I get it from people that don't know dbf is out of the country...
It helps fuel the baby fever so much that it's nearly unbearable.
It helps fuel the baby fever so much that it's nearly unbearable.
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Aahh... the 'when are you going to have more' question
I've gotten it quite a bit the past few months. It will be DH & I's first together... so I think people see us so happy, see us with the two kiddos that we have, assume we want one of our "own" together, and just think its a good idea. Which is a nice vote of confidence.
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That... added to the fact that I have three PG friends, so when I'm with them, its just figured I want to be next. (Truth is I wanted to be next like 7 or 8 months ago.)
I've told a few people that have asked "the question" that we are trying, but I just seem to be slow about it. Its really a better answer, at this point, than being all secretive and saying "oh, maybe, someday"....
I've gotten it quite a bit the past few months. It will be DH & I's first together... so I think people see us so happy, see us with the two kiddos that we have, assume we want one of our "own" together, and just think its a good idea. Which is a nice vote of confidence.
That... added to the fact that I have three PG friends, so when I'm with them, its just figured I want to be next. (Truth is I wanted to be next like 7 or 8 months ago.)
I've told a few people that have asked "the question" that we are trying, but I just seem to be slow about it. Its really a better answer, at this point, than being all secretive and saying "oh, maybe, someday"....
I used to get that question a lot when my son was younger, but it tapered off with time (and with people who knew my situation as my marriage fell apart and I became a single mom).
I remarried last summer and we have received a few, "Going to add to the family?" questions. We're perfectly non-committal and tell people maybe.
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I remarried last summer and we have received a few, "Going to add to the family?" questions. We're perfectly non-committal and tell people maybe.
this is what I get
"you pregnant?"
um......no. I'll let you know when I am.
NEVER tell people when you're thinking about starting ttc.
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"you pregnant?"
um......no. I'll let you know when I am.
NEVER tell people when you're thinking about starting ttc.
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I made that mistake
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: I hate that question. I also told everyone when I was pg, and had to tell them I wasn't anymore
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Originally Posted by Danielle13 this is what I get "you pregnant?" um......no. I'll let you know when I am. NEVER tell people when you're thinking about starting ttc.
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Ooh, Beloved, that must have been really hard.
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I get this all. the. time.
Mine has a special variation too, lucky me...Its the "Are you gonna try for a girl next?" and then the " When are you gonna have more?" Oh and I love the "Why aren't you knocked up yet?" Gee...I just dont know.
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We will have more whenever it happens, and no, I don't care if it's a girl at ALL.
LOL Sorry, I"m a little bitter about the questions I guess.
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Mine has a special variation too, lucky me...Its the "Are you gonna try for a girl next?" and then the " When are you gonna have more?" Oh and I love the "Why aren't you knocked up yet?" Gee...I just dont know.
LOL Sorry, I"m a little bitter about the questions I guess.
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I never get it. But I am 41 and already have 2. One of each. So everyone just assumes I am done. WHich is equally annoying in a way.
You should have seen people's faces when they found out I am having another one "at my age", LOL!
Originally Posted by soccermama I've been getting that question a lot lately and maybe it has to do with the fact that I know several women that have had babies in the past 6 months. And I just got it again today. Ran in to an old boss of mine who was out picking up baby shower items for a shower that they were having at work.... For those of you that are TTC #2 +, does anyone else get asked this a lot? Sure. We want to have one more. It's been on my mind for quite some time and I've got the 'fever', we've talked about it and we would like to start TTC soon..... Just frustrated, I guess, 'cause for the past few months every time that I've o'ed, something has come up. |
You should have seen people's faces when they found out I am having another one "at my age", LOL!
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Ugh.....I get that, too. "so, will you guys be trying for a girl the next time around". And oh, wouldn't that just make my MIL's day!! I swear, that woman is obessed about having a granddaughter. She thought my H was going to be a girl!!! I guess because she had a boy the first time? I dunno.
Originally Posted by Mountaingirl79 I get this all. the. time. Mine has a special variation too, lucky me...Its the "Are you gonna try for a girl next?" and then the " When are you gonna have more?" Oh and I love the "Why aren't you knocked up yet?" Gee...I just dont know.
LOL Sorry, I"m a little bitter about the questions I guess.
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Originally Posted by veganmama719 You should have seen people's faces when they found out I am having another one "at my age", LOL! |
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Um, try having 4 boys.. people have actually asked me, "did you WANT 4 boys?"
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Originally Posted by soccermama Ugh.....I get that, too. "so, will you guys be trying for a girl the next time around". And oh, wouldn't that just make my MIL's day!! I swear, that woman is obessed about having a granddaughter. She thought my H was going to be a girl!!! I guess because she had a boy the first time? I dunno. |
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Ugh...I got some more of these same questions/comments again this weekend. MIL: "you guys needs to have a girl" - as she staring at a little girl with her easter basket..... Um, excuse me? We "need" to have a girl? Wouldn't you rather say, "if you guys had a girl, you would have one of each - how neat would that be?"
Cousins: "so, when are you guys going to try for more?" Me: "some time soon" - and that was that.
Originally Posted by Pinoikoi Um, try having 4 boys.. people have actually asked me, "did you WANT 4 boys?"
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Cousins: "so, when are you guys going to try for more?" Me: "some time soon" - and that was that.
Everyone mostly MIL assumes we are done because we have a daughter and son
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We've been trying for 18 months, and my close girlfriends know, but that's it. I haven't told my parents, and have them convinced that my son will be an only child, like me. I just figured, I didn't want to tell them, and then have them expecting an announcement every month- I didn't want the pressure if it didn't happen right away. DH thought it was a little cruel not to fill them in, and to play like we're definitely sticking with one, but now that we've been ttc for 18 months, and I've recently been diagnosed with PCOS, I could not be happier to have them in the dark! I feel like they expect nothing, and so if/when I finally get pregnant, it will be a big fat, awesome surprise, and if we do wind up having an only child, they will be none the wiser
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But anyway, I'm rambling a little off topic. I don't get the "when are you going to have another" question too much, but when I do, I tend to be very blunt about not wanting any more, in spite of being so hopeful to get pregnant. I'm not sure what's up with that- probably some sort of defense I put up? But I really don't want to put it out there, saying "yeah, we're trying", and then feeling like people are waiting around for it to happen. I think I put enough pressure on myself!
But anyway, I'm rambling a little off topic. I don't get the "when are you going to have another" question too much, but when I do, I tend to be very blunt about not wanting any more, in spite of being so hopeful to get pregnant. I'm not sure what's up with that- probably some sort of defense I put up? But I really don't want to put it out there, saying "yeah, we're trying", and then feeling like people are waiting around for it to happen. I think I put enough pressure on myself!
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