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Toddler not eating many solids anymore

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I am tandem nursing my kids and my toddler is hardly eating any solids. This morning she had a few cheerioes and a half an apple.
I offer her food all the time and she often takes a bite or two then says she is all done.
Otherwise she is just nursing.
Last night she woke up at 3am crying that she was hungry.
I am barely getting any sleep between my 2 kids so I wasn't very thrilled (she wakes more than my newborn).
Any experience with this?
I will add that it's very difficult to limit her nursing since I am nursing my son as well (hard to be a moving target for one).

Can she be sustained on breastmilk alone?
If so I guess I'll just see how it goes.
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My son who is younger than your firstborn is almost entirely sustained on breastmilk. So yes, it's possible.

Is it possible your DC is getting sick? When DS had what we assumed to be rotavirus, he wanted nothing to do with food. He was seeking his best food.

It also goes along with his teething; yesterday his 2 year molars (which have been working their way through since he was 18 months) started going again and he hardly wanted food at all again.
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My 19 month old son still has days where he is mostly nursing and eating very few solids. However, he is growing well, and he eats solids on some days more than others, so I don't worry.
Thank you for posting this. My 17 mo dd has been doing the same thing and I've been wondering what is going on. Thanks to this thread, I'm sure now it's her molars coming in. I can feel them just coming through the gums.

my 18 month old ds, who usually eats like a linebacker, has also not been eating as many solids lately. he has 4 molars coming in and is having a rough time, especially at night. he has been nursing a lot more, some days (like today) i think he spends most of his waking time nursing. in fact, as i type this, i smell a poopy diaper that smells suspiciously like that of an exclusively breastfed baby.
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Hi there, I'm new to this forum.

I'm in the same boat. Our DCs' are almost the same ages (the little ones are a day apart...Congrats
) I can really understand what you're going through and know how even though we love these little ones,it can be quite draining.

I'm so far from an expert I don't feel comfortable giving "advice", but I can share that for my toddler it feels connected to the arrival of DS. I figure it's her way of assurring our bond. Physically, I'm trusting her body bc she's looking and acting fine (honestly, I'm jealous about the 1/2 apple).
As far as frequency of nursing, during the day I initiate nursing when possible and try to encourage close cuddly activities together (reading...).
This has somewhat decreased the daytime frequency.
At night, DP and toddler are sleeping buddies with her on the outside. When she stirs at night, DP comforts her and often she'll fall back asleep. Of course if she does want to nurse, no problem.

I will admit some nights I'm so fried I've asked DP to sleep with her in the spare bedroom. This might not be a popular suggestion, but I think the close proximity at night causes her to wake and want to nurse (she can smell mama
Doing this occationally helps revive me a bit and "a happy mama..."

Take care, trust your instincts and what works for you and your family
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My oldest did the same thing when her baby sister was born. It's perfectly normal and healthy, but it's also OK to set some limits if you're feeling overwhelmed. I'd gently encourage the toddler to eat and drink more, rather than trying to get her to nurse less.
MY nurslings are about the same ages as yours and I too am feeling fried.DS usually eats the patterns off of plates but he got sick and so I spend my nights switching from one baby to the other.I think I've had 2 hours of consectuive sleep since Sat. I'm glad I'm not the only one going through this.
I don't ever subscribe to my own threads and I need to...
Thanks so much for all the replies.

Well, DD is still mostly nursing although she seems to be sleeping better.
I think.
You all know how nights can be a blur.

I am trying to offer more solids and more juice and water to drink.
She's still taking 2 bites and walking away.
I'm trying to set limits (like counting to 10 aloud then making her stop).
She always nurses again just minutes later so I'm not sure how that helps.

Making it all more fun is the thrush we got rid of that has now returned.
I slacked off on the probiotics.
Won't do that again.

I guess as long as she's not losing weight and looks healthy there's only so much I can do. Can't force her to eat. As she gets older I can rationalize with her more. It may be a waiting game.
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My oldest nursling is THREE and has basically quit eating since my baby was born in December. It drives me nuts, especially with the night nursing, but he's in the 95th percentile (at his 3 yr. checkup) so I know he's getting enough even if I want to wean him every 5 seconds.
My 3 year old has also stopped eating much since the baby was born and all that yummy milk came in. My doctor says he will be fine but just needs a bit of protein because the breast milk doesn't have enough for a 3 yo. I make sure he eats some protein before bed because otherwise he wants to nurse all night, just like the baby. Yawn. When he protests I tell him that if he doesn't eat mama will be really grumpy in the morning!
i know this thread is eons old. But I'm now experiencing this now with my kids who are 2 years and 1 week apart. If anyone has any tips, that'd be great.

Part of me hopes that it's ok for our older child to nurse as much as he does (cuz that's all he's doing). It's such a struggle to get him to eat.
Reading these posts makes me feel a lot better about my DS, who is only 14 months old but hardly eats any solids. I didn't know that there are 2 & 3 year old toddlers who are thriving on a nearly exclusively BF diet! I have always trusted DS's own internal wisdom & never pushed solids, but there have always been people (a leery pediatrician, a busy-body relative, etc.) who have voiced their concerns &/or constantly nag at me to "feed that baby real food". I usually respond with an easy-going "Well, he sure doesn't look like he's missing any meals!" (he is in the 95th percentile for weight & 80th for height)... Now I feel more justified in listening to my baby rather than letting all of the little suggestions and criticisms push me into second-guessing my own maternal instinct. Thanks to all of you!
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