I'd find other childcare arrangements for my child and alert the foster authorities that this foster Mom seems overwhelmed. IF I knew her well enough to talk to her, I would, but if it was only a business relationship than the safety of children comes first.
This might be long, WWYD in this situation?
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You know, just my own experience, but sometimes places aren't as good as they seem. My youngest went to a daycare/preschool when he was younger for a brief period. It was highly recommended and we were wait listed to attend. As it turns out, the women were cranky and pushy with the kids, especially about potty training and I just wasn't digging their approach at all.
If I could go back in time, I would choose a different provider sooner.
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If I could go back in time, I would choose a different provider sooner.
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I'm curious about what you're basing this on. Your child is there all day(well, maybe)--you're not. My son has been in daycare since he was 3 months old (he is almost 5). Obvously he's been able to verbalize his experiences there to various degrees over the years. But he doesn't just make things up and never has. Are other kids different?
I'm genuinely curious--not trying to offend.
Originally Posted by eepster I have a preschooler, his stories about what goes on at school are very very far from what I know happens there. |
I'm genuinely curious--not trying to offend.
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Yes other kids are different.I took care of a little boy who would say things happened that never did.He wouldn't make up stories about spanking but he would tell his parents we went places we never did or he would tell me he ate things at home that he never did.If it weren't for the fact that I was friends with his parents I don't think we would have known how often he made up stories because they all sounded reasonable and not like something a kid would make up.
Originally Posted by Qestia I'm curious about what you're basing this on. Your child is there all day(well, maybe)--you're not. My son has been in daycare since he was 3 months old (he is almost 5). Obvously he's been able to verbalize his experiences there to various degrees over the years. But he doesn't just make things up and never has. Are other kids different? I'm genuinely curious--not trying to offend. |
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I think this can be very true. Some kids love spinning stories at that age. When my little sister was 2-3yrs old, if I took her say to the store with me or out to eat, she would add all sorts of additional things into it.
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I would still remove my child though. the risk/benefits are not balanced.
Originally Posted by rere Yes other kids are different.I took care of a little boy who would say things happened that never did.He wouldn't make up stories about spanking but he would tell his parents we went places we never did or he would tell me he ate things at home that he never did.If it weren't for the fact that I was friends with his parents I don't think we would have known how often he made up stories because they all sounded reasonable and not like something a kid would make up. |
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I would still remove my child though. the risk/benefits are not balanced.
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Not to derail the thread here, but my DD says CRAZY things sometimes. She once told DH that I threw her across the room. I don't even know what she was referring to when she came up with that one.
Originally Posted by Qestia I'm curious about what you're basing this on. Your child is there all day(well, maybe)--you're not. My son has been in daycare since he was 3 months old (he is almost 5). Obvously he's been able to verbalize his experiences there to various degrees over the years. But he doesn't just make things up and never has. Are other kids different? I'm genuinely curious--not trying to offend. |
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DS often claims he did absolutely nothing in school, but at the end of the week inside his folder are paintings he painted, drawings he drew, punch out he punched, etc, etc. He talks about how scary the monsters on the playground can be (older kids in the class play monster at recess.)
During an evaluation recently DS left the tester believing he didn't know how to spell his name. He has been able to spell it for over a year and can now also spell his last name.
I can easily imagine how the OP's DD might have misreported something harmless. For example if the child is accustomed to being spanked he might have yelled out "Don't spank me! Don't spank me!" when the woman removed/redirected him from a situation. I find this just as likely as a woman the OP has trusted for a while suddenly changing drastically.
Is it possible the woman did spank the child in front of her daycare kids? Yes, however, I wouldn't want to make all kinds of decisions and reports till I was really sure though.
Originally Posted by Qestia I'm curious about what you're basing this on. Your child is there all day(well, maybe)--you're not. My son has been in daycare since he was 3 months old (he is almost 5). Obvously he's been able to verbalize his experiences there to various degrees over the years. But he doesn't just make things up and never has. Are other kids different? I'm genuinely curious--not trying to offend. |
During an evaluation recently DS left the tester believing he didn't know how to spell his name. He has been able to spell it for over a year and can now also spell his last name.
I can easily imagine how the OP's DD might have misreported something harmless. For example if the child is accustomed to being spanked he might have yelled out "Don't spank me! Don't spank me!" when the woman removed/redirected him from a situation. I find this just as likely as a woman the OP has trusted for a while suddenly changing drastically.
Is it possible the woman did spank the child in front of her daycare kids? Yes, however, I wouldn't want to make all kinds of decisions and reports till I was really sure though.
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