Why do I love dh? Well...I was at the tail end of a hellish few years when I met him - horribly stressful job, emotionally abusive marriage, near-poverty (inflicted by my ex's addictions), very poor physical health (three m/c, severe depression, several bouts of bronchitis, etc.)...I was in rough shape, and had almost forgotten how to have fun. I never went anywhere, except a few little trips with my son and my nephew (eg. picnics at the local stream). My ex and I hadn't done anything together in a few years. Anyway...
DH has made me smile at least once every single day since I first started talking to him online. It's never matter how bad my dad is - when I was told my OB would drop me if I didn't give up on my VBA2C...at 41w, 5d...dh actually made me smile. That's enough to love him right there!
DH was willing to give up a good job, his family and his friends to move 3000 miles to live with me and ds1. He did that because I didn't want to uproot my son after a miserable divorce, and he agreed that it wouldn't be in my son's best interests, so he just left home and moved to another country (Canada from the US is a bigger shift than some people realize).
He didn't have any real preference about whether I stayed home or went to work, as he can see pluses to both. But, I'd always wanted to be a SAHM, and was unable to with ds1. So, dh left the choice up to me, and never has a bad thing to say about the effect on our finances. Likewise, if I decided to go back to school, get a job or whatever, he'd be behind me 100%
He's treated ds1 as his own from the get go. He makes every possible effort to do the best thing for him, including giving up on the creature comforts so ds1 can have a few of the "bells and whistles" (eg. Scouts and Tae Kwon Do). DH even volunteered as a Cub Scout leader for ds1's Pack when dh had only lived here three months! (DH is younger than I am...for ds1 to be his son, he'd had to have had him when he was only 17.)
He's completely supportive of b/f and cosleeping, even though he had no preference before dd was born. He's not always fond of having a baby in the bed when he'd like to snuggle, but he's willing to go along with it.
He's a wonderful, wonderful dad. He's always willing to take dd out - whether he's running errands or thinks she needs to go to the park. He'll sit with ds2 on his lap and snuggle with him, and only mildlly complains about the spit-up (ds2 is a champion). He'll get mushy about the 3-month-old smiles and lights up over all of dd's little accomplishments. He's just such a loving dad...and stepdad.
He never, ever, ever thinks or suggests that I have it easy being a SAHM. He knows it's a lot of work, and never fails to let me know that he appreciates it. He also feels that the housework is his job, as well as mine. I do more of the day-to-day stuff, because I'm here. But, he says my job is looking after the children, which includes the "fun stuff"...time at the park, birthday (or Halloween) parties, Christmas events, etc., etc. So, if the vacuuming isn't done, or supper is late, I don't hear a word...in fact, he'll cook if it looks as though I'm not going to be able to get it done by a reasonable time.
He encourages me to do things that are good for me. He wants me to get exercise, not because he doesn't find my fat body attractive (he does - men are weird), but because he knows I'm happier when I'm more active. He goes hiking with me, and doesn't mind that I slow him down. He supported me totally in finally getting my driver's license in June - two weeks after my 37th birthday. He's just always there to give me a shoulder to cry on, a hug or push...whatever's needed.
I could go on and on and on and on...in fact, I think I already have!
DH just absolutely rules...and he's one sexy hunk of man, imo!
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