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We are going to have baby #3 this fall, so I'll have another opportunity to BF. I've been somewhat successful, but I did not EBF either of my first two children. I'm wondering what I might learn or try with baby #3 to see if it goes any better.<br><br>
Sons #1 and #2 were circ'd, so I'm hoping that by avoiding that we'll have a better experience in the first few days and that may make a difference.<br><br>
Son #1 was not a skilled nurser, son #2 seemed to take to it more naturally from the start. Both were c/s deliveries and due to my medical history of a prior large uterine incision to remove fibroids, that's what I'll have for this delivery as well.<br><br>
Anyway, both boys were combo fed breastmilk and formula and I'm at peace with that. I would like to see if I can do more nursing with #3. I seemed to have a decent supply, not huge, not tiny. We ended up combo feeding #2 because I was exhausted and probably on the border for PPD, I broke down crying in the pediatricians office because I was so stressed out by the time the first week was over and that's when we started giving 1 bottle of formula by my husband (and maybe we could do that with EBM).<br><br>
I should break out Nursing Mothers Companion, I guess. I am worried about the first month anyway because it is so exhausting and I'm worried about handling all three children.<br><br>
Anyway, I thought I'd check in here for any insights or ideas. Thanks!
 

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Personally I would commit to NO formula in the house and no artificial nipples PERIOD until at least 4-6 weeks. By 6 weeks, the worst is over. If you can hang in that long and not mess with supply or latch with formula or bottles, you'll have a good chance to be totally successful <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
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With my first, we had serious latch problems in the beginning. I rented a hospital-grade pump (the only kind that can build your supply, not just keep it going) and pumped pretty much exclusively for the first week. We managed to get nursing going after that, but I kept pumping first thing in the morning by nursing on one side for that first feed, and pumping on the other. (Yes, it sounds complicated, but by that time, I had lots of practice!)<br><br>
Because my supply was greatest for that morning feed, I managed to put 4 or so ounces away in the fridge/freezer, and that gave me enough to have one bottle a day, which I got my DH to give at the midnight feed. I went to bed at 9 p.m., then I ususually did not have to wake up again until around 3 or 4. Having six continuous hours of sleep, which really makes a huge difference.<br><br>
It's important to try and pump for that one bottle a day, I think, because your supply can adjust for that, and not get started on the downhill slope that leads to more and more formula.<br><br>
I understand that this method won't work for moms who want to exclusively breast feed, but if your concern is having exclusive breast milk regardless of how it gets into the baby, well, it worked for me.
 

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I went through similar situation......I was the most successful nursing #3. He's eighteen months and never had a bottle<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
It was my commitment to NO formula whatsoever. Don't have it around, don't let the goodhearted people who suggest it, get to you.<br><br>
The first 6 weeks are the hardest! Just set small goals for yourself, for instance, EBF for the first 6 weeks, and then evaluate and set a new goal, like make it to 4 months, and then 6 months etc...<br><br>
You can do it!<br><br>
HTH
 

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Well, if I make it through the first stage, continuing should be no problem, but getting through it hour by hour in the beginning is very challenging.<br><br>
A hospital grade pump sounds like a good idea, it really can build supply vs. other pumps? I was thinking of purchasing a new pump for my home use. I work PT in the office 8 hours a week. Getting on a pumping schedule right off the bat to get a bottle for DH to feed sounds good because the sleep is a concern. And pumping only once a day sounds great. I would try to pump whenever I felt I had the time/energy so it wasn't a real established schedule. I would pump after a feeding, so before might work better?<br><br>
I think I should plan on having a pump and a bottle available, but no formula, that sounds like a reasonable setup. I'm also wondering about balancing attention with the older boys while nursing.
 

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I just had #3 last summer, and I have found my experience BF him is completely different. I had to supplement my oldest, a girl, she was and still is incapable of acknowledging when she is full! She can eat and eat! Back then I thought it was me, and that I didn't have enough milk so I supplemented. I was terrible, and even gave her 1/2 juice 1/2 water at 4 months, and started solids just before 5 months. She couldn't sit still and be patient with milk and I did all I could to keep her going a full year.<br><br>
My second (also daughter) I was determined not to supplement, but with working I found I never could pump enough. I would pump every 2 hours, and wouldn't get a full ounce total. I got so stressed, so I would now and then give formula, but then just put her on table milk at 10-11 months because formula MAJORLY constipated her. She was still breastfed at home until shortly before 2 years of age.<br><br>
My third I was again determined to EBF. And so far I have managed to. I can honestly say the only difference between the 3 is the child himself. He was cir'd as well, but for some reason he just eats and eats, although is the smallest of the 3. But he is so good at nursing, and so CONSISTENT that I don't have trouble pumping at work or getting enough for him. I just make it with the amount with pumping. For #2 I was taking tons of Fenugreek and Blessed Thistle, and it didn't help much. Now I am not taking either.<br><br>
So, I honestly think it depends on the baby, their style of personality- my 3rd is very patient and easy-going. He never cried during or after his circ. (doctors said he was the best), and even today is always all smiles even when he falls on his face while trying to pull himself up. He went the longest before solids (6 months) mainly because he was ok with not wanting them. He also does not sleep through the night, which for me seems to make a big difference in supply. My other 2 were sleeping through the night by now. He still wakes at 1 and 4-5am.<br><br>
I also suggest no formula in the house. I can understand having a pacifier around but I only had it with him at daycare, or if we were out and about in a place inconvenient for nursing. My oldest 2 refused them completely, and that definitely didn't give me any more milk!
 
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