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Ok, this is what happened. We just wanted out of the house for awhile today and didnt have a lot of money to spend so we thought it would be nice to drop in on the two thrift stores in town as we've never been. (We have a goodwill and people in there are always friendly and helpful).

So, me and the three kids go. The first one was unfriendly, but ok. I mean, they had huge signs posted everywhere that you could not use thier restrooms. And they had boosterseats, carseats and pottychairs all lumped togather so I had to dig. In the course of diggin Ive got several booster seats laying on the floor behind me and the kids are sitting in them. An employee comes over to ask me if I was buying. I said yes, but probally should have said, "well, not now". Anyway, I bought a seat and we left.

Second store seemed awesome, tons of toys really cheap. We spent at least an hour picking out what we wanted. Each child had a couple of toys and I had a couple of things as well. I mean, pretty much a full cart, but probally under ten dollars.

Anyway, dd had two things, one was a stick horse, well, pink unicorn that sang when you grabbed his ear. The second was a my little pony. A smallish one she could hold in one hand. She was clutching it with both hands to her chest. She promptly shoved the toy she had previously picked back to me the second she saw it. She loved this thing. (I know a lot of you are in the anticheap plastic crap camp anyway, but thats a diffrent issue!)

We get to the register, my 14 yr old son takes the pony from my three year old daughters hands, she starts to whimper and he says, "Its ok, you'll get it right back I PROMISE"

What happens next may be seen as "no big deal" to some people, but most of you here will realize that it wasnt the toy per se, it was the fact of broken trust and promises.

The woman behind the counter is flipping this stick horse around and around and I smile and say, "Oh, I couldnt find the price either". She says, "It doesnt have one, I cant sell it to you" I laughed, thinking she was joking, until it disapeared behind the counter. She then says, "Neither does this one" of the pony and away it went. About then dd starts to wail, "I want my pony!" I said, "What? You're kidding!" She says no, I mean, this woman showed no emotion what so ever, she was totally unphased by dd. And dd wasnt doing the annoying whiny thing, this was my little heart is breaking, how can this be happening sobs. I argued, to no avail, then she tells me the total and I told her to keep her stuff, Im not buying any of it. How can she sit there and expect I can walk out with toys for the boys and not the ones for dd? Besides that Im not about to give them a penny of my money, now or ever. She then pages someone, Im thinking someone who can price the toys. No, someone to void the sale. So I ask, "Are you the manager?" she says, "assistant manager" I asked her to price the toys and she tells me she cant and no one can until monday. I mean come on, shes responsible enough to have the keys to the cash register but not to price a stupid toy that couldnt have been worth more than 50 cents (it has seen better days). My oldest son then says, as he is pulling out his own money, "I'll pay you more than its worth, I'll give you ten dollars!" She still said no. I then asked her if shes ever had to deal with a toddler whos just been this disapointed she got all pissy and said yes. Meanwhile, dd is sobbing like her heart is broken, she sees the truck that ds2 had picked and said, "Mommy, Todd needs his cars! He'll cry for them!"

Again, nothing, I swear both of these women were just shooting daggers at me. Like we had done something wrong. So I tell ds1 to grab a kid and I grab the other, I say well, she'll just have to cry, theres nothing we can do. We get to the car and when I turn to look, ds1 (he is almost 15 mind you) is crying as hard as dd and he looks at me and says "I PROMISED".

I wanted to go back in and hurt somebody. My mother says that has happened to her and the MANAGER refused to price the items. She says its happened to her multiple times. My sister use to work there and she says, no they will NEVER sell you and unpriced item because the assume YOU took the price off to try and get a lower price. I said, "So, basically, they were accusing me of thieving?" She said yes. Then I remembered the lady behind the counter did say something about "People rub the prices off".

Ok, if I was trying to steal it, why not just stick it in the diaper bad? Look, I may not have tons of extra cash, but I dont need to try and cheat a thrift store. I had $750 cash in my purse. Ok, most of it was earmarked for bills, but I had a bit to play with and thats what we were trying to do.

Im so furious, just thinking about it has me pissed all over again. Monday morning Im going up there and I will speak to a manager or owner, I think Ill write a letter to the local paper. I am going to let someone have it. Big time.

My mother also says that when the tell her they will reprice something and it will be on the shelf tommorow, it never is. My sister says its BS that they have to wait til monday, they CAN price it, they just wont. What a way to do business huh?

Then I had to go to walmart, where I hate to go and buy an actual, new my little pony for $15! Well, I didnt HAVE to, but I did, I mean, it was so not fair what happened to dd and I just wanted to make it up to her. You know, she just got over being afraid to give up the toy at the register and we are always reassuring her that it WILL come right back to her. Now Im a liar.

In dd's mind, by the time we got to the register, that toy was already HERS, afterall mommy said she could have it, right?

I know I should let it go, but I cant. Stress isnt good for the baby, but venting here actually helped. What would you guys do?
 

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I don't know what I'd do in that situation. I can remember a thrift store in a town I used to live in that wouldn't sell things that haddn't been priced but that was before I had kids. My ds would have flipped out if anything like that had happend to us. I feel for you and your kids!

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i would write a letter to the paper. i would report them to the better business bureau. i would speak to the OWNER. i would be as pissed as you are right now. there is no way i could handle that. your poor dd and your poor ds! how traumatizing!!!! what mean-spirited ppl.
i would tell EVERYONE I KONW FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE NOT TO GO THERE!!!
i am so sorry that happened to you. there is no excuse.
and your son said he woudl give them $10 for the stupid pony? was there any small toy there for $10? i doubt it!!! just how cruel!
 

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Ehhh they aren't usually a happy bunch IME. I went to a local thrift store to get some old bedsheets to use during my home birth, and I came in the door and smiled at the older ladies who work there. Now ok, these people work at this store because they are made to in order to "earn" their medicaid and/or food stamp benefits. I feel bad for them because they are retirement age and they're stuck making price stickers and sorting through endless boxes of used junk just to have something to eat. But that doesn't mean they have to be bitter all the time and throw common courtesy out the window. I smiled at them and said hello and I was glared at. Some people are hopelessly bitter. I wouldn't stress about what happened any further. It sounds like you went through enough already.
 

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Wow, that's awful. I can't believe they wouldn't price the things. If they thought you had rubbed the price off they could price it a little higher than they would normally price it and then you wouldn't be benefitting from supposedly rubbing the price off. I mean, jeez, I see stuff without prices all the time at the thrift store. I definitely think you should write a letter. Did your dd at least like the pony you bought her a Wal-Mart?
 

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With the exception of Goiddwill, which has gone to a "unilateral" pricing policy.. (as in, ALL shirts are one price, ALL pants are one price, etc..)
ALL of the thrift stores in my town are like this!
If there is not a tag on it, they WILL NOT sell it to you...it has to be sent back to their "processing center" and be re-priced, and then sent back to the store..and since most of them have several branchs in town, it might not even be the same branch...
So, if we go and it has no price, we just don't even try to buy it.
It sucks..I understand their point, because they were getting ripped off, but come one!! ...there should be SOMEONE on each shift allowed to price things, you know?

However, i have never had someone be that rude to me about it.....and a couple times, even had someone go ahead and just price it for me on the spot, illegally, LOL!
 

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Yes, mamabadger, thank you, he is.
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To whoever said call the better business bureau, thanks, I will! I had not even thought of that!

You know, had they had signs posted stating thier policy, I would have known and could have distracted dd to other toys.

Had they offered to hold the items, price them then let me come back for them, that would have been a compromise. But no.

If I had been the empolyee, I would have priced it anyway, because theres no way I could do that to a child. I mean, had it been MY stuff, I wouldnt have cared, but wouldnt you know there were only two items without prices and those were the only two items that were hers! Ds1 is old enough to have dealt with it and ds2 young enough not to notice or care (he didnt seem to notice that we left without the toys, he was quite happy with the old ones in the diaper bag). It was just so unfair to dd.
 

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Oh yes, btw, dd was very happy with the toy from walmart. I think SHE is over it. It's me and ds who are still traumitized!
 

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That really, really sucks. I can't believe they'd do that! I've had checkers at the Target just ask me how much something was and ring it on up if it didn't have a price on it, and that's NEW stuff!

I'm glad your DD is happier now, and I agree your DS sounds like an awesome person!
 

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oh, man,. your sons display of love towards his sister has me al teary eyed.

and that lady sucks.. none of thrift stores around here would do that to a kid.
 

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every thrift store I have ever been to is like that (seasoned thriftwhore). some will have kinder employees who know the crap is donated and when you're willing to pay 10$ for a 2$ item they know you're not bullshitting them. but they're not allowed to. I was buying an old cheap plasticam with no price a few weeks back and the girl says "no price, hmm" and tossed it in my bag without charging. but I have gotten alot of hostility from checkouts before for something not having a price and not noticing. she could have been kind enough to tell you, will you pay 2$ for it, then, but I am not supposed to do this.
 

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Nearly every thrift store I have ever been in has had that policy. The one we normally go to here doesn't, but I didn't buy anything without a price on it for the better part of a year because I am so used to thrift stores refusing to price items without tags. (I still very rarely buy tagless stuff, because you play heck finding anyone willing to tell you what the price of something is!)

I am glad you got your DD a toy, though.
 

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That's the policy in several I go to also but they do have large signs around the store telling shoppers.

I do understand the store's point of view and I am sure they get ripped off. The probably also don't want to be accussed of "discrimination" if they price things on the fly for one person they will have to do for everyone and some people can/may be unreasonable.

That being said, I do think if you have a normal run of the milll item that they can easily determine the value of ~ say a plastic pony as opposed to a piece of china or crystal ~ that they should just name a reasonable price and see if you are willing to pay.

They may lose money to shoplifters but the are also losing money to legitimate shoppers.

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How hard for your dd. But, yes, that is the policy of every large thrift store I've been in. I HATE when I find something I really want that doesn't have a tag on it because it means I can't buy it.

But it is tough for a little girl to understand
 

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If I had been the empolyee, I would have priced it anyway, because theres no way I could do that to a child. I mean, had it been MY stuff, I wouldnt have cared, but wouldnt you know there were only two items without prices and those were the only two items that were hers! Ds1 is old enough to have dealt with it and ds2 young enough not to notice or care (he didnt seem to notice that we left without the toys, he was quite happy with the old ones in the diaper bag). It was just so unfair to dd.
She could be fired for doing that. The people who work at large thrift stores (especially goodwill and salvation army, which hires people trying to get back on tehir feet) are often very vulnerable finacially. She makes up a price for you, get fired, can't pay rent. I know we don't want to see our children upset but . . .
 
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