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I am not sure what to do. DD is 18 months old and a fairly high needs baby. Lately she has been wanting to nurse very frequently during the day - like every hour - and then sometimes will want to nurse again after just 10 minutes (not due to any type of external "trama" like a small fall or minor frustration). Granted, there could be something else going on (teething? learning?). Here is the problem - I am starting to get really tired of the constant need to nurse. Sometimes I just really dont' want to nurse and so, while nursing, am feeling resentful and frustrated with her which doesn't seem to be good for either of us. Oh - and when I am not around, she is totally fine and has no issues at all (i work part time). On days taht I am around, like the weekend, she seems to want to nurse all day long. ugh.<br><br>
So, i have been thinking about trying partially wean but I have no idea how to do that. Do I go to only twice per day so she will understand that we only nurse in the morning and at night? Otherwise, how does she know when it's time to nurse and when it isn't...she can't distinguish between noon and 2:00. Or, maybe I shouldn't wean at all - i don't know.<br><br>
Anyone started down this road? Anyone have any advice?
 

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This was around the age when I started gently introducing some delaying tactics. That was the age when Rain would do 10 different things within a 15 minute period, and nursing was often one of them. I would say things like, "Sure, after I finish my drink" or feed the dog or make the salad... whatever I was doing. If she persisted I'd nurse her, and I started with very small periods of time, but generally she was okay with waiting and sometimes she forgot altogether, which was okay too... but often just having a few minutes of breathing room helped me a lot.<br><br>
I also found that if we were home she nursed more, so if we went to the park or outside she usually wouldn't ask much...<br><br>
And also, for Rain, she started to nurse less often at about 21 months, and by 2 it wasn't a problem anymore... she still nursed, but she didn't want to nurse so frequently anymore.<br><br>
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I started delaying about this age too. Dd is a very dedicated nurser and when she was teething or stuffed up (which as far as I can tell accounted for 23 of her first 24 months of life!), she wanted to nurse A LOT.<br><br>
First it was delaying until 'after I'm done with x" and then it was until 'after lunch' or 'not until naptime'. I don't think that you need to go from on demand to 2x a day quickly, unless you really want to.<br><br>
I saw a real shift in dd's nursing patterns about 26 months (after her molars came in). At that time, it was very easy to get down to morning, afternoon (when I was home) and bedtime (and then the middle of the night). We night weaned her about 3 months ago (though we're still working on that - she has to be reminded that she can't nurse until it's light.<br><br>
I'm getting ready to fully wean her shortly after her 3rd birthday (I'd like to be weaned by summer). She actually did not ask to nurse AT ALL today. Dh put her to bed and she got through the bedtime routine without asking at all about it. So, that's going to be the next one to go. Morning will be last, I think.<br><br>
All of this is a long way of saying, you can take it slowly too.
 

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My daughter is 18 months and also wants to be on the breast all the time. I know how frustrating it is, but it's totally normal for this age and it does get better by ~24 months. I'm still doing totally on-demand nursing, because I know that this won't last forever, and because my daughter is growing and learning so much and I just think how all that extra mama milk is helping her develop--that makes it all worthwhile. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I also found 18 months a pretty difficult stage in nursing. We had a similar sounding pattern of lots and lots of short sessions.<br><br>
I started to ask DD to wait a few moments till I had finished what I was doing before we sat down to nurse. I also made sure that she had easy access to other snacks and drinks.<br><br>
It didn't sem to take too long before she was having fewer but longer nursing sessions which I found much easier to cope with.<br><br>
For us this was also the time when DD was outgrowing some of her baby toys<br>
but was not quite ready for some of the older onres. I think that combination of frustration and bordem was the reason for some of the extra nursing.
 

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I like the idea of a comfort, or transitional, object. Personally, I did not want my chest to be the source of comfort/pacifier any longer... and so, I started giving Eli a very soft blanket/doggy thing he had gotten as a gift, for him to hold while nursing. The idea is that it becomes comforting, as nursing is.<br><br>
I also just want to say that I don't think there is anything abnormal about how you feel at this point about the constant nursing. Some people don't mind - I am not one of them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> And I think 18 mos. is old enough to learn that not every "demand" can be met right this very moment.<br><br>
You decide how many times, or at what times of the day, you are comfortable with and will not be resentful about nursing. Then take a gradual approach to making it to that goal. Don't feel bad - she is very fortunate to have a mama who has nursed this long! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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It seems your daughter may just need YOU and she is turning to you for the comfort she needs. I'm a full believer in nursing on demand until the baby self-weans. I think it's healthier for them and for the mom. However, if you're resenting it, that's a problem that needs to be dealt with.<br><br>
What happens in the future if you start resenting something else she wants? Perhaps trying to sort out all the feelings you both have would help. It doesn't prevent you from using some of the delaying tactics people have previously mentioned, but it may answer some very important questions that will help you during the next decade plus.
 

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I found 18 months to be a hard age for nursing, too. My girls would nurse all the time. But it did get better in a few months and now at 25 months, they only nurse 4 or 5 times a day, typically.
 
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