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We are very relaxed about food in our house, she's welcome to eat anything in the fridge or cabinets. I don't stop her from snacking, we discuss what is healthy and what isn't, and she's got a fairly good grasp on what she should eat to feel her best.<br><br>
My DD is driving me insane! Lately she refuses to eat a meal (even one that she asks for) and then half an hour later she complains that she's soooo hungry. She's 3, just fyi. She will also do the same thing with a snack she asks for, it's not just meals. I can't afford to make 1,000 snacks and meals everyday that are just wasted!!<br><br>
This has to be a phase. Please tell me it's a phase that she'll outgrow!<br><br>
Up until recently, DD has eaten a wide variety of foods including vegetables. There has been no pressure from us for her to eat, no battles over food, no issues from her. All was happy.<br><br>
Until suddenly...<br><br>
For example, tonight for supper we didn't have any plans (DH was going out) so DD requested Annie's mac and cheese shells and a tangerine. I made that. I ate it. She ate a few bites...I asked if she was full. Reminded her that it's ok if that's all she's hungry for, but I'm not going to make another meal in half an hour. Put her leftovers in the fridge in case she decides she is indeed still hungry. Reminded her I put them in the fridge.<br><br>
Half an hour later she's crying that she *has* to have scrambled eggs and waffles! We have two fresh eggs left, for breakfast in the morning. I offer her the remains of her discarded supper instead. She is hysterical, as if I am starving her and torturing her by offering her a meal she originally wanted! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/splat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="splat"><br><br>
I've tried a snack tray for munching but she always wants something else not on the tray and will. not. stop. begging. Wouldn't be a problem except when I give her what she asks for, she won't really eat it.<br><br>
I've tried just making the other meal she wants, but she'll do the same thing--eat a few bites, say she's full, then start complaining she's hungry soon after. I've tried telling her she can eat her leftovers from supper if she wants another meal soon after, and that's it, and just waiting for her to get over it or eat it if she's that hungry, but still day after day we go through the same thing. Constantly.<br><br>
Nothing satisfies her! It's incredibly frustrating! I just wish I knew what she really wants or needs...the only thing I can think of is that it's some strange phase. I hope it ends soon.
 

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I can offer you my sympathies, cause we've got a kiddo just over 3 here and have dealt with this too. (especially with anything not water to drink, which is annoying cause it really isn't as easily saved. . . ). It's like she has to possess this foodstuff and then, just doesn't want anything that has to do with eating to do with it.<br><br>
Don't know that this will solve your issues, but I once came up with this idea when I was getting too annoyed about asking what she wanted or her being too picky and I just said "OK, I'm making you a surprise plate of food to eat, you stay out of the kitchen or it won't be a surprise, I really don't want you to peek" and set up an assortment of foodstuffs, used a cake cover I happen to have around, and then presented it and it went over really well. I think she liked the extra drama. (I did small amounts of stuff I normally always feed her, maybe some extra stuff cut up small so it looked like a bigger variety of food).
 

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well, i am not even a little bit that laid back about food, so feel free to disregard this if it is just totally not your style! NO kid, and i mean NO kid, will starve themselves if food is made available, and tantrums are short lived in the big picture that is our life. in our house, you eat what is offered. the kids are always free to refuse a meal, but there is nothing else offered. when my now 6 year old was 3 and going through a very bad food stage, i would put her plates in the fridge, and pull it out every time she said she was hungry. if she didnt want that, i put it back in the fridge, and she would get nothing. that phase only lasted about three weeks, and if my other kids decide they want to play that game with mommy at some point, bring it on! mommy always wins! but like i said, if thats just not your style, take this all with a grain of salt!
 

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What I do with my kids is they get what's at the table at mealtimes. If they don't want to eat that, or eat very little, they do NOT NOT NOT get another snack or meal say 30 minutes later.<br>
They get another snack at the next snacktime.<br><br>
If they do this at dinner/supper, they don't get a dessert-type snack before bed (ice cream, cookie, popsicle, etc.) They get something healthy like apples w/PB.<br><br>
So far, they have not argued with me on this. Usually though what I will do on a night they didn't eat much is prep the healthy snack before they ask, they typically go "oh, yeah!" and go for it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
I have tried the present-the-same-plate thing, it didn't really work for us. I think it's possibly that either they didn't like it or they just didn't feel like eating that that day. I admit, I cook what *I* feel like eating, I don't cook spaghetti on a day when that sounds totally blah.<br>
So I pretty much gave up on that, DH and I just start with smaller portions and (provided it's in eatable condition lol) eat their leftovers on their plate. Got us over the 'wasted food' aspect.
 

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They get another snack at the next snacktime.<br><br>
If they do this at dinner/supper, they don't get a dessert-type snack before bed (ice cream, cookie, popsicle, etc.) They get something healthy like apples w/PB.<br><br>
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Hmm....I like this idea! I also have a 3 year old, and food is really the least of our issues but problems do come up from time to time. My DH is a big fan of "Eat (at least part of)what's in front of you or you get no snack or anything else before bed." which doesn't fly with me. I want to have a more relaxed atmosphere in our house concerning food, but I walk a fine line of being "relaxed" and making sure DS gets proper nutrition....he would really eat candy all day long if I let him! He will sometimes ask for a snack before bed, and often times it is when we are already upstairs getting ready for bed, which is rather frustrating. So maybe if I set up a designated "snack time" before bed, I can more easily shrug it off if he doesn't want to eat at dinner, and then not have to deal with "I'm hungry!" right before bed time.<br><br>
Thanks! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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We have the same kind of relaxed attitude about food as you do and we let our DD self regulate completely. I think it is probably a phase, my DD went through a similar period of changing her mind after asking for something when she was about 3.5, then went back to normal. I basically fixed smaller amounts of things and used leftover food later. Leftover fruit can go in an airtight container and then be part of tomorrows oatmeal or refused eggs can be part of breakfast burritos, for example. Sometimes, if it wasn't dinner, I'd wait until she ate before fixing something for myself in case she didn't want what she thought she wanted. It only lasted a couple of months or so. I didn't make a big deal of it. I didn't make lots of different snacks, I just kept easy to snack on things in the frig. With things like garbanzo beans, grapes, cheese, berries, and triscuts your DD could have just one then if she wants more she can get more, in very small servings though.
 

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