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I'm feeling the need for a like minded mamas thread. Anyone care to join me? I'm not interested in night weaning my DC, moving them out of the bed, etc... I let them do everything at their pace, whenever that may be. Which is where the need for a support thread comes in. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><br>
DD2 is only 13m old, the frequent night waking doesn't bother me, but what is getting to me is the fact she can't sleep on her own. I'm not expecting it for a while, DD1 wasn't able to until she was 2y, but I can vent about it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"> She will sleep every now and then in the car, other then that she is only ever sleeping on top of me. Most of the time I'm fine with it, but it would be so nice just to have a nap here and there where I can spend some quality time with DD1 or *gasp* blissfully alone with no children. Or to carry on a conservation at night with DH above a whisper so we won't wake up sleeping baby on my lap.<br><br><br>
On the plus side, DD1 who will be 5y next month, has very recently decided to put herself to bed every night in her own room. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: That feels strange, the child who nursed to sleep 100% of the time until she was 3y, is over snuggling and needing a parent at night time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/huh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="huh">
 

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I'll join in! Dd wouldn't sleep without me forever.... and she still RARELY goes to bed before we do.<br><br>
It will happen when it happens.... sigh... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'll join in! Dd wouldn't sleep without me forever.... and she still RARELY goes to bed before we do.<br><br>
It will happen when it happens.... sigh... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
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Oh yes... I remember that very well. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: DD1 just stopped doing that.
 

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this is going to be a cool therad. i can see this STTN and nightweaning threads all over the place...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Welcome.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="welcome">e cosleep with both kids (28 mo and 8 mo) and not planning on nightweaning or separating them from us in the near future... only when they are ready.<br>
i know it is not working for everybody but works for us.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb"> I have to say, in our house, my 5 yr. old and my just turned 2 yr. old both sleep with us. I think it has to do with my husband being military and is out to sea right now. I just got an email from him and he asked me if we could all sleep in the same bed when he got home too. I guess he was thinking that him and I would have some nookey?? As if at 35 weeks pregnant that is what I'm thinking about!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I just have to remind myself that at some point, my 5yr. old will want to sleep in his own bed again. He did fine in his bed until he started Kindergarten this year. But I am talking to hubby about homeschooling him after the holidays. But am waiting for him to get back so we can discuss it face to face.<br><br>
It will happen. They are not going to want to sleep with us when they are teenagers, right?!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I am joining! DD is going to sleep with us until she's ready for her own bed, besides I love snuggling with her all night! If I had to give that up and put her in her own bed I'd be as sad as she would!!!
 

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my ds 16 months. I cannot imagine sleeping without him. At first, when I brought him into our bed at 4 months old, dh was saying, "He'll be out of our bed by the time he is 6 months old!" Now he is saying he can stay until he is 3 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> We love snuggling all together and is there anything better than those good morning snuggles? I also would hate to miss the sleep talking and signing.
 

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I'm in! I love sleeping with my baby as much as he loves being near me. Initially, my dh was very nervous, not only about the safety of our baby sleeping with us, but also about how long it would take for him to learn to sleep in his own bed. This only lasted until the first night my ds was rolling around and grunting unable to get comfortable, unable to fall asleep. He rolled all the way over to my husband, grabbed firmly onto his noise, sighed and fell asleep. My husband was so touched, he sat perfectly still (and breathed out his mouth) for much of the night and now he LOVES co-sleeping with our son. When he decides to sleep in his own bed, I will definitely miss hearing his baby snores in the middle of the night and his lazy smile first thing in the morning.<br><br>
I think that the concept of "they'll do it in their own time" should translate to many areas of babydom in addition to co-sleeping.
 

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We're here!<br><br>
We have the kids seperated, but still with a parent. But only because James *DOES* STTN (he'll be 3 in Jan) and Aldria doesn't (duh) and she keeps him up. James was grumpy and tired so we made the decision for Aldria and I to sleep in one room, with James and Daddy in another...for James' sake.<br><br>
We're not planning on having James sleep alone antime soon. We own a toddler bed, but right now it's a 'laundy catcher'. We own a pack & play but it's a changing table and holds the diapers and infant carseat. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
James started STTN on his own at around 2 years, shortly after I found out I was pregnant and then he weaned completly shortly ater that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I can't imagine sleeping without my kids, I love to snuggle them.
 

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I think I could use some support <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
DD still sleeps with us 100% of the time. I absolutely love it! We also have a toddler bed. She enjoys playing on it during the day <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
DD still nurses a few times at night, too. Sometimes that is frustrating, but I'm not really interested in night weaning - especially since she doesn't nurse during the day. Guess I'll just keep chugging along <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I'm in too! DS just turned 1 today (ack!!!), but I'm getting all kinds of flack from people IRL to get him off bottles at night (he is FF due to an unsuccessful attempt at BFAR) and into his own bed.<br><br>
No way no how!<br><br>
I love sleeping with him (most nights <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) It's so much more convenient having him right in bed with us. He generally wakes 3 times a night... there's just no way I'd be able to function if I actually had to get out of bed every single time. And he's not ready to nightwean in any way, shape or form. I'd secretly love it if he decided he was done with nighttime bottlenursing, but that's definitely not in the cards right now, and I know it.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><b>Peony</b> for the current full-body-contact sleeping of DD2. That's really got to be tough sometimes!
 

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YAY!!! There have been so many nightweaning threads; I'm so happy to see this one.<br>
My daughter is 2 and nurses about 3 times per night. Generally it's fine but I'm a single, full-time student and it can be really exhausting some nights when I'm only getting a few short hours of sleep as it is, or when she decides to nurse for an hour in the middle of the night when I'm trying to finish a research paper or something. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/duh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="duh"><br>
I haven't even gotten my daughter a bed or anything; I know she's nowhere near ready...and I'm certainly not ready either. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Mind if I join? I don't really *fit* thought since we just nightweaned, but NOT so DD would STTN (even when she'd nurse constantly all night long, I never wanted her to completely stop nursing at night...it just kinda weirded me out...but a few less would have been nice at times <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )...just because it's SOOOO uncomfortable now that I'm pg. (we made previous attempts to nightwean her but after both of those I realized I wanted it to be on her own time, but I didn't realize I'd experience so much discomfort right from the start of being pg). But I can't imagine not sleeping with her. She'll be in our bed until she decides to head on out. We have the toddler bed sidecarred just for extra room (*I* sleep there mostly <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) but even when she's sleeping in that it'll still be attached to ours. The sleeping thing is definitely one that I have to defend a lot, but I figure she's still a BABY! People are always complaining about how fast kids grow up yet they MAKE them grow up in so many ways...and plus, I think accomodating to babies who are more comfortable in bed with mommy and daddy is just a part of parenting and people should be willing to do it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We did this for the past year. DD2 was on O2 for six months so we had to break off into two separate beds to make co-sleeping work with all the tubing. Then when we moved last spring, DH and DD1 moved to a separate room so I could to sleep in the am with DD2, plus DD1 has enlarged tonsils and snores like a banshee now. DD1 is now in her room, but I'm not comfortable with her sleeping downstairs by herself, so it looks like DH will be downstairs for some time to come.<br><br><br><br>
Last night was the most miserable night I've had in a very long time. DD2 has been working on a tooth for weeks, so I'm running on empty anyway, we went to bed at 10pm. I finally got up to see what time it was at 12pm (I learned years ago to turn the clock away from the bed so I can't watch it at night), because I was so sure it was close to morning, that's how many times DD2 had woken up. I about cried when I saw what time it was. I don't even think I really slept until 3am, it was more of me just getting into a light sleep cycle and then DD2 fussing, clawing at me, etc... and waking me up. I have a R shoulder injury that is still healing, nursing on that side is not comfy, sleeping is a PIA, I have to be just right for my shoulder not to ache, and of course guess what side DD2 wanted to be plastered to. Finally slept from 3-6 until DD1 woke up bright eyed, DH is away on a business trip, usually he gets the am shift with DD1 until 7:45 when he has to leave for work.<br><br>
Anyway, I was getting so peeved at DD2 last night, I have rarely gotten frustrated with her at night, but she was clawing at me all night, not wanting to nurse, just like if she could crawl inside my skin then she would. So tonight I'm getting a sore throat and I think that's why she was so miserable last night. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I'm sitting here crossing my fingers that DH's plane will be able to make it tonight, it's been raining/snowing for almost 24 hours now, cause I want to sleep in tomorrow! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biggrinbounce.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bgbounce">
 

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I'd like to join too. DD sleeps with us and we love it. She is still doing lots of her naps attached to me (ironically she is sleeping independently now (I'm not ready for bed yet) on a blanket right next to me but that doesn't happen often.<br>
Thanks!<br>
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Yes, count us in too. Ds is 20 months old, he nurses to sleep every night, and I can't imagine him not sleeping in our bed - or at the very least, sleeping in our bedroom. It's really not an issue - as long as we don't mind sleeping horizontally on the bed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
As for nightweaning, during hard times, I would think to myself - "I can nightwean him if I *really* need to when he's 18 months"... then I kept shifting the benchmark... now, I don't think I'll bother at all - UNLESS I become pregnant (not planned at the moment anyhow) and I find it unbearable.<br><br>
I can see that he is growing up in many other ways, the sleeping and nightnursing will change at some point. Of course, during the tough times, it is reassuring to read of other children who have matured and need less help at night-time - like the OP's older daughter.<br><br>
Thanks for the thread Peony.
 

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I'd like to join. DH and I co-sleep with b/g 6 month old twins, who nurse throughout the night. We started out with a co-sleeper but now we're all in bed together. The babies take turns nursing basically all night, and maybe I'm in denial, but I feel like it's working out great. Every once in awhile I try to imagine them sleeping in a different room and I can't, I would be a nervous wreck and would miss them.<br><br>
We're actually going to begin building a house in the spring and the plans include a little space for the twins once they decide to sleep in their own bed, right off of our room. I think it will probably be easier for them to move out of the family bed then it will be for me.<br><br>
Also, knowing these are going to be our only children allows me to have a little perspective on the things that tend to be draining. I will only breastfeed for 2-3 years of my life. The family bed may last 5 years. Looking at the big picture makes it all seem so fleeting and makes me a little sad knowing they'll outgrow so many things before I'm ready.<br><br>
Thanks for starting this thread, it puts into perspective once again how precious this time in my life is and how fortunate I am!
 

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My son is 6 months old, and I guess I just don't see the need to force him to do anything right now. We are ALL happy with the situation, so to me it's a no-brainer. He's starting to get really big, though, so I might do a side-car crib sometime in the next few months... then again, he's gonna start teething soon, so maybe I won't.<br><br>
But yeah. Sometimes I'm tired of nursing him at night, but it's not that he's "only" comfort nursing -- he hardly eats during the day 'cause the world is just TOO COOL for a six month old.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">As for nightweaning, during hard times, I would think to myself - "I can nightwean him if I *really* need to when he's 18 months"... then I kept shifting the benchmark... now, I don't think I'll bother at all - UNLESS I become pregnant (not planned at the moment anyhow) and I find it unbearable.</div>
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Yes, this was the main reason that we nightweaned (STTN was just a bonus that may have occurred anyway). It was becoming unbearable and I had to set some limits in order to continue nursing while preggo.<br><br>
But, he (2) and ds#2 (4) are likely to be in the family bed a very long time. Ds#1 just decided this week, at the age of 7, that he's ready to sleep in his own room. He was/is our super high needs, super "clingy" (I *hate* that word!!) kiddo, and I really thought it was possible that he would be sleeping in our room until the teens. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Anyway, I'm glad that we didn't push him out before he was ready. Knowing that it's his choice, made without coercion because he's ready for more space, is golden (and bittersweet!).
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">But yeah. Sometimes I'm tired of nursing him at night, but it's not that he's "only" comfort nursing -- he hardly eats during the day 'cause the world is just TOO COOL for a six month old.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: I think that night nursing can be such an important part of a babe's life, particularly between the ages of 6mo-15mo (and all of mine nn for at least the first 18 months) -- just when it can become the most trying for mom, of course! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> They're going through so many developmental stages so quickly, exploring their world almost non-stop during the day, and teething, etc, that they need a little help unwinding and connecting at night, not to mention refueling their calorie depleted bodies.
 
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