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My girl is 6 years old, and we're still co-sleeping, we have a big bed and we all get a good night's sleep.<br>
She only learned how to fall asleep on her own 6 months ago, wehn she got her big-girl-bed. She goes to sleep in her own bed, and when we go to bed, she gets into bed with us.<br><br>
To us, it is not a problem, but Im wondering if more people are still co-sleeping at this age. DH and I decided that we'll continue to co-sleep until DD doesnt want it anymore. At least, that's what we said when seh was 2. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> We thought she'd wanted to sleep in her own bed by the time she was 4.<br><br>
Is it inappropriate? Should we 'make her'sleep in her own bed?
 

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Still cosleeping with ds. He'll be 9 in less than 2 weeks. Granted, right now it's out of necessity (we're living with family until our new apartment is available), but even in a regular situation, we coslept about 2 nights a week.<br><br>
We stopped cosleeping daily when ds was about...6 or so. Then it went to 5 days a week, 4, 3, etc.<br><br>
There's nothing wrong with letting her share your bed (and your warmth and your company) for as long as she and you are comfortable. I know <i>I</i> get lonely when I sleep alone sometimes. Shoot, on bad days, I "cosleep" with my sister when she stays over, yk?<br><br>
Not inappropriate in the least, mama. Follow your heart. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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We still co sleep. Ds is 9. We have a 160 cm bed next to a 90 cm bed. Plenty of space and imo not in the least inappropriate.
 

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I don't see any problem with older kids co sleeping as long as the parents are fine with it. We're "short term" co sleepers, however. Partly due to our children's preferences and partly due to ours. Both of our boys became so active and wakeful that we tried giving them their own sleeping spaces and both ended up sleeping better alone. Paddy was about 6 months when we moved him and Henri was about 9 months. I also had major back issues that had to be corrected with constant chiro visits and co-sleeping was not helping my recovery. I made much better progress with my recovery once we stopped co-sleeping.<br><br>
All that being said, about a month ago our 2.5 year old was sick with a bad ear infection and really not feeling good at all. He woke up crying in pain, so I brought him into our bed and he went right back to sleep (that is, after he pushed me almost clear off the bed!) I used to co sleep with my mom whenever I got sick-all the way through elementary school even. She'd come and get me if she heard me coughing and things like that. So I'm definitely not opposed to bringing them into our bed if they really want to be there.
 

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I don't see how it would be inappropriate as it is what the huge majority of humans do and have done throughout history.<br><br>
Dd is 3.5yrs now and still with us. She HAS her own bed in her room that she knows she is welcome to sleep in when she chooses. She wants to stay with us for now.<br><br>
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my son is 6 and I still sleep half the night with him. I lay down with him until he falls asleep, then i go to bed with DH, then he usually calls out "mama!" at like 2 am and I go sleep with him until morning. I love snuggling with him and probly will be sad when he no longer calls out for me to comfort him.
 

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We co-slept with DS until he demanded his own bed at about three. I would have had no problem continuing, but it was his decision. We'll see how it works out with DD3, but I'm willing to stick it out as long as she feels is necessary.
 

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I was just coming in here to post a similar thread. My youngest two are almost 5 and 3 1/2 and are both still in bed with me on a pretty regular basis. I figure that if they are there it's because they still need to be and so I don't push it. But lately I have been getting criticism from family/friends about them still being in bed with me.
 

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My almost 6 year old daughter sleeps in our bed (from the beginning) almost every night. My 11 year old son often finds a spot to climb in during the night. If we had a bigger bed I suspect my 13 year old might try to join us. I see nothing wrong with human beings sleeping close together.<br><br>
We are about to move into a living situation that will change things. We are moving out of our house and into a camping trailer on some land while we build a home. The "big bed" is a queen instead of a king and I suspect will not be big enough for more than two. I also suspect I'll end up sleeping with my daughter on one of the other beds frequently. We'll see how it goes.<br><br>
I co-slept with my mom until I was 9 and decided I wanted to stay in my own bed <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
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I think we're going to have to be a "short-term" cosleeping family, too. I just don't think the logistics will allow it--we have a queen bed, and upgrading isn't an option. Also, when we want to get pregnant again, there definitely won't be room for me, my belly, my husband, and my son! You said that you co-slept with your little ones until they were 6-9 months old. How did you transition? I tried putting our son in his cosleeper the other night and he woke up almost every hour, mad that he wasn't with us. What was your experience with this?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't see any problem with older kids co sleeping as long as the parents are fine with it. We're "short term" co sleepers, however. Partly due to our children's preferences and partly due to ours. Both of our boys became so active and wakeful that we tried giving them their own sleeping spaces and both ended up sleeping better alone. Paddy was about 6 months when we moved him and Henri was about 9 months. I also had major back issues that had to be corrected with constant chiro visits and co-sleeping was not helping my recovery. I made much better progress with my recovery once we stopped co-sleeping.<br><br>
All that being said, about a month ago our 2.5 year old was sick with a bad ear infection and really not feeling good at all. He woke up crying in pain, so I brought him into our bed and he went right back to sleep (that is, after he pushed me almost clear off the bed!) I used to co sleep with my mom whenever I got sick-all the way through elementary school even. She'd come and get me if she heard me coughing and things like that. So I'm definitely not opposed to bringing them into our bed if they really want to be there.</div>
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I think we're going to have to be a "short-term" cosleeping family, too. I just don't think the logistics will allow it--we have a queen bed, and upgrading isn't an option. Also, when we want to get pregnant again, there definitely won't be room for me, my belly, my husband, and my son! You said that you co-slept with your little ones until they were 6-9 months old. How did you transition? I tried putting our son in his cosleeper the other night and he woke up almost every hour, mad that he wasn't with us. What was your experience with this?
 

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We co-slept until shortly after age 2. I can't 100% say it was my son's decision, but it was smooth and painless. He was already falling asleep on his own in the family bed, so I made up his own bed, we made a big deal about picking out sheets, etc and I decided to see how he would fall asleep in his own bed, own room. He fell right asleep. So we stuck with it!<br><br>
He's 5 now and still knows he can come into our bed at anytime if he has a bad dream or feel sick, etc. But that happens only once every few months or so.<br><br>
If he'd had a problem going into his own room, I would have kept co-sleeping. But he didn't and we went with it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thanks everyone. Guess I found the right board here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
In real life, we hear the criticism--it seems to bother other people for some unexplicable reason-- and sometimes we feel insecure, yet we've never forced her out of our bed. Co-sleeping and AP isnt for everyone, I guess. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/treehugger.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Treehugger">:<br><br>
We do follow our heart, have so since the beginning. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> Our DD is a bright, very happy, very stable, physically and emotionally strong little girl. Guess we're doing something right. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I just wanted to say that we do exactly the same thing -- our 5-year-old falls asleep in his own room, and comes and joins us in the big bed when/if he wakes up and wants to. Some nights he just stays in his room, but most nights when I wake up in the morning he's with us. I haven't tried putting our 2-year-old in her own room; I figure she's too little to sleep without us. I know other babies her age do sleep alone, but I'm sure mine would get lonely.<br><br>
Nealy<br>
Mama to T, 5, and L, 2
 

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I slept with my Mum or my siblings until I was about 13. DS can stay with us as long as he likes, it's one of my favorite parts of parenting.
 

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All of our kids are still in bed with us. Frankly, we expect our oldest to be in bed with us longer because he doesn't have an older sibling to go be with. I think he will probably not move out of the family bed until he has another sibling who is ready to go with him. Since our other kids aren't ready, I don't se him deciding to move any time soon.
 

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We are still co sleeping with our almost 6yo,almost 3 year old and sometimes our 1 yo is in there but she tends to play to much so she goes in her bed to sleep and then I get up at night and nurse her back to sleep in our bed.We have a king size bed so it is a lil cramped.Thay all have their own beds in their own rooms but everynight they end up in ours.We are actually thinking of putting on of the twins and attach it to the king.We need more room.but they are always welcome in our beds.We will co sleep until they are ready to go to their beds.
 

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Reading these posts just brought back wonderful memories of having my little sister and brother crawl into bed with me when we were younger. My parents didn't let us sleep in their bed (they'd always been told that it was dangerous, now they view it differently!) so my brother and sister were always coming into my room when they woke up in the middle of the night. They did this for years - probably until they were 11 or 12! I complained about it here and there, but I really loved it! I think those nights of snuggling and feeling the security and love of sleeping next to people you love left a huge imprint on me; there is nothing I love more than snuggling up with my daughters and husband in our big bed (with the crib sidecarred, too).
 

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Hi Mom2Princess,<br><br>
My DD, who was born the month before yours, just moved into her own bedroom last weekend. We've been co-sleeping since she was born. In recent years she's had her own twin bed next to our queen (both on floor). We've loved co-sleeping. She moved into her own room in order to have a friend over for a sleepover. We've also followed our heart and never pressured her to move out of our bed. Just felt like the right thing to do.<br><br>
I must admit that I'd had been vaguely wondering at times whether we'd been inappropriate....and whether she'd ever move out of our bed. Glad that we just trusted the process. DD knows that she's always welcome to come back but is really enjoying her own bed and room these days. I'm so glad that we co-slept as long as we did. Precious time together that all of us will always cherish.
 
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