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That ds was the most orally defensive child she's ever worked with. I'm not exactly sure how I feel about this.<br><br>
On the one hand, oh great, this is going to be really difficult to get him to eat. But mostly I think I feel relieved. It's really not my fault that things are as bad as they are; it's not because I didn't try hard enough. He's improved greatly--he used to gag if you even touched his mouth. Now he gums on pretzel sticks and toys. And honestly, I'm not sure how much any of that has to do with anything I've done. It's going to be a long road, but I feel much less guilty. I think it's going to be much like everything else he's done, on his own terms. But what we can do to help facilitate I don't know.
 

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It is nice to know it's not your fault! Seriously that makes a huge difference...<br><br>
Here's some strength for the long road, mama.
 

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Sometimes it's so hard to hear the thing we already know is true. Did the OT give some suggestions to begin working with him? It can be a slow road, but I will tell you that at a year old, dd wouldn't let anyone put anything even NEAR her mouth, or even her face. With some help from a good OT and Speech person, she made great gains. She's six now and has been eating like a horse for a few years now! She's still somewhat picky, but she can scarf down a couple of big 'ol bowls of macaroni and cheese in no time flat!
 

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Gabe's ST explained it that oral defensiveness is a defensive mechanism. His body believes that certain things will make him ill and that is why he gags so badly. It is most definitely not your fault, and it sounds like with time it will resolve on it's own.<br><br>
Namaste,<br><br>
Michelle
 

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"It is nice to know it's not your fault! Seriously that makes a huge difference..."<br>
amen!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> BTDT. My ds's OT said those exact words too. He's been presented at OT conference twice as a case study because he was so frigging defensive when we first started.<br><br>
I was, quite frankly, relieved. It meant I wasn't crazy OR a hovering/bad mom.
 

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I know what you mean about feeling relieved. When my ds failed the swallow study so badly, I was relieved cause there was no middle ground, and I wasn't crazy. Although to put it that way does sound a bit crazy, but really I was relieved that there was not grey area, and I didn't have to choose one way over another. for once the choice was made for me, and there was no way I could blame myself.
 
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