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So i finally called and got an apptointment for my dd. We've been putting off changing Drs (it's such a PITB to do) but finally took the plunge... but now my dd wont get to see her new Dr until October 9th. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: It's been nearly a year since her evaul. done for her for "school" (she currently recieves services through the SD at head start).<br><br>
I'm anxious in waiting, i want answers (don't we all?). I dont care the results - to me - she is perfect as can be no matter if what she is going through is a phase, or something more... but i dont know how much more the sanity of our household can take with her behaviors. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
ETA: i guess i just don't know what to do between now and the time she a) Starts school and b) see's the Dr.
 

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What are your concerns about her? What type of behaviors is she having? Maybe someone here can offer you some insight, helpful tips, a book-to-read, etc.
 

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i'll BBL to add this - unfortunatly DH has company over and time is limited!
 

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Ok - here is a quick run-down of a list of issues we are having with her currently:<br><br>
Behavorial:<br>
can be sweet as can be, but most often will fly into fits of crying and tantrumns over anything... even things she likes if it doesnt go her way. For lack of a word "defienat" and "willful" (though i doubt they are counscience actions most of the time). Most often refuses to come when called by name and we KNOW she CAN hear us. She's impulsive to a point where her safety is often a concern and threatened.<br><br>
Social:<br>
uncomfortable or overly too comfomrotable with people outside immedently family. Usually is uncomfortable around peers, too comfy around adults. Is still engaging in side-by-side playing with peers (when she should be interacting). Looks like she wants to engage - but most often doesnt. Her only playmate at this time is her older sister (they are 4 1/2 years apart in age).<br><br>
Physical:<br>
Is recieveing PT currently for signific delays in ball skills (ok - i admit - we never played "catch", she just turned 4 and feel ok with "catch" now), jumping and landing and safety in doing so... so gorss motor skills (fine motor skills are great).<br><br>
stuff i dont know where to put:<br>
Has had incidents of pica (she ate a bar of deodorant), unless reqested to speak in a "big girl voice" will talk like a "baby" (not gibberish, just a baby voice, simple, single or 2 word sentences). In her evual. in Jan, she is HIGHLY intelligent, esp non-verbal... but she refused and melted down at the verbal testing.<br><br>
Ok - that is all i can think off the top of my head.
 

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We have an appt a week from this Thurs to see a psychologist. Last Fri we went to my county's Pre-K Disabilities Clinic. We were referred for further evaluations. Unfortunately the next appt isn't until Dec 6. I understand the waiting part.<br><br>
Sincerely,<br>
Debra, homeschooling mom of 4 ages 10 1/2 (AS), 9 1/2, 7 1/2, and 4 (Apraxia, Dysarthria, HFA, OCD)
 

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wow... December - that's insane!<br><br>
I talked to dd's SEIT teacher and she recommended a place if i wanted spectrum testing... but the wait to get in is about 4-5 months long. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
And i can understand some wait times (esp if it's a place that's highly recommended, or its the only place around)... but i'm at a loss with what i can do in the mean time to help her.
 

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What you describe is, in some ways, very similar to my dd (also 4), especially the parts about social/peers. Our dd is getting her first ever evaluation by a developmental pediatrician in October. We've had a heck of a time finding a doctor and getting an appointment, and we're in the Chicago area, where I'd have thought there'd be way more places to go.<br><br>
Our dd will be starting in our local public pre-K this fall (she starts next Monday). We're going to meet with her teacher today actually (the teacher meets privately with each child/parent at the school ahead of time). I'm not sure if the school will be "right" for her, but we are going to try and see.<br><br>
I'm sorry you have such a long wait and that you need advice <i>now</i> but can't get it. That is so very frustrating. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Well, some this reminds me of my son (pdd-nos). Particularly the overly and less comfortable, the peers/sibling difference, the melt downs, not coming when called even though she knows (in him basically he doesn't have a real strong desire to please to put it mildly!)<br>
But non-verbal in my son is a mess unlike your daughter--and that goes along with spectrum. Did you mention testing for spectrum conditions? <a href="http://www.childbrain.com/pddassess.html" target="_blank">http://www.childbrain.com/pddassess.html</a> Is a nice tool to tell you whether to be concerned there. I don't know that you should be based on what you wrote but it doesn't hurt to look since you are waiting anyway. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> on that. I'm thinking of getting a book called the Explosive Child <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FExplosive-Child-Understanding-Frustrated-Chronically%2Fdp%2F0060931027" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/Explosive-Chil.../dp/0060931027</a> I've heard good things about it in terms of kids like my son (and it sounds like your daughter is similar in some ways).<br>
A couple of other things too. For my son it is looking like some of those melt downs for seemingly no reason have to do with blood sugar fluctuations so eating very often seems important as does getting enough sleep. I'm trying to figure out a place where he might be able to go and get away from sensory input as that might have something to do with those times too. Pica. For my son pica is very much related to deficiency in either iron or zinc. Maybe have her ferritin checked and see if her diet has enough zinc? If it doesn't have enough zinc, optizinc is a well absorbed form. Ferrous bis-glycinate (ferrochel is one brand) of iron.
 
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