[luckylady]

I am actually worried that my 18 mo DD is TOO independent! I had read that AP fosters independence and it certainly seems to be true for us. When we go places she wants down and wants to explore on her own. I make sure I take her lots of places where this is safe to do, like the park, Gymboree, etc. I know it's healthy and she is finding her autonomy, but it makes me sad

I am glad we are still nursing and cosleeping so I have SOME snuggle time with her! She certainly reminds me of me. *sigh*

She HAS to learn things on her own - I was baking and she came into the kitchen and I said stove is HOT and touched it and said "ouch, hot - no touching stove" to show her it was hot. So what does she do? Shakes her head no, raises her eyebrows at me and walks right over and touches the stove. Pulls her hand away laughing and yells "HOT!" My mom said I did the exact same thing.

Anyone else have an independent, free-spirited, adventurous toddler like I have?

 

[wwhippetcrazy]

It's kind of funny....all the comments and looks from people who thought that Dd would be too "dependant"...now she's the exact opposite.

I just read the chapter in Kid's Parents and Power Struggles about your kids temperment, very interesting. I mention this cause some of our "independant moments" turn in to power struggles.

Jen

 

[Almamiel]

Very, Very independant - and she's only 13 months! She's had a very strong will since birth and she's certainly not slowing down now. Both her daddy and I are the same, so it's really no surprise.

: She won't even hold our hands - I mean, I know AP is supposed to foster indepenance, but man, oh man...

 

[Parker'smommy]

I put somewhat because ds usually has to feel out the situation first, and then after he gets comfortable...watch out!! I love to see the faces of family and friends that said that ds would be too clingy because of the way we were parenting him!! He definitely feels comfortable to explore because he knows that I will be there if he needs me. We were at the mall play area today and he wanted me by his side when we first got there, then he got comfortable and I sat watching him, then periodically he would come over to me and put his head on my lap and say, Mama. A Grandmother commented on how sweet he was ( of course after thinking he was a girl..lol!!)

 

[natesmommy126]

It just depends. Sometimes he screams to do it himself, other times he will scream saying he can't do it. Ya just never know from moment to moment.

 

[mama_kass]

My little one has just reached toddler status, but he is very independent and highly active. My first wa more laid back, and wanted to cuddle. It's neat having two boys with two completly different personalities!

 

[luckylady]

CK'smama, isn't that the truth! I forgot about he!! hour, which is me trying to make dinner. The other night DD was clinging to my legs crying and I was cutting chicken so I couldn't navigate the kitchen with one hand, and I kneeled down and said "honey, you can wither cry at my legs or go in your room and read a book until mommy's through. I can't hold you now" and she went to read a book!

I was amazed.

What does amaze me about it is exactly the fact that people all the time said I was creating a dependent child. I know a lot has to do with individual personality of the child, but I know that AP has helped her feel like it's safe to explore the world.