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I'm not sure about this one. I've read that children shouldn't sleep with babies. We have a 35 month old ds and a 1 day old dd. Not letting ds sleep in our bed tonight, as he gets rough sometimes, rolling around. But I'm afraid I'm going to have to spend half my night putting him back to sleep in his bed. What do other people do with two little ones?
 

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First of all, congratulations on the birth of your dd!!<br><br>
When my ds was born, my dd was 4 and half, and she still slept in our bed. I didn't leave her alone in bed with the baby. I've read that children just don't have the same sleep-awareness that grown-ups do, and they should not sleep in bed alone with a baby. Dr Sears says you should take this precaution until the baby is about 9 months, and that is more or less what I did. My new baby would sleep between me and wall, with older dd on the other side of me.<br><br>
Hope that helps.<br><br>
And congratulations again!!
 

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I don't have any experiance with htis but I have decided that when we do have dc#2 he/she will sleep with me and dh will have to sleep in another bed (either in the same room or in another bedroom) with dd until dd#2 is old enough to invice dd back. Just an idea for you.
 

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We have a crib sidecar with the bed, so the baby sleeps in the crib next to me and my 2.5 y/o sleeps on th other side of me, and then my dh on the other side of him. We have a king size bed and the sidecar crib so lots of room for all of us. Hope that helps, Corrie
 

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We have added a newborn to our family bed two different times. Each time we put the toddler between mom and dad and the newborn between mom and a babygate. It has worked fine for us both times. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Spouse slept in a twin bed beside my bed -- to be available to help. So then it was just me and the kids in the queen bed. I slept between them. The older one tended to end up toward the foot of the bed somehow. Dh would move him back to his own bed at some point during the night.
 

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Congratulations on the newest addition to your family! Our sons are 25 months apart and the older one was still on bed with us when the baby was born. It was very important to us to allow him to stay in our bed then because we didn't want him to feel his "space" had been replaced. About 2 months before the baby was born we started having him sleep on the outside of my husband with a toddler rail, instead of between us. It worked great having the baby in the middle. You definitly don't want the toddler <i>next</i> to the baby. The have no body awareness and kick, roll and thrash all night. But they are fabulous to have in bed with you as long as someone is between them. It also might ease mornings for you a bit. You get to cuddle with the one that wakes up first and then cuddle with both of them which can bring some sibling harmony. Good luck!
 

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Congrats!! :)<br><br>
We have a very active sleeping 2.5 year old, and I'm expecting in Feb. So we have slowly moved her out of our bed into her own bed. At present dh sleeps on the floor in dd's room but it's working great.<br><br>
I have a waterbed now, and so will be buying a cosleeper for the newborn. I also wanted it because dd likes to join me in bed in the morning and I just do NOT feel comfortable with her and a newborn in the same bed. We are going to be very firm with her about not ever getting in the cosleeper, for the safety of the baby. But dd is welcome to come snuggle with me as long as she wants.<br><br>
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I had a 33-month-old and a newborn (and dh) in bed with me. My dd is very attached and would not move to her own bed. So dh and I slept between dd and the baby- I mean it was baby, me, dh, then dd in a row and that worked. As ds got older, i'd often find dd curled up next to him- she wanted to be near him. I was probably too cautious in keeping them separate, but everything worked out pretty well except having two wild kids in bed is sometimes driving me crazy- the baby is now 18 months old.
 

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I have a 2 year old and a newborn (3 weeks). We put our little one in between Dh and I in a snugglenest. Dd doesn't always sleep with us, but when she wants to come in our room, she sleeps on the other side of Dh. The snugglenest has side "barrier" type things on it to keep her (or Dh and me) from rolling on the little babe. It is working pretty well so far.
 

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Long past this stage but remember it well.<br><br>
Just wanted to add, if I wanted to get up in the morning and both kids were still asleep, (yes, it happened sometimes, or at naptime), I would try to put the newborn in the bassinet so the toddler wouldn't roll onto the newborn.<br><br>
Also, beware of nursing baby in bed during the day and a toddler coming flying into the bed and landing on said newborn.
 
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