afterthough: I am a little curious how many women tear in the upper soft tissues?? I read that the perineum is a big concern for a lot of women. I believe the water softend my perineum which is why it did not tear, on the other hand it also softned the upper tissues which may have led to such a big tear. Also I remeber weeks of itching, discomfort with the stitches, I have already decided to not stitch if my perineum were to tear, has anyone not used stitches with tears in the soft tissues?? Midwifes, your input please??