[sadhitia]

Hi! I am 30 weeks pg with number 2, and my dh and i have decided to go uc. We are having a midwife team do our prenatals, and other than that, we are going it alone. I am very excited, and my only real question is about my daughter. She is 2 1/2 now and we don't have anyone to be there for her during the birth. Have you uc'ers found this to be truly neccesary? Thanks for any thoughts!

Erin

 

[djinneyah]

no words of advice here (i'm in a similar situation), but just wanted to say welcome!

 

[lizzie]

Welcome!

I haven't done it, but I think it would depend on how your dd reacts to different things, and how you birth.

Most people think I'm nuts for feeling this way, but actually I regret not having my dd in the room (at a hospital, but my ds beat the midwife there, it was just me, dh and a wonderful nurse) when I gave birth to her little brother... she was 18 mos at the time, but was SO in tune to us, and I have easy, relatively quiet births (so far!

) and honestly I think she was miffed at me! But she recovered. She's just super-sensitive and very aware, and LOVED watching babies being born, even on the horror shows like Baby Story. (Back then, I loved that stuff.. can't sit through it now, though)

Either way, they're both over 3.5 + now, so next time it will be more up to them.

I'd go with your gut, yk?

lizzie

 

[cottonwood]

We didn't plan for anyone to be here for my kids, who were 3, 5, and 7, but we had the option of taking them to my inlaws' if I felt I needed more privacy or they weren't handling it well, and I was also fine with birthing alone and having my husband care for them if need be. It turned out though that I gave birth very early in the morning when they were still asleep.

 

[NowOrNever]

Welcome and congrats on your u/c decision! I didn't plan anything for my kids. I ended up laboring very early in the morning, and they woke up to their new little brother! I would have been equally as happy as if they had been there.