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I'm x-posting this in the children's area too...<br><br>
Dylan is three and for the last couple months has been having issues with the dark. He hasn't shown any indication that he is afraid of the dark, but he will get up and turn on his lamp in the middle of the night, then go back to bed. He has two night lights and I leave his overhead on low (it's on a dimmer), but apparently it needs to be bright, high-noon type lighting in his bedroom. When we notice the light on, we go in and turn it back off again.<br><br>
In the last month we have started finding him up looking through books with the light on. Sometimes he does this within an hour of our putting him down, sometimes after waking in the middle of the night. Usually I just tell him that it's time to go to sleep and tuck him back in bed again.<br><br>
Within the last couple weeks, he has been calling for me or my husband after bedtime and requesting more water, a new diaper, lotion for an itch, some adjustment of his bedding, etc. etc. etc.<br><br>
Part of what is happening is that we just had another baby, so I think this is a bid for attention. I generally meet the need, whatever it is, and then get him back in bed under the covers and tucked in, stressing that it is time to go to sleep.<br><br>
My main concern is that he is not getting enough rest. At his daycare, if the kids are not tired during naptime they can read quietly instead of napping. He sometimes asks to read a book in bed before he goes to sleep, and I'm pretty permissive about that, but now I'm wondering if I should be taking a harder line...<br><br>
Any ideas? This isn't a major emergency, but he is trending towards less and less sleep and a weirder sleep cycle. And grumpiness during the day.
 

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I'm bumping this... I've posted this in three different places with no replies yet. Anyone have any ideas about this?
 

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Well, I'll take a stab at it since you've had no other replies. I think most of it is probably just adjustment to Conrad's presence in the house, so I wouldn't be too hard and fast on the rules. I think you're right to meet his needs (real or perceived) since it *is* likely mostly about getting more attention from you.<br><br>
I remember being a serious night owl when I was young (starting at like 4 or 5 yo) so I suppose it's possible that he's starting at three. I was not in preschool/daycare so I just slept late. And when I started Kindergarten, I remember being excited to switch to afternoon kindergarten half way thru the year so I wouldn't have to get up early! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> The only rule we had was that once I was in bed for the night I could not get out unless it was to use the bathroom. BUT I could take as many books to bed with me as I wanted and read as long as I wanted (or in the middle of the night). If Dylan would do that, I would propose it to him. Set him up with all the books of his choosing, a special book light and a sippy cup and see how it goes. But I'm betting it will calm down soon for you , that it's just a phase. I'm sure that this "rule" my parents made when I was so young inspired my love of reading...<br><br><br>
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Thanks, Laura... yeah, I can't get really bent out of shape about it since he's using his time to look at books (he can't actually read yet). I remember being a night owl too, and doing a LOT of midnight reading, but I was older than Dylan.
 
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