Just wondered how any of you might be succeeding at keeping your toddlers from killing each other?<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fencing.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fencing">:<br>
Mine went from playing so well together at around 2yrs, to fighting constantly at 28 months... its so exhausting, I try to do a quick thing away from them and there is a scream, then then another, then I have to RUN quick to them but usually end of too late, one takes his hands and smacks the other's head (hand on either side), then the other grabs a handful of face and tightens his grib in a pinching clawing motion... they have cuts on their faces... we TRY to keep up with cutting nails, but haven't been 100% successful, so that's one thing...<br>
I separate, get into the hitters face and say "we don't hit" and I give them ideas of what they can do instead: we say "please don't take that, I'm playing with that" and honestly it seems to work occasionally. If I'm sitting nearby, I'll hear one of them say something like that, using words instead of screaming or hitting or scratching, and I'll say "good job! you said that soooo nicely" but other times that won't even cross their minds, and still others they'll try that once then go directly to hitting and scratching....<br><br>
phew.<br><br>
It just seems consant lately!<br><br>
Anyone else going through this? Anything you have found that helps?<br>
I thought about permanently physically separating them for a few months...<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
Mine went from playing so well together at around 2yrs, to fighting constantly at 28 months... its so exhausting, I try to do a quick thing away from them and there is a scream, then then another, then I have to RUN quick to them but usually end of too late, one takes his hands and smacks the other's head (hand on either side), then the other grabs a handful of face and tightens his grib in a pinching clawing motion... they have cuts on their faces... we TRY to keep up with cutting nails, but haven't been 100% successful, so that's one thing...<br>
I separate, get into the hitters face and say "we don't hit" and I give them ideas of what they can do instead: we say "please don't take that, I'm playing with that" and honestly it seems to work occasionally. If I'm sitting nearby, I'll hear one of them say something like that, using words instead of screaming or hitting or scratching, and I'll say "good job! you said that soooo nicely" but other times that won't even cross their minds, and still others they'll try that once then go directly to hitting and scratching....<br><br>
phew.<br><br>
It just seems consant lately!<br><br>
Anyone else going through this? Anything you have found that helps?<br>
I thought about permanently physically separating them for a few months...<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
