[jemmyk]

Today I'm angry. I've been spotting and bleeding for over 3wks. I had an u/s on Mon. and the found that the baby stopped developing at 7 or 8 wks (The baby would be 10wks and 3days today). I felt so much greif and sadness for days and still do but today I feel anger. I feel like my body is betraying me because it is holding on to this "non-developing" baby inside of me. I feel like I'm stuck. I can't move on until it's gone because every day I bleed and I wonder 'is this the day the baby will pass out of me?' which is so scary to have to even think about. I'm angry, I'm sad, I'm overwhelmed!
I don't think anyone can prepare for how devastating a miscarriage can be. Not only do you lose a baby that you've been trying so hard to conceive and look forward to taking care of but the effect that it has emotionally and physically is so overwhelming. And I know that it will get better one day but I just never realized it was such a long process.
I really want to let my body do this naturally but I feel like my body is working against me. I don't really know what to do.

 

[zannster]

I totally understand being angry. I think that's a normal feeling. As for what to do (how long to wait), I can't answer that. I'm fairly new to this. But I'd think that it would be good to have it taken care of soon.

 

[marinak1977]

I am so sorry for your loss... I felt like when had my m/c the prolonged bleeding was like adding insult to injury.

I hope you find the decision that's right for you - there are a lot of people here who tried both options (wait, or D&C) so hopefully someone can give you some perspective.

 

[Cuddlebaby]

...and the drastic changes in hormone levels doesn't help either. huge very empathetic hugs to you and kudos for allowing your body to do what it already knows how and when to do.

 

[Amy&4girls]

I'm so sorry.

 

[jackson'smama]

i'm so sorry for your loss. hugs to you. i understand the anger, the fear, the sadness. and you're right - it is devastating.
i miscarried thursday before last. i found out on the 16th of March (10 w, 4 d) that baby stopped developing at 9 weeks. i'd had some spotting at that point. then nothing for two weeks, then a week of light spotting, then the miscarriage finally "started" and lasted off and on for 3 days, then the residual spotting started and is still slightly there. it's a long drawn out process for many women it seems.
and for me, the grieving that occurred upon finding out was reintensified when i finally passed everything a few weeks later. it's like two deaths back to back. seek support wherever you can get it. you deserve it.
follow your body and your heart.
this place was my rock - i know you can find support here if nowhere else.
again, hugs to you.

 

[jemmyk]

Yesterday I passed the baby and the placenta. I would have been 11wks pregnant today. I never knew nor never could have imagined how heart wrenching and painful this would be.
I am so thankful for this site. I read almost every day of the experiences of other women and the support that is given has been so comforting (as comforting as it could be when your dealing with such a sad experience).
To be able to go to a place where people truly understand the emotion and pain. I received info on what to expect that seems hard to find anywhere else.
I want to give big hugs to everyone that has experienced such a loss.

It is comforting for me to know that God holds my baby in His memory and that He views my baby as a life that has been lost even at only 7wks gest.
Thank you all for your support.