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My DD was born 9/11/05. Without fail any time someone asks and we respond they do this, "(ominous voice) Ohhhh, really? Awww that's rough". Or, "Really, a 9/11 birthday?" I'm shocked everytime someone acts like my DD being born on 9/11 is some great misfortune. That was a lovely day for my family thankyouverymuch. Also we're talking 9/11/<b>2005</b>. I don't like to snap at people, but as DD gets older, I certainly don't want her to feel bad or awkward about her birthday. Anyone have anything I can counter with? Perhaps just matter-of-fact asking them whythey're so shocked.<br><br>
Just wanted to add for clarity's sake, I do know <i>why</i> they say it(9/11/<b>01</b>), but I still think it's rude and inappropriate.
 

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I have a friend who knows someone whose due date was 9/11 so was induced to avoid that possibility <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> . Having a birthday on 9/11 is a great affirmation of life. I can't think of a better date if one had to choose <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> .
 

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My dad's birthday is 12/7 (Pearl Harbor Day, for those of you who've forgotten), and PHD used to be a much bigger deal culturally- when he grew up in the 50's/60's it was still "the day that will live in infamy".<br><br>
I think he just kinda dealt with it. It must be annoying, though. I'd tell people what 4evermom said. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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My dh's b-day is 9/11. My father's birthday is 12/7 and my brother's is 1/28. Although all three birthdates have caused people to say "oh you poor thing", it really depends on the people involved.<br><br>
Although it's meaningful to many older Americans, December 7th does not generally prompt a "poor thing" response from my own age mates since the events of Pearl Harbor are not "personal". And although my brother got odd looks at his birthday parties for a few years after the Challenger Disaster, no one turns their head now. My dh didn't celebrate his birthday in 2001 or 2002, but no one has said anything when went out to celebrate this year or last year.<br><br>
I'm sure that when your child is a little older and really understands her birthday (as a time of celebration), her age mates wont make her feel uncomfortable! There's nothing better than a celebration of new life and growth.
 

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I think that is awful. Especially for your little one. How is it HER or anybody elses fault. What a blessing on such a dark day. I am glad your family has been given a blessed opportunity to celebrate life on that day as opposed to mourn. For the recod though I have heard stories like that, regarding reactions of births, surrounding Pearl Harbor day for a few years after it happened as well.
 

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My daughter's birthday is also Sept 11 2005 and I get the same comments from time to time. I do my best to ignore people's rude remarks, but there are times when I want to tell them to shove it!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
My hope is that in a few more years when our kids are older there will be enough distance from the actual event that people don't automatically assume that it's a terrible birth date. Yes, it's an event that we don't want to forget, but let's not treat it like it's a cursed date for the rest of eternity!
 

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I have a friend whose own bday is 9/11, and whose son was born on 9/11/01, and she says exactly the same thing - the one thing that kept her happy that day was having her little boy in her arms, and she gets to be happy every 9/11, even while knowing that it is a sad day for so many.
 

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When I was in the hospital with my daughter a couple of weeks ago we were talking about how many Moms will be induced early this summer because of June 6th....6/6/06. If their due dates fall around that date.
 

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My best friend's first baby was born early the morning of 9/12/01, and her name is Liberty. You can just imagine the comments they get. They had actually planed to name her that the whole preg, but almost changed their minds the events of the day before.
 

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Don't worry about them Every tho that was a sad time. Its not your fault you baby was born on that day. To me a baby being born what ever the date is. It's a blessed event.
 

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Thanks for the support everyone. I agree, I see it as a blessed event. Hardly something to see as a misfortune.
 

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Don't worry about it. It is, in the end, another day. The fact that something happened on that day that was horrible a few years ago was that day, not your babe's birth day. That is what my husband always says about his birth day which is the day that John Lennon died. Happy 8th birhtday - so that year was tough for him.
 

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I would just always counter with some sort of comment about how your daughter is a beautiful reminder of what goes right in the world. Sometimes people just can't help but focus on tragedy, you can help them see beyond that!!
 

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<b>When I was in the hospital with my daughter a couple of weeks ago we were talking about how many Moms will be induced early this summer because of June 6th....6/6/06. If their due dates fall around that date.</b><br><br>
I'd think I'd have to name my child Lucifer if he was born on that day.<br><br>
j/k<br><br>
DH's birthday is Christmas. You wouldn't believe how many people feel sorry for him because of it.
 

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My birthday is 25 December so I get the pity looks all the time, I just say I don't know any different so it's all the same to me. I had a boyfriend whose birthday was 1 April boy did he cope that one. The worse one I think would be 29 February as you would only get a birthday every 4 years. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief">
 

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My husband LOVES having xmas as a bday; I don't understand why everyone gets pity-y about that. you might get less stuff (horror of horrors) maybe?<br><br>
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My birthday is 12/7 and I was asked since I was tiny if I knew what happened that day. I honestly think being quizzed about it all the time as a child influenced my interest in history. Learning from history is pretty important so I think in a way it was nice to have something that big happen on my bday. I also remember some pretty depressing birthdays though when all attention was on memorials and things like that. The ones that I can think of like that were when I was a teen or tween and it's not hard to think of things being depressing during those ages.
 

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my daughter was born on christmas. my whole pregnancy people all told me how terrible for her to have a birthday so close to christmas and certainly if her birthday was on christmas, she'd just be totally ripped off. People need to get perspective, there are much worse things to have happen than have a birthday on 9-11 or on christmas. I can only hope that that is the worse thing she has to face in her life<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My DD was born 9/11/05. Without fail any time someone asks and we respond they do this, "(ominous voice) Ohhhh, really? Awww that's rough". Or, "Really, a 9/11 birthday?" I'm shocked everytime someone acts like my DD being born on 9/11 is some great misfortune. That was a lovely day for my family thankyouverymuch. Also we're talking 9/11/<b>2005</b>. I don't like to snap at people, but as DD gets older, I certainly don't want her to feel bad or awkward about her birthday. Anyone have anything I can counter with? Perhaps just matter-of-fact asking them whythey're so shocked.<br><br>
Just wanted to add for clarity's sake, I do know <i>why</i> they say it(9/11/<b>01</b>), but I still think it's rude and inappropriate.</div>
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...And you would be absolutely right, it is very rude and as you very well know we live in an unfortunately rude society. I think it will get easier once 9/11 isn't so fresh in our minds. As far as a comeback I always suggest humor<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">: , it tends to lighten the mood- I might say something to the effect of "hey im not complaining i'll never forget her b-day now that its so significant (not insinuating you'd forget your DD B-Day in ANYWAY just making a point)<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/femalesling.GIF" style="border:0px solid;" title="Femalesling">:
 
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