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Just found this tonight.<br>
To me, it reads like how every parent I know would handle the question, well, except that I would've been more confused by the first question than Ms. Dodd.<br><br>
So, is it an example of unschooling being just parenting like normal or do I just know a lot of repressed unschoolers? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I have conversations similar to that with my children all the time. If that is unschooling, then most parents I know are doing it!<br><br>
I'm pretty much brand new to the unschooling idea, but it seems to me that unschooling is basically just living life, letting it happen, and exploring the world around you to see what it has to offer.<br><br>
I wish I could be a full-time unschooler, but I just can't. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I think the point of this is that when good parenting is happening learning occurs naturally with no need for planned, artificial vocabulary lessons. It isn't that only unschoolers do this its that unschoolers recognize the value in this kind of exchange and don't see the need to set aside specific 'learning' time because they have come to recognize that these conversations are enough.<br><br>
And FWIW not all parents will take the time to have this conversation. My dad would've told me to look it up and completely blown me off.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">And FWIW not all parents will take the time to have this conversation. My dad would've told me to look it up and completely blown me off.</div>
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(And if you were trying to find out about stockings thinking it was spelled stalking, wow would that have been a hard search.)
 

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That's great that all the parents you know would have handled their child's question similarly. We obviously don't know the same people <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I think it's helpful to see how connections are made and how topics can come up naturally just by being interested in your kid. Holly knew she could ask her mom a question and get a helpful answer, not a lesson. I think it's about the relationship between parent and child as much as it's about sharing knowledge. Of course there are kids in school who have this kind of relationship with their parents, but IME it is not necessarily the norm. My mom was/is like that and I went to school, but most other kids I knew didn't have that kind of parent.<br><br>
For many unschoolers, the relationship with the child is the top priority (much more important than having the child read or tie his shoes by a certain age or be ready for drop-off activities or whatever else causes people to think there is something wrong with their child and set about to fix him). This is true for some who aren't unschooling too, no question.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
(And if you were trying to find out about stockings thinking it was spelled stalking, wow would that have been a hard search.)</div>
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thanks for the hug. I do think my dad thought his way was right, he wasn't simply ignoring me he just thought I'd learn more if he always made me look it up when I had a question about spelling or vocabulary. Unfortunately what I learned was not to ask my dad.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">So, is it an example of unschooling being just parenting like normal or do I just know a lot of repressed unschoolers? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"></div>
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Well, first, you know a lot of awesome mamas! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
That whole conversation seems really normal to me. Like, daily normal. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
The essence of unschooling for me, which I think is portrayed in that exchange, is the respect. Sandra showed how a chat with your child can be just normal and flowing and natural. Many parents would have turned it into a 'teaching moment' or (perhaps subtlety) judged themselves and/or the child for not already knowing these things.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><a href="http://sandradodd.com/howto/example" target="_blank">http://sandradodd.com/howto/example</a><br>
Just found this tonight.<br>
To me, it reads like how every parent I know would handle the question, well, except that I would've been more confused by the first question than Ms. Dodd.<br><br>
So, is it an example of unschooling being just parenting like normal or do I just know a lot of repressed unschoolers? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"></div>
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I agree that it is absolutely normal parenting and the vast majority of parents I know would have this sort of converation with their kids. I live around the corner from a school and in the spring/fall hear all sorts of conversations like this through my open windows as kids get walked to or from school. I don't think this sort of conversation is remarkable or attributable to unschooling. It's just how engaged parents interact with their kids.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't think this sort of conversation is remarkable or attributable to unschooling. It's just how engaged parents interact with their kids.</div>
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Yes, and as Joy_Seeker said, it's just an example of how that sort of engagement facilitates natural learning without spelling lists and tests.
 
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