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We met a couple and their DD several months ago at our clubhouse. We chatted briefly and mentioned they should stop by if they ever have a chance. They did last week, and a lovely time was had by all.<br><br>
Tonight they stopped by and asked us to babysit their DD tomorrow for a couple of hours. We are happy to do it, but would you leave your 5 month old alone with people you had just met? I'm glad we left them with the impression of trustworthy people, but I'm still a little taken aback. Thoughts?
 

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I wouldn't leave my 2.5 year old, verbal kid with virtual strangers so I think it is a little odd. Do you have friends in common? Maybe someone they know and trust vouched for you....
 

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Nope, they just moved into this community a few months ago, and we've only been here a little longer than that. Aside from the hour and a half we chatted the other day, we are complete strangers to them.<br><br>
To make things even weirder, I won't be home from my DD's class when they drop her off, so they will be leaving their DD alone with my hubby for a short time. He's totally trustworthy, but I'm really surprised they feel comfortable doing so.
 

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Be careful.... if these people are "users" you just showed them you are a "target". I have seen this before many times and don't be suprised if they start asking for help alot.<br><br><br><br><br>
On the other hand some people are just way too easy going.
 

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I think some people are just really easy going.<br><br>
I posted an ad on Craigslist once offering after hours babysitting and a couple dropped off their 6 month old baby and their 5 year old son without even asking for references. They called me to ask for my address, dropped off the kids half an hour later, and didn't come back until 10 the next morning!
 

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some people operate this way. obviously they thought you were great, reliable and trustworthy. i would not do that, but it seems like a compliment to you!
 

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I posted an ad on Craigslist once offering after hours babysitting and a couple dropped off their 6 month old baby and their 5 year old son without even asking for references. They called me to ask for my address, dropped off the kids half an hour later, and didn't come back until 10 the next morning!</div>
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They left their kids overnight with a virtual stranger??? Whoa. They should thank their lucky stars they chose you and not some crazy pedophile.<br><br>
OP, some people are real lax with their kids like pp's have said. I have a hard time leaving my 7 yr old dd with a babysitter and generally ask 3 select people I've known for years. I would find it odd but chalk it up to them being super easy going.
 

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Strange to me but I guess people do it. My SIL was asked to babysit 2 little girls by a Mom who knows her only from her grandsons bus stop. The lady didn't know her name or even where she lived beyond the general neighborhood<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bigeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bigeyes"> and let her 3 & 6 yos go home with her.
 

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You don't know the back ground of these people or how desperate that might be.<br><br>
I watched 2 kids because a friends, friend suddenly transfered her. I didn't meet her until she dropped her kids off. -- she was hard up, was told on Friday if she didn't report on Monday in ST. Louis she wouldn't have a job. She was living in AZ. Some of her family lived here. Because of short notice she had no other option. Family couldn't drop their jobs. They gave her housing, food, et but could watch the kids. Her friend worked. I was a SAHM.
 

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Seems a bit strange, but they could have been desperate.
 

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moved to NZ, have no long term friends of family. have new friends. i have had to have sitters. no more than 2-3 hrs, and i am nervous about it, but there it is.
 

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I had to do exactly this when DS1 was about that age. I was alone (DH deployed) and living in a new community far from friends and family. I asked a young couple I had just met the previous day to watch DS for about 1 hour while I went for emergency dental work. I was in pain, and really, what were my options? I was out f my mind with worry, but they seemed really nice. We've remained friends, so my instinct was right (and no, I never asked them to babysit again - in fact DS1 has only been babysat three times in almost 4 years, and DS2, never. We moved again last year, and just don't have the option of friends and family nearby, and getting strangers to care for the well-being of your child/ren is just too nerve wracking.)<br><br>
But yeah, OP, it is odd, but perhaps they are also a tad desperate? Enjoy the munchkin!
 

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Ive babysat for people Ive only met once or twice. Is that weird? People tend to go with their gut. You must seem trustworthy.
 

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I had to do it once as well. I met a woman at a craft fair in my apartment complex. I puchased a sweater from her for DS, and she was super chatty with him and seemed very nice. I spent maybe a total of 15 minutes with her, and she said if I ever needed a sitter to give her a call. About 4 months later, there was a HUGE snowstorm, and I desperately needed to get to the bank, and didn't want to drive DS out anywhere, so I called her up, she walked over and I was gone for about an hour and a half. He was maybe a year old. I was a little nervous, but sometimes you just have to do what you need to do.
 

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I think it is <b>very</b> odd but like other's said, some people are just like that. I am surprised to meet people on vacation who say things like "yeah, we called the hotel front desk for a sitter so we could have dinner." Personally, I couldn't leave my kids with a stranger but like others said, maybe they are desperate.
 

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I once worked a school bake sale with a lady and the next day got an email asking me if I would watch her baby in a few days for the afternoon. Obviously I know I'm a good person, but really, it was so bizarre to me. I've watched him a few times now and I still think it's weird. But he's cute and cuddly so I don't mind <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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That is pretty quick to jump on the "babysit my kid" bandwagon, and kinda scary. I trust people quickly but not alone with my child.<br><br>
Thankfully they choose a good person like you to leave the baby with, could be a scary situation if they picked the wrong person for the job.<br><br>
I would be wary though that this will happen a lot. Instead of new friends they could become people you hide from at the door because they are just showing up to drop the child off.<br><br>
Just saying.
 

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I don't leave my 7 year old with people that I don't know well.<br><br>
Here in Texas they have drop off care centers where you can leave your child for a couple of hours to take care of errands, etc. I can never imagine using one. I'd rather use our trusted babysitter, take my child with me, or not go at all.<br><br>
But I understand that sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.
 
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