whatsoever-and I am okay with that. But I'm just not okay with her acting like she has no family, acting like we are some kind of drag on her exciting life. It's really insulting, actually.