We've been trying to get our 11-year-old DS1, who is currently being investigated for Asperger's (just the ADOS left to go and things are certainly looking that way) to build up a little independence out and about. His direction sense is horrible, so we've been sticking to fairly simple situations where it's easy to get about. Last night we were at the Canada Day Fireworks for our village. It was a biggish event in terms of people (keep in mind biggish to me may be tiny by urban standards), but they were familiar and the geographic area was only covering one baseball field and a small field next to it. Our three kids wanted to split up to see friends. DS1 didn't have any particular friend to see but there were a few people he wanted to say hi to, and as usual he was also saying hi to people's dogs. We showed all three kids the entrance gate to the baseball field and explained that after the fireworks we were to meet there. Then we physically showed DS1 again, asked him to repeat back where to meet. Last minute before the fireworks started I checked in one last time. After the event, one of the adult recreation coordinators he knows brought him to the entrance. Apparently he got confused about whether to meet after the fireworks started (which is actually during) or after they were done, and he became unsure of which entrance gate. He said there were four and they were all the same. Apparently, he didn't gather that we meant the one we took him to and were showing him. He actually handled it OK in that he did go up to the stage area where official people were making announcements, etc, and in fairness it was dark and a bit busy, so maybe he wasn't ready yet. However, I'm wondering if any of you with experience have tips on how to make sure your child understands the directions given and on the best way to explain directions. All I can think of doing is asking him to physically demo where to meet next time. The whole thing was so odd in that he was able to tell me in exact wording afterwards what I had said about where to meet (pretty much verbatim) but he had no understanding as to which gate that meant, and his interpretation of after was something I would have never thought of. Thanks for any tips you might have!