I think you handled it very, very well. Of course she meant no harm, most people don't. But their comments keep a certain stigma attached to adoption that hopefully you helped to remove a little.
My best and longest friend (friends for 30 years and we're both 43) was adopted at birth. Her parents are long passed away and my husband & I helped her locate her b.mother. She loves my kids and is very supportive of us. The other day we were having a conversation and she was telling me about a conversation she had with her son and him wanting to have kids "of his own" as opposed to adopting. I told her that children who were adopted, are our own. She of course agreed and apologised for her choice of words. She, like your friend, meant no harm but hopefully she'll never refer to it in that way again in another conversation with someone else.
My best and longest friend (friends for 30 years and we're both 43) was adopted at birth. Her parents are long passed away and my husband & I helped her locate her b.mother. She loves my kids and is very supportive of us. The other day we were having a conversation and she was telling me about a conversation she had with her son and him wanting to have kids "of his own" as opposed to adopting. I told her that children who were adopted, are our own. She of course agreed and apologised for her choice of words. She, like your friend, meant no harm but hopefully she'll never refer to it in that way again in another conversation with someone else.
