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grrrrr. so is sex just plain NOT comfortable for anyone else??? i have been DYING to do the deed, we finally get around to it last night, try 3 or 4 positions, and i am just like, nope, this is SO not working.<br><br>
nothing was comfortable. is there something about the position of the cervix at this point in pregnancy? ahhhhhhhhh! i am soooooo freaking annoyed!!!! will it get better or worse? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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Some people love to DTD when they are pregnant and others just hate it.. The cervix position changes frequently during pregnancy, give it a week and try again. You may find it a bit more comfortable. My current issue with DTD is that DH's skin literally burns me down there <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> ... so not much going on over this way.
 

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I'm with ya ladies! I want to dtd, but when it comes right down to it, I don't want to anymore bc it's really uncomfortable!!! I hate that! Plus, I'm not exactly feeling my sexiest right now, so that makes motivation lower.
 

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It's quite uncomfortable for me, and for him, too, since I'm so freakin' heavy (compared to my usual). Last night while he was gone for the evening, I tried to take care of things myself (*cough*), and I couldn't get comfortable enough for that, either. Sigh. The spirit is willing, at least.
 

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Oh yes! Libido is off the charts, and nothing doing cuz I can't get comfy or just can't um keeps things going due to lack of energy. I am right there with ya!
 

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We've only been doing "other things", DTD just isn't working (nor is it appealing to me at all).
 

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thanks...this is a relief to know i'm not alone. though sorry you are all dealing with it in one form or another as well. boooo!!!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> last time dh and I dtd the next day my sciatic flared up and has been a major issue for the last 2ish weeks...to say the least my libido WANTS it but my intelligent self is rolling its eyes and snorting cause I will not suffer that pain AGAIN!
 

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I'm a big fan of continuing to try things to see if you can make it work for you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> With DD we had to get pretty darn creative position-wise, and we ended up discovering some pretty neat things that worked well for us. Variations of the scissor position (perpendicular to each other) worked well. (google it and there are some non-explicit black and white line drawings that show what I mean in the first results). Try using pillows in a variety of ways as well. I found both this time and last time that while getting "there" takes a bit more work when pregnant, the "there" is actually even better with the grand finale heightened with all that extra blood flow.
 

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DTD feels so much better to me when PG due to the heightened sensations from extra blood flow... but yeah, positioning can be awkward or different. I found that stuff I wasn't a big fan of before works great and my fave is not comfortable at all. Trying again in awhile is a good idea and be gentle with yourself.... it won't last forever. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I have a lessened libido, but i think it is mostly because i associate sex with pain now... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I think i have undiagnosed vaginal vestibulitis, which has gotten worse while PG.<br><br>
AND, does anyone else get such an INTENSE, SEVERE contraction after orgasm? It is way way worse than the worst of my (fairly frequent) braxton hicks. It scares me, which makes me associate sex with fear, which doesn't do much for my sex life.<br><br>
Sigh. This is probably contributing to my overall depression and anxiety. Not getting enough endorphins!
 

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I want to do it all the time, but doing it and being comfortable is getting old lol
 

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So far we have yet to find a position that is both comfortable and satisfying (for me). Oh well, at least one of us is enjoying it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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I'm not even going to lie, DTD has been so uncomfortable for me lately, I usually just take care of things myself. When we do get intimate, we usually just stick to hands and mouths. Sex is so awkward right now I usually want to just give up half way through if we even try.
 

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My libido has been up and down during this pregnancy, now it's definitely UP again. There's only one position I find even remotely comfortable, and it's ok- it used to be one of my favourites, but now it's just "meh". Mostly we're "hands and mouths" over here too, though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Yep...since the first trimester. It's gotten worse too as I've gotten bigger. I also find my O's are stronger but way shorter and getting there is much too fast and easy for me these days. I think I'm just too sensitive right now- blood flow or whatever. Coming so fast and then wincing in pain is way sexy...NOT. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/disappointed.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="disappointed"> I want my old O's back! Dh and I were lamenting and longing for non-pregnant sex last night... that is one thing we really WON'T miss about this period of our lives. I'm really, really hoping things can go back to feeling normal again after baby.<br>
I know it'll be a while until I'm healed up enough and then- well, we'll have a baby! So I've been really wanting to kind of enjoy sex these last few weeks when it's "just us". It's not easy though.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">AND, does anyone else get such an INTENSE, SEVERE contraction after orgasm? It is way way worse than the worst of my (fairly frequent) braxton hicks. It scares me, which makes me associate sex with fear, which doesn't do much for my sex life.<br><br>
Sigh. This is probably contributing to my overall depression and anxiety. Not getting enough endorphins!</div>
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This is totally, completely normal and nothing to be afraid of. I remember being afraid a few times with DD b/c it made the braxton hicks worse. If you are worried that it's going to put you into labor, that wive's tale only works if you are already on the cusp of real labor. This might not work for you, but knowing they are harmless, I kind of look forward to the braxton hicks post DTD as it kind of spreads that good energy around and if I focus on the underlying sensations, it's kind of like extended after glow. If it is seriously painful though, the best way to relieve that is to change positions ASAP. Also, it's the prostaglandins (sp) and not just the O that causes them--you might try one round w/ a condom or other way of limiting exposure to them. I find that towards the end like this when the BH can make it hard to sleep sometimes, that if DH "finishes" another way or if I get up and wash right away, that can make things more comfortable.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I want my old O's back! Dh and I were lamenting and longing for non-pregnant sex last night... that is one thing we really WON'T miss about this period of our lives. I'm really, really hoping things can go back to feeling normal again after baby.<br>
I know it'll be a while until I'm healed up enough and then- well, we'll have a baby! So I've been really wanting to kind of enjoy sex these last few weeks when it's "just us". It's not easy though.</div>
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yes, yes to all this! I am super nervous about it never being the same again. Sigh.<br><br>
HOWEVER, DH and I finally DTD yesterday for the first time in 9 weeks or so, PHEW! I think i had built it up to the point where i was fearing it so much it killed my libido. It was NOT the nicest experience we've had together but I felt so triumphant afterward! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><br><br>
ETA: thanks for the reassurance about the post-O contrax. I know they are nothing to fear but they are honestly not very comfortable, and i used to love that post-coital ocean of comfort.... sigh.
 

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We've had success with: side-lying and with me on top (slowly and carefully, lol). I know that pg ladies are supposed to spend some time every day on hands and knees, but my belly just feels really heavy that way. Also partially sitting up, like on the edge of the bed and facing each other seems pretty good, too!<br><br>
I hope you're able to figure out a couple of positions that are more comfortable! For a couple months there we both had a big drop in libido and didn't enjoy much of what we tried, but now we're back, yay! And hopefully can enjoy loving until the baby comes coz I'm sure we'll both be too haggard for much excitement for quite a while after the birth.
 

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ahem...for ladies with sciatic trouble I would highly caution against any sort of ahem hands and knees postion for long periods....definatly set me into a world of hurt!!!<br>
After an "o" not only does my uterous cramp but I get severe (like don'tmake me move) round ligament pain that feels like giant charlie horses if I get up to fast....I have to lay still for like 5 min and then have dh help me up. SO attractive...dh finds it hysterical though...
 
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