I’m at my wit’s end on this one. We have a 6 week old baby and a toddler who will be three in a few weeks. The toddler is very loving and doting of the baby, always hovering to make sure she’s ok, helping out with changing diapers and feeding (mostly by nursing her doll beside us!) and giving the baby lots of kisses. But now it has also become her outlet for aggression, and she is constantly putting her hands all over that baby’s face and kissing her VERY hard (to the point of the baby crying). In retrospect, we probably created this issue by giving her so much positive reinforcement for being sweet to the baby, but live and learn. So, here’s where I’m out now. We have tried multiple “boundaries” such as – the dr. wants us to only kiss the baby on her hair (the baby did have a stomach flu and cold by the time she was a month old due to big sister passing it on through hands and kisses, I’m sure), hands are for arms and legs – not faces, etc. It doesn’t seem to matter – she is always all over the baby with her hands, trying to put her fingers in the baby’s mouth and kissing her. I have tried every kind of correction technique I know that is GD, and nothing is working. And this is a frequent, constant thing (she will dash into wherever the baby is, throw her hands all over her, and dash back out) so its hard to be consistent with my response because sometimes I’m nursing or cooking or whatever. I try to head this off by giving the toddler lots of extra attention when the baby is asleep and when dh is home, but I need advice on handling the issue when it occurs. I’ve tentatively settled on the boundaries being “one kiss on the hair and absolutely no hands on the face,” but I’m open to suggestions if you have better ideas. What are your suggestions for consequences if she does it? Seriously, I’ve tried ignoring it (or removing the toddler without acknowledging anything since I think this is all just about attention), being stern with a “no,” getting her to apologize, time out, and none of it has worked, but maybe I’m just not being consistent enough. There is a ton of change in our lives right now (a new baby, I’m usually a wohm and am home on maternity leave, dad is usually a sahd and has just gone back to work, and potty learning), and I’m way more stressed at home than I ever have been in dd#1’s life (although that is getting better as I figure out this 2 kid life), so I know a lot of this is normal, but I still have to deal with it to protect my little one. Plus, I don’t think it is acceptable to let the toddler think she can act this way towards her little sister, or anyone. Sorry for the long post, but I really need some good advice, and wanted to spell it all out. TIA!