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Just wondered how any of you might be succeeding at keeping your toddlers from killing each other?<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fencing.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fencing">:<br>
Mine went from playing so well together at around 2yrs, to fighting constantly at 28 months... its so exhausting, I try to do a quick thing away from them and there is a scream, then then another, then I have to RUN quick to them but usually end of too late, one takes his hands and smacks the other's head (hand on either side), then the other grabs a handful of face and tightens his grib in a pinching clawing motion... they have cuts on their faces... we TRY to keep up with cutting nails, but haven't been 100% successful, so that's one thing...<br>
I separate, get into the hitters face and say "we don't hit" and I give them ideas of what they can do instead: we say "please don't take that, I'm playing with that" and honestly it seems to work occasionally. If I'm sitting nearby, I'll hear one of them say something like that, using words instead of screaming or hitting or scratching, and I'll say "good job! you said that soooo nicely" but other times that won't even cross their minds, and still others they'll try that once then go directly to hitting and scratching....<br><br>
phew.<br><br>
It just seems consant lately!<br><br>
Anyone else going through this? Anything you have found that helps?<br>
I thought about permanently physically separating them for a few months...<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Not gone thru it yet, but at least there are other here who can commiserate!
 

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Mine are 16 months and both are both BITERS! I think I will just lurk and take notes here...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/notes2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="notes right-handed">:
 

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My twins are not 2 yet......(god help me, yikes) But with my older two, I used 123 magic. When I taught kids with behavioral issues, it was the technique we used and with both them, and my kiddos, it really worked for us. It does involve separating your child from the situation for 2 minutes at their age but it really worked for me. I feel like it diffuses situations before someone gets hurt or I get more and more furstrated because I can;'t get someone to stop. I have a 2 year old now and my twins are 15 months old. I need a tool that is concrete, not emotionally spiraling, and works AND keeps my babies safe if DD is starting to behave really aggressivly as 2 year olds tend to do. Please, please if you do choose to use 123 magic, get the book. There is more to it than just counting to 3 and putting into timeout. There are nuances that make it more effective and keep it positive. When I put DD in now (she is almost 3) as we reach the door to her room, I can see her eyes scan the room for something to do while she is in there and she beelines as soon as she is in for a different solo activity....situation diffused!<br><br>
GL!<br><br>
Tassy<br><br>
DS 6, DD 2, 15mo DDs
 
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