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Hi ladies,
I have what are (probably) very silly fears, but what the heck, I'll throw them out there anyway. I'm due in May with my second child-- my firstborn will be 20 months at that time. I have no intention of kicking Maddie (my firstborn) out of our bed when the new baby arrives, but I'm nervous about how well we're all going to sleep together, as well as how safe the set-up will be. The three of us (me, Maddie and my husband) all currently sleep on a king-sized mattress on the floor, with Maddie between us, and I was planning on just shoving the mattress against the wall in May so there's no chance of the newborn falling off the bed (since he/she will not be in the middle with Maddie, but on my other side). Maddie can be a restless sleeper if I'm not turned towards her (she thrashes around till I take her in my arms and soothe her), so I'm a little worried about how she's going to accept this change-- and I've heard that it can be dangerous to bed-share with a toddler and newborn (though for the life of me can't remember the reasons why). I'm also a little worried that the frequent waking of our newborn will wake her up, too-- and I can't imagine having to soothe two kids back to sleep at 3 a.m., you know what I mean?
So how do you other mamas do it? Am I making a mountain out of a molehill, or are there precautions/things I need to know before the four of us try bedsharing for the first time? Any advice is much, much appreciated!
I have what are (probably) very silly fears, but what the heck, I'll throw them out there anyway. I'm due in May with my second child-- my firstborn will be 20 months at that time. I have no intention of kicking Maddie (my firstborn) out of our bed when the new baby arrives, but I'm nervous about how well we're all going to sleep together, as well as how safe the set-up will be. The three of us (me, Maddie and my husband) all currently sleep on a king-sized mattress on the floor, with Maddie between us, and I was planning on just shoving the mattress against the wall in May so there's no chance of the newborn falling off the bed (since he/she will not be in the middle with Maddie, but on my other side). Maddie can be a restless sleeper if I'm not turned towards her (she thrashes around till I take her in my arms and soothe her), so I'm a little worried about how she's going to accept this change-- and I've heard that it can be dangerous to bed-share with a toddler and newborn (though for the life of me can't remember the reasons why). I'm also a little worried that the frequent waking of our newborn will wake her up, too-- and I can't imagine having to soothe two kids back to sleep at 3 a.m., you know what I mean?
So how do you other mamas do it? Am I making a mountain out of a molehill, or are there precautions/things I need to know before the four of us try bedsharing for the first time? Any advice is much, much appreciated!