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"They won't be nursing much longer." (from my MIL.)<br><br>
She's been saying things like this since they were 5 months old ("Pretty soon they'll be teething and won't nurse anymore...").<br><br>
I mean, I guess in the sense that the universe is untold billions of years old and the span of babyhood is tiny in that span then, yes, they will be weaning "soon" because 2+ years isn't very long in that context. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Did anyone else get to ignore (or have to engage with) annoying nursing comments over American Thanksgiving?
 

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Well, your MIL certainly is persistent, I'll give her that. I like to think that if I say something enough times it'll magically come true, as well. Ahem: "I wish my toddler didn't have crazy allergies." repeat ad nauseum.<br><br>
My 2yr 7m old yelled in the car "Oh no! I forgot to nurse before we left church. We have to go back and nurse there!" and then she started crying. And then the baby started crying... FIL was driving and said, "you know, maybe when they're old enough to talk about it like that it's time to stop..." and we all (MIL, DH & I) ignored him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> He's a lovely person otherwise, I think he's just grouchy because he recently quit smoking and we were all on the other side of the country stuffed into a mini van together. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
He couldn't have said too much, though, since my SIL is also tandeming her 2yo & newborn (on a related note: GO SIL!!!).
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">...I think he's just grouchy because he recently quit smoking and we were all on the other side of the country stuffed into a mini van together. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
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If that's his grouchy side under those conditions, that man is a saint. Lesser men would have slapped on a nicotine patch, at least.
 

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"When are you going to give that baby real food?" If I had a nickel for every time I heard that... Yes, can't you tell that my 21 pound 6 month old is starving to death. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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"Yeah, they should be done in 10 min. or so." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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"Oh poor thing! She's starving!" ...repeated, oh 500 times or so.... <i>while I was feeding DD</i> sweet potatoes and she was doing her normal happy baby noises. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"><br><br>
I think I lasted 15 minutes at the dinner table before getting so fed up I had to go to another room, taking DD with me.<br><br>
People are always <b><i>so</i></b> eager to tell me why bfing isn't good enough. I nursed DS for 4+ years under this type of sabotage (you know, the passive aggressive kind that if you say anything about, people say "Why are you being so sensitive? I didn't mean anything by it."), so obviously I am not about to let if affect my nursing relationship with DD, but <b><i>MAN IT GETS OLD</i></b>!
 

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MIL:"Boy, I hope you're not one of those that nurse in front of Victoria's Secret."<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:
 

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Thanksgiving for us was no prob but a week or so before that we were with my family and I heard:<br><br>
(After DS pulled down my cami) "Oh, if he is old enough to ask for it he's too old to nurse."<br>
"He's teething? That'll put a stop to nursing."<br>
"How long to you plan to keep nursing? Doesn't it tie you down?"<br><br>
I think my confidence in the rightness of breastfeeding just annoys them.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">MIL:"Boy, I hope you're not one of those that nurse in front of Victoria's Secret."<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:</div>
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OMG I am SOOOOOO GGUNNA DO THAT!<br>
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We saw TONS of family and I only had 1 person say anything to me. It was my SIL who was only able to nurse her 3rd and only nursed him for a few months. She asked the typical "<i>Still</i> nursing?" while I was nursing (uh...duh!) and then asked how long I "planned to keep doing <i>that</i>?". She gave me a <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/sick.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sick"> kinda look when I told her at least 2 years. This is the same SIL who told me I needed to start saving for a boob job because I'll NEED one after kids. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">
 

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ooohhh i have a good one!!<br><br>
When my mom mentioned to my uncle that DD (2.5) is still nursing he said "ewww thats discusting" (not to me, but ofcourse my mom told me about it)<br><br>
Later that day my dad was flying DD into the dogs head to give him a kiss and the dog looked up and bonked heads with her...and she burst out screaming and came running for me. I sat down 3 feet away from my uncle, latched her on, and proclaimed <b>"Its at times like these that makes me so glad i'm still nursing her!"</b> hehehe
 

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My MIL just got these looks on her face when my dh casually mentioned that dd was still nursing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dropjaw"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yikes">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/scared.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="scared"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> She really couldn't think of anything to say besides, "Well, I guess that's good. You know I couldn't nurse at all because it hurt my arm to hold Jimmy. So we had to go to bottle feeding becaus that way I could just prop him up in a seat." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Then she quickly changed the subject.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">She really couldn't think of anything to say besides, "Well, I guess that's good. You know I couldn't nurse at all because it hurt my arm to hold Jimmy. So we had to go to bottle feeding becaus that way I could just prop him up in a seat." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Then she quickly changed the subject.</div>
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And was your reaction to that comment <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dropjaw"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yikes">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/scared.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="scared"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> ???
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">And was your reaction to that comment <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dropjaw"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yikes">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/scared.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="scared"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> ???</div>
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Sadly I already knew that she was one of the most unattatched parents in the world, so I really wasn't surprised.<br><br>
ETA: DH and his mom get along fine now, she just doesn't like babies or small children. Or tree-hugging hippies, which she thinks I am. She'll never forgive me for corrupting her mainstream child. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">nursing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dropjaw"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yikes">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/scared.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="scared"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> She really couldn't think of anything to say besides, "Well, I guess that's good. You know I couldn't nurse at all because it hurt my arm to hold Jimmy. So we had to go to bottle feeding becaus that way I could just prop him up in a seat." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Then she quickly changed the subject.</div>
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In response to this I'd probably have said, "Well, I do have chronic problems with my wrists, so I use a baby sling or a pillow to support DC while nursing and to carry her/him around so my arms and wrists don't get tired or sore."
 

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"oh, your still nursing" didnt bother me.<br><br>
What was sad was my cousin telling me why she stopped nursing her two year old son at the age my ds is (10months) she said she saw thoes ladies at the meetings nursing 3 year olds and just started feeling really gross nursing her son and she feels weird even when he gets close to her breast now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> now he gets sick frequently.
 

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All I got was some exaggerated eye-rolling from my grandmother when she realized I was still (whoa, 6 months) nursing Avery. "How long are you going to do THAT for?"<br><br>
Imagine the look she gave me when I said at least 2 years <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">. And then imagine the look she gave my grandfather when he said, "Gee Lil, how come you didn't nurse our kids?"
 

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My family is just shocked speechless at this point, so I know longer have to deal with the assinine comments. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
The horror!!!! A nursing 2.5 year old! RUUUUN! Run for the hills!!!!
 

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The only comment I got wasn't really a comment I guess. My dh jokingly told my cousin, who's ds is the same age as our dd that we should switch... hehe. I then said, well, I don't think she'll be able to feed her unless she starts lactating all of a sudden.<br><br>
Cuz: "Well, if you're still bfing then NO!"<br>
Her 8 yr ds: "What? Ew!"<br>
Cuz: "Cover your ears."<br>
Me: "It's not gross, it's the way babies are supposed to be fed"<br>
Cuz: "Well, it's the 'natural' way.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">!!! thank god for deceseased mil's and my supportive mother! my mum was happy when i told her i went to the nurse in <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 
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