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where we are at our lowest ever. I will soon be out of work indefinitely, and we just can't make it without my income. DH has been hounding me to look for more work (I currently WAH assembling pieces for DH's work; they are cutting production way back, and so I won't have work to do) to do at home, but yeah, that's not going to happen. He seems to think there are just TONS of legitimate jobs to do at home, and I disagree, saying if they were so great & for real, a LOT more people would be doing them! He calls from work EVERYDAY, asking if I've checked into any of them. I usually don't have time, but I try to do some searches, just to see what comes up.<br><br>
You might remember a post of mine awhile ago about <a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=859474" target="_blank">DH & "living like a welfare case"</a>. Well, nothing has changed. He still feels entitled to whatever he feels like, we're still struggling, and I don't know what to do anymore. Our house is still on the market, with only a couple of inquiries, nothing promising yet. Our credit is just about maxed out, we can't make the minimum payments, and I'm terrified that we will lose our home. I guess he doesn't think about how THAT will look to his friends & such, instead of wanting the latest gadgets and crap.<br><br>
He got his boat though (free from his friend, but FREE, that's all I cared about!!), so that's one less monthly payment we need to make. We're a month behind on our mortgage, medical bills are piling up, with no relief in sight.<br><br>
I honestly don't know what to do at this point. I told DH that the credit cards WILL be shredded and we will NEVER open anymore. He's sort of getting the hint about what trouble we are in, but he must be in denial, because he doesn't do anything about it except bug me about finding work. HE could get a second job if it came to it, but he's just too lazy to do it.
 

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All I can say is <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">. I am sort of in the same boat I run a daycare and I'm down to 1 family and I'm dying and no calls for over 4 months due to money.
 

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I'm sorry Tina! Thank you for the hug, here's one for you too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> .
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> hang in there!
 

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dude, you have SIX KIDS!!! how the h*** does he expect you to work from home? i have only two and i can barely find the time to brush my teeth. he needs to grow up, already.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
And yeahthat about the six kids plus work at home thing. I WAH with one and I have childcare PT.
 

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I am so sorry you are going through this<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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Make sure you close the cc accounts and not just shred the cards.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm sorry things are so rough right now. My dh used to be like that too, with the sense of entitlement. His was because he grew up pretty poor, so once he was grown and working he seemed to feel like the universe owed him something. Fortunately, he's finally come around, I hope your dh does too! I can't imagine how hard you must be working raising a houseful of kids, and working from home. Have you looked in the WAHM area here on good ol' MDC? You might get some good (and legitimate) ideas there if you want to find something else to do from home. Good luck!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">dude, you have SIX KIDS!!! how the h*** does he expect you to work from home? i have only two and i can barely find the time to brush my teeth. he needs to grow up, already.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:</div>
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I guess he thinks I'm <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/supermod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="supermod"> or something. I don't know what he thinks sometimes <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> .<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Make sure you close the cc accounts and not just shred the cards.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"></div>
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Yes, I will. Thank you!<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm sorry things are so rough right now. My dh used to be like that too, with the sense of entitlement. His was because he grew up pretty poor, so once he was grown and working he seemed to feel like the universe owed him something. Fortunately, he's finally come around, I hope your dh does too! I can't imagine how hard you must be working raising a houseful of kids, and working from home. Have you looked in the WAHM area here on good ol' MDC? You might get some good (and legitimate) ideas there if you want to find something else to do from home. Good luck!</div>
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Thank you! Yes, I just started looking in the WAHM section. I hope to find something that's legit!
 

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Yeah, finding the legit ones is the hard part. I have a couple of interesting links about avoiding work from home scams, I thought you might want to take a look:<br><br><a href="http://www.fraud.org/tips/internet/workathome.htm" target="_blank">Article at fraud.org</a><br><br><a href="http://www.consumerfraudreporting.org/work_from_home_scams.php" target="_blank">Article at Consumer Fraud Reporting</a><br><br>
(If your dh doesn't believe how many of these things are scams, you might try to get him to read these too, they might help him realize how hard it is to find legitimate work from home opportunities.)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">dude, you have SIX KIDS!!! how the h*** does he expect you to work from home? i have only two and i can barely find the time to brush my teeth. he needs to grow up, already.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">:<br><br>
My thoughts exactly! Six kids is <i>more</i> than a full-time job in itself! He wants you to work from home in addition to raising six kids? Get real!!! My heart goes out to you.
 

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I'm sorry mama <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Does your DH ever look at your finances or do you handle them all on your own? My DH likes to think we are loaded so every so often I sit him down and show him our bank account and then show him the stack of bills to be paid - it sets him straight. Maybe he needs to become a lot more involved in the finances if he isn't already.<br><br>
I've looked for legit work from home jobs too and I have yet to find something where you really make any sort of decent income. Mystery shopping and taking survery pay so little that it is rarely worth the effort. You'd be lucky to make $50/month and with gas prices mystery shopping might even cost you. Then there are the pyramid schemes - bleh! My only suggestion is finding something you are already talented at like sewing, knitting, etc and making stuff to sell. That seems to be the only type of WAHM business that does really well and is completely from home.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yeah, finding the legit ones is the hard part. I have a couple of interesting links about avoiding work from home scams, I thought you might want to take a look:<br><br><a href="http://www.fraud.org/tips/internet/workathome.htm" target="_blank">Article at fraud.org</a><br><br><a href="http://www.consumerfraudreporting.org/work_from_home_scams.php" target="_blank">Article at Consumer Fraud Reporting</a><br><br>
(If your dh doesn't believe how many of these things are scams, you might try to get him to read these too, they might help him realize how hard it is to find legitimate work from home opportunities.)</div>
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Thanks!! I will show those to him!<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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My thoughts exactly! Six kids is <i>more</i> than a full-time job in itself! He wants you to work from home in addition to raising six kids? Get real!!! My heart goes out to you.</div>
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Yeah, he does. I think the kids are missing out on a lot sometimes, because I need to set aside a lot of time to work. He doesn't get it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> .<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm sorry mama <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Does your DH ever look at your finances or do you handle them all on your own? My DH likes to think we are loaded so every so often I sit him down and show him our bank account and then show him the stack of bills to be paid - it sets him straight. Maybe he needs to become a lot more involved in the finances if he isn't already.<br><br>
I've looked for legit work from home jobs too and I have yet to find something where you really make any sort of decent income. Mystery shopping and taking survery pay so little that it is rarely worth the effort. You'd be lucky to make $50/month and with gas prices mystery shopping might even cost you. Then there are the pyramid schemes - bleh! My only suggestion is finding something you are already talented at like sewing, knitting, etc and making stuff to sell. That seems to be the only type of WAHM business that does really well and is completely from home.</div>
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I've taken care of them myself, but have done a sucky job. Now that we're behind on things, he's SAID he wants to help out more with them, but so far that's just talk. All he cares about is if there's money when he needs to buy something (usually frivolous too).<br><br>
I CAN sew, and am learning to knit, but it's hard to find the time. I don't want to feel like I can't do anything productive besides taking care of kids & the house.
 

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Would it be possible for you to find a job in the evenings or on the weekends?
 

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It probably wouldn't pay much, but could you involve the kids in some sort of craft that could be sold through etsy or ebay? Like, go to local laundromats, collect the dryer lint, and make paper with flowers or handprints or something in it? The kiddos could help make the paper (fun, easy, basically free, messy craft for all ages) and if it sold then that would be great... and if it didn't at least the kids are occupied and you're not out any money?<br><br>
Hugs mama, I'm so sorry you're in this spot.
 

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Please write to the medical offices you owe medical bills to and ask if they have any charity care available. Most hospitals and such can and will write off part of your bill if you talk to them.<br><br>
((hug))
 

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Wow, I hope you get something figured out!<br><br>
One thing that helps me save money, but not make money, is afullcup.com<br><br>
Its a couponing website and we talk about all the grocery sales.
 

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Mollie,<br>
I remember your original post, I've been thinking about you ALOT. Our home is filled with love and kids and $$ is always tight, even though DH has an excellent career. Somedays i dont have time to pee it seems. There is no way i could WAH and be productive. I still watch a little girl at night 3-4x a week while her mom works. that brings in about $100-150/week. It seems like alot of $$ but its not.<br>
Could you possibly watch 1-2 kids? daycare when you already have kids isnt very difficult IMO. You could make 100-200/week, even have the parents pack the kids lunches and snacks.<br><br>
Have you applied for county/state aid?<br><br>
Is it possible for DS's 14 &13 to pick up some odd jobs for cash. My neighbor pays $5 for dog poop pick up 1x week. I am NOT advocating putting your kids to work but sometimes if they earn $$ for their stuff (toys, movies etc) every little bit helps.
 

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SO sorry! IMO I would be close to kicking your DH out of the checking account ( actually Id be at my parents at this point with 6 kids and a clueless dad). Sounds like he needs a wake up call. Your not his mommy you cant keep him going and doing everything he wants to so while you pay for it....<br><br>
Can you have a garage sale and sell all his old gadgets? I would talk to him vary seriously about this because it can get far worse and your not far away. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 
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