[vein]

I wasn't quite sure if I should but this in parents as partners or here, but I think it's probably more on topic here. If it's not, feel free to move it.

The past few nights have been a nightmare. Gavin will normally sleep from around 11 or 12 until 5 or 6 when he then just sort of moves around trying to move my pesky shirt out of the way so he can nurse. He's not even really up at this time, just up enough to know that he's hungry. He'll go back to sleep until whenever we wake up - around 6.30 if I get the car for they day or when I manage to pry myself awake if I'm not getting the car for the day (usually around 10

) However, he's been waking up and crying immediately on waking nup for the past few nights. He will barely be settled by nursing. Last night was the worst - he was up crying probably 6 or 7 times between 3 and 6.30. I KNOW it's a combination of teething and this new sudden oversensitivity to something in my milk (argh, he's 9.5 months, I didn't think I'd have to be taking stuff OUT of my diet for the first time at this age) but it didn't make it any easier.

At any rate, my SO (who didn't go to bed until around 2am) was being a pain this morning whining about his lack of sleep and how I should have had the courtesy to take Gavin to the living room to sleep so he could get some sleep. (Because you know he WORKS for a living, and I sit around doing "nothing" all day, as he said) When Gavin was smaller I would take him to the living room to sleep, but now at the size he's at, it's impossible - we'd either both be sleeping on the hard floor or I'd be sitting up in the chair holding him all night.

Am I wrong to have the idea (and to tell him) that if it's really bothering him then he can take his pansy self to the sofa to sleep? What does everyone else do on nights like this when one person has to get up early to go to work?

 

[mama_nancy]

i feel your pain...and you are handling so much better than i would. i compliment you on that. my son at 15 months still goes through times when he wakes up every few hours to nurse. i try to make sure he eats enough food during the day so that he doesn't wake up hungry. speaking of...do you think maybe he could be sensitive to something he is eating (if you are feeding him foods)? i used the hyland's teething tablets and they worked purdy good.

as far as your SO...i think that he should first apologize for being an ass and give you the worship you deserve. there are few jobs as challenging as being a conscious mama. but perhaps he was just grumpy cuz he had to get up early. there has been times my SO has slept on the couch (for a variety of reasons) but it makes me angry when he did so to avoid the cries of our baby. in some ways it is more important that you get a good night sleep cuz you are caring for your child during the day...and that means a life is dependent on you. i'm sorry your SO isn't being as empathic as he could be. and you should tell him how you feel..when you both are rested. maybe there is another solution like ear plugs...and when he doesn't have to get up early maybe he could help calm the baby when the baby wakes up?

i've been there...

take care

 

[Elphaba]

no you're not out of line. if he's upset by the conditions, he can get off his ass and do something about it.
can you tell i am awake right now and my dh is sleeping? bastard.
my husband used to go sleep in the guest room if dd got too much for him.
and that was fine because i could sleep in a bit or take a nap with her during the day.
and sometimes I got up and left and went to the guest room and left him to deal with the awake, crying child (after nursing of course). let him go to work tired. if he's tired and pissed off, he can go get some coffee and chocolate and complain to his coworkers. if the at-home parent is sleep deprived and has a short fuse, the BABY IS IN DANGER.

sometimes i wonder why more men aren't smothered in their sleep.

 

[happy_mama35]

I think the bed is for mama and the baby. Mama is busy caring for a whole other individual. SO can grab a few hours of sleep on the couch. Mama needs the more comfortable space because she works through the night.

 

[sparklemom]

most cosleeping families i know have the dh sleeping on the couch or in another bedroom. you and your baby should stay in the bed. it's just a given.
hang in there. your baby is still so young. the long nights don't last forever. it does get easier.

 

[perditafoster]

I agree with everyone else...us SAHMs are princesses and we deserve pampering! Actually, all moms do, but I'm being selfish tonight

And that means we get the bed and the dad/partner/irritating other person gets Mr. Couch. Suck it up, Buttercup, I"m home with a fussy, teething 8 month old all day! Seriously, though, whoever cares for the wee one all day needs the extra support of a decent mattress, not the couch. Good luck convincing your SO to act decent!

 

[Mona]

Quote:

Originally posted by Elphaba sometimes i wonder why more men aren't smothered in their sleep.

:LOL

I hate it when my DH moans and groans when DD has a bad sleep night. it's not like he has to MOVE or anything. ugh.
he'd be so lucky to get the boot to the couch.

s

 

[vein]

Sorry I'm bringing this thread up again, but I completely forgot about it when it was still more fresh.

Thanks to all you guys for your support.

We'd been doing pretty good as far as nights go until last night, when I told the princess again he was nuts if he thought I was moving, but he could take his princess self to the sofa if it bothered him. Within two more minutes he was back to snoring again, so I guess he wasn't that bothered by it.

Men.

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:LOL