tips on potty training?

I am in such a foul mood right now I could easily scream and cuss for an hour at the top of my lungs and still not be satisfied.

TEACCH came for the THIRD time this morning to do potty training with ds (turned 3 in January). The little uaviolation has been holding his urine for 4.5...yes...count 'em 4.5 hours now. I could scream. I am so angry. He has the ability to hold it, and this is just a battle of damn wills. The nanosecond I put a diaper back on him (we've been nakey from waist down all morning), he'll go, so I refuse.

Uh uh. We've come this far, and damn it, I'm not backing down. I've had it up to *here* with this. He has the ability to control his bladder AND bowels, he just doesn't WANT to. TEACCH said to stick with this for today, and then maybe try the cutting a hole in his diaper method later.

I'm just so angry. I don't know why. I feel manipulated. I feel like he is doing this on purpose just to piss me off. I know none of that is proper or logical but I had to get it out somewhere before I blew my top. I really feel like I'm about to explode with anger. He CAN go, he just WON'T. I just want to scream and throw things. I feel awful. I feel nauseated. This is so upsetting. He's NEVER going to potty train. NEVER.

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Sorry you are having a bad day with this! I know how you feel. DS at age 3 did a similar thing. He would hold his bladder (he doesn't seem to be able to control his bowel movements) the whole time on the potty until I would put a diaper back on him and then let it come out in there. I tried even putting a wipe over him to see if he would then pee on the potty if he felt cloth was there--but it didn't work. I'm literally scared DS1 won't ever potty train if we don't push him now.

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Oh man. I don't blame you for being scared.

I could just throw things right now I'm so upset. We're going on 6 hours of holding it. This is effing ridiculous. I cut a huge hole in a diaper and put it on him and sat him back on the potty (he's watching Nemo) and put a tub of warm water in front of him and stuck his feet in it. I just want to yell and scream I'm so frustrated, I'm so SICK of being in this house, I'm so SICK of being in this room. I just want to cry.

I really really want to strangle people right now who bitch that their child didn't train until 2-2.5, etc., or that they "still have accidents sometimes." WELL SO WHAT???!!! CRY ME A RIVER. Ugh. Yes, today is a bad, bad day. :

Well, ds ended up holding it for 6 hours, and I called TEACCH and they said abandon ship and to put a diaper on him so he didn't get an infection or bowel obstruction from holding it. So I put the diaper on and of course not 2 minutes later he peed.

TEACCH said they don't think he's doing it out of manipulation or control, and intellectually I know that...it still felt that way yesterday. But anyway, they said they need to sort out whether it's a sensory issue or an autism "routine, routine, routine" issue, as in it's his routine to pee in the diaper and he just can't break it.

They're going to brainstorm and come up with a new plan and get back to us and come back out to our house. Adamsmama, I will happily share with you whatever plan they give me, maybe we can both get our boys finally out of diapers.