[sunshynbaby]

I thought I would start a thread to share/vent about the funny and annoying things acquaintances and strangers say regarding your pregnancy. If it doesn't take off, at least I will have vented about a little comment this morning:

"Look at you, you're just getting bigger and bigger!"

Ummm, thanks? This comment was innocent enough, but annoyed me just the same. It was from a coworker in another department who I rarely see. She said it with so much enthusiasm! I know there will be more comments like this one (and worse than this). I just don't know how to respond.

 

[GhostRose]

I made a comment on my FaceBook that I would either need longer arms or a hole in my cube desk for my belly soon, and a friend responded "Are you having an elephant???". I found this slightly amusing, but slightly more annoying. Do I need to be elephant size to need more space? :-\

 

[tankgirl136]

I have to say so far I have been ok with most of the comments, though the attention is a bit much for me. But I think what I hate the most is people telling me what I should and should not do. That is so strange!!! I never told a pregnant woman in my life not to eat or do something so the idea that some one thinks its ok is so weird to me. It's like telling a fat person they shouldn't eat a Twinkie, you just shouldn't do it!!!!

That and I am not cool with people touching me!!!! Thank goodness its people I know and I know they mean well but I have always carried weight in my stomach so early on the "pouch" they were touching was the fat I have always hated not baby. If a stranger trys to touch me they will be VERY sorry!!!

Pregnancy makes people WEIRD, and its rarely the pregnant woman being the weird one.

 

[minimunklemama]

someone said to me when I was six or seven weeks."oh you are definately having a girl.You have it all in your backside!!
gee thanks.BTW I hadn't gained an ounce at that point!!!

 

[sunshynbaby]

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Originally Posted by minimunklemama someone said to me when I was six or seven weeks."oh you are definately having a girl.You have it all in your backside!! gee thanks.BTW I hadn't gained an ounce at that point!!!

That's awful! They could have said the same to me, lol

 

[tankgirl136]

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Originally Posted by minimunklemama someone said to me when I was six or seven weeks."oh you are definately having a girl.You have it all in your backside!! gee thanks.BTW I hadn't gained an ounce at that point!!!

I would have punched them in the nose!!

That is terrible!!

I have to say I also wanted to punch MIL in the nose for her comment on the phone to DH. When he told her I was planning on having a natural delivery at a Birth Center, she told him I would be fine since I have "big birthing hips". Its a good thing she is mostly nice and lives on the other side of the country since this made me mad!! Dh stood up for me though.

 

[slimkins]

I was at a PHO vietnamese restaurant over the weekend for a friend's birthday. Well, apparently my husband and a girlfriend of mine decided to ask the waitress if they could do the PHO with pork instead of the raw steak because I am pregnant and can't have raw meat. Mind you, the PHO is so hot and the steak is sliced so thin that it cooks in like 10 seconds of dropping it into the soup. Normally, I get the pork at other places and my husband might have been using my pregnancy as an excuse since they didn't offer it at this restaurant, but either way do not involve yourself in my food selection. No matter what your intension is... don't mess with my food!

 

[texaspeach]

the only person that has said anything to me is dh.. and he told me my belly is huge

I have to admit, coming from him it's the most loving thing since I just started to show.. the acknowledgment of the changes is kind of nice. Later on though, he'd better keep comments like that to himself!

I'm just waiting for random people to start commenting. I've decided that if someone asks if it's twins I"m going to tell them it's quads and watch their eyes fall out

 

[Flower of Bliss]

A nanny at the park today asked me if I was having a girl or boy (I already have a 2.5 yo DD). I replied "a girl" and she said "Oh, that's ok"

Actually, we're thrilled we're having a girl.

My grandmother's caretaker patted my belly (at 7 weeks, so mostly just fat left over from my first pregnancy

and said "I'll pray you're having a boy"

Honestly, we were hoping for a girl, and what on earth made her think that whole exchange would be appreciated anyway.

At 14 or so weeks when I was still dealing with nausea, I was highly annoyed by the random people who kept telling me that the nausea "should" be gone by now. Thanks, apparently my stomach didn't get that memo.

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And, my favorite one, that there's an ongoing thread about right now, is the woman at church last weekend who wanted to know "Did it take a lot of work?"

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[sunshynbaby]

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Originally Posted by Flower of Bliss At 14 or so weeks when I was still dealing with nausea, I was highly annoyed by the random people who kept telling me that the nausea "should" be gone by now. Thanks, apparently my stomach didn't get that memo. :

My OB keeps telling me that I'm in the "honeymoon phase" during the second trimester so I'd better enjoy it. I don't feel like I'm honeymooning, with all of the my aches, pains, and other health issues (like the sinus headache that I can't shake).

 

[chi_mama]

during my 1st pregnancy the mid-wife tod me mid-vaginal exam... wow, you've got room to deliver a 9 or 10 pouder!
um, thanks?

 

[vegasgrl]

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Originally Posted by tankgirl136 I have to say so far I have been ok with most of the comments, though the attention is a bit much for me. But I think what I hate the most is people telling me what I should and should not do. That is so strange!!! I never told a pregnant woman in my life not to eat or do something so the idea that some one thinks its ok is so weird to me. It's like telling a fat person they shouldn't eat a Twinkie, you just shouldn't do it!!!!

I'm hopping in from November to wholeheartedly agree with this. I just spouted off to my aunt for an hour about people telling me what to do, what to eat, WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My secretary came in today and said "You shouldn't be eating those!" - about GRAHAM CRACKERS.

I finally made a big speech about people telling me what to do - if I had known they were going to be like this, I wouldn't have told them until MUCH further down the line!

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That and I am not cool with people touching me!!!! Thank goodness its people I know and I know they mean well but I have always carried weight in my stomach so early on the "pouch" they were touching was the fat I have always hated not baby. If a stranger trys to touch me they will be VERY sorry!!!

Honestly, I am SO not down with people violating my personal space like this; I feel sorry for the first person who touches my belly at work. I, too, carry all my weight in my belly, and I am NOT down with pretty much ANYone touching me there. This should be an interesting next 7 months.

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Pregnancy makes people WEIRD, and its rarely the pregnant woman being the weird one.

Just a huge amen to this; it's like you read my thoughts today.

 

[stardust swallower]

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Originally Posted by chi_mama during my 1st pregnancy the mid-wife tod me mid-vaginal exam... wow, you've got room to deliver a 9 or 10 pouder! um, thanks?

I got this same comment! I agree -- a little weird, but also weirdly reassuring.

 

[Flower of Bliss]

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Originally Posted by chi_mama during my 1st pregnancy the mid-wife tod me mid-vaginal exam... wow, you've got room to deliver a 9 or 10 pouder! um, thanks?

Yeah, I'm not sure I'd appreciate that comment either. Though then again I get the opposite "You're so small you'll need a c-section" sort of comments

 

[famille_huggins]

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Originally Posted by minimunklemama someone said to me when I was six or seven weeks."oh you are definately having a girl.You have it all in your backside!!

This explains a lot about my pregnant body! I actually told my husband a few weeks ago that my butt was more pregnant than my belly, and that's still the case! We are having a girl, btw, so maybe there's something to the wives tale.

 

[thepoet]

me: I'm having a home birth.
them: *that look* well...aren't you brave. I could NEVER do that.

BRAVE? Brave? I think people are brave to have babies in hospitals.

And I swear to god if the people at the clinic keep treating me like I don't know what I'm doing, I'm going to start swingin'. Hello. I've done this before. I'm not a first timer.

 

[Spring Sun]

I am on the other side of the fence then you guys. I don't get offended at all by comments about me getting bigger and bigger-I am a big, beautiful woman growing a human being in my belly-why would I mind when people see me and are excited that I am so much bigger than the last time I see them? I soak it up.

I love it when people touch my belly. Only once has it given me a weird feeling, and the woman was drunk, so it was just a boundry issue. Maybe it is bc I am in Boulder, and there really is a lot of good energy here?

Last time, at my 25 bday party, we were outside, and I was this pregnant (about 20 weeks), and I sat on a bench and it just complelty broke and I fell to the ground. After my dh saw I was completely fine, he said "Ha, ha, its bc your so fat!" in front of everyone. I still tease him about saying that, but I really am just plain happy I am so fat, bc it means my body can do the single most miraculous thing a human being can do.

And my hips have always been baby-making hips(huge!). And when I see that a friend has big hips I will tell her so- I honestly think it is a great compliment.

I guess I don't equate "big" with "bad," That is more of a culteral thing here in the US, I think.

 

[Raene]

I hate the...

"Ohhhh!!! You're SOOOO tiny aren't you?"

Ugh.

 

[Spring Sun]

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Originally Posted by Raene I hate the... "Ohhhh!!! You're SOOOO tiny aren't you?" Ugh.

Yeah, I don't like it either when people say it hardly looks like I have gained much weight (I have gained 25lbs!). But, I think now I am really looking pregnant, so now one has been saying that the last few weeks.

 

[Mom&BabyChiro]

I think i have to agree with Spring Sun on this one! Sure, some of the comments I get are a bit strange. But I am so fascinated by the whole process of pregnancy and birth that I guess I understand why others like to ask about it so much! If they've gone through it themselves, they typically have specific questions and or advice...which I typically view as them "just trying to help out another fellow woman". If it's someone who has never been pregnant, I think often it's hard to understand at all what it would be like, so people are just inclined to ask lots of questions (that might not make sense at all to those of us going through it ourselves!).

I also for the most part enjoy it when people feel my belly and connect with my baby. But for the most part, I surround myself with good people with good energy and good intentions, so maybe that has something to do with it? And the fact that I just LOVE touching people and being touched. I think there is something so important, so nurturing, and so connecting about human beings touching each other. And that it just doesn't happen nearly often enough in our society where we are taught to create "boundaries" and "personal space". I guess that's one of the reasons I became a chiropractor - I get to touch and connect with people every single day!

So I understand I'm a bit unique in how I view things, but I love that people are excited and want to share their knowledge with me and/or ask me about the experience I'm having with pregnancy. I don't even mind all the people who keep asking if I'm sure it's not twins! Although it does make me wonder... But the other half tell me I'm tiny for being 5 months along, and my midwife says growth is right on schedule. I think mostly it depends on what I'm wearing .