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Hello,<br><br>
So we have a transvaginal ultrasound coming up in two weeks and no possible childcare. My dh, myself, and dd (3 1/2) are all going. Would you bring a 3 year old? Should my dh just play with dd in the waiting room? We both really want him to see the ultrasound too, but are unsure about dd. What do you think?<br><br>
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So we have a transvaginal ultrasound coming up in two weeks and no possible childcare. My dh, myself, and dd (3 1/2) are all going. Would you bring a 3 year old? Should my dh just play with dd in the waiting room? We both really want him to see the ultrasound too, but are unsure about dd. What do you think?<br><br>
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We had to do a transvaginal with me (despite being 21 weeks at the time... we had to make sure placentas location over the cervix)<br><br>
The tech told my mom and daughter to step out for a moment while we got situated and then they would be called back in when we were ready... I was laying there with a sheet over my legs so no one could see anything.<br><br>
I would double check with the tech before you go in but if they were to do the same for you I would not have a problem taking her again!
 

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My dd came to all my appts w/me including 2 IUIs, transvag u/s, etc. She was 2 at the time. She laid right on the table with me. It really wasn't a biggie. They put a sheet on your lap for modesty. If you want to explain what's going to happen you can just say they're going to take a picture of your uterus and they use a special camera that goes inside you. (if she even asks).
 

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i never brought my kids to a transvaginal u/s but the lights were dimmed and everything was covered as long as your DD wasn't standing by your feet looking up under the sheet she wouldn't even know what was going on..
 

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My DD was 3.5 when I had mine, and if she had not had school, I totally would have brought her! <b>ctdoula</b>'s explanation is great, and I know that my DD LOVED seeing baby on u/s (a quickie at 10w b/c we couldn't find a hb with doppler)--it made it so much more real for her.
 

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I had my son (2y8m at the time) with me the last time I had a trans-vag. As others have said, there is a sheet for your modesty. I don't think he really noticed anything when the tech had me insert it.<br><br>
The only bad parts for that u/s was we had to wait a long time to be seen, and then we found out the baby wasn't viable. DS had a harder time with the waiting and then understanding why Mommy was sad than he did with the trans-vag u/s itself.
 

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I had my 2yr old DD & 5 yr old DS with me and no DH or childcare for my 6w3d u/s and they were fine. DS played with toys, and since my OB was male, there was a nurse in the room who played with DD when she climbed off the table. I did warn DS that if he didn't want to see my bottom, he should look away when I get on the table.
 

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I have BTDT too many times to count with and without DH there, something with mulitple DC with me. Unless you child will be situated at your feet I doubt they will even know what is going on. Most protocals for doing trans. vag U/S are pretty prudent meaning sheets some even having you insert the wand etc. but if its really bothering you you can have DH say he will step out for a sec while you get situated and call him in when your on the table and the U/S is beginning.
 

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My only concern with this would be that dd would learn/think it was ok for HER to put things into the same spot on herself. BUT, I'd be in the same situation as you and I take her everywhere I go. I think with a tiny bit of effort, she doesn't need to see that anything went into your vagina.
 

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We took my daughter (much younger, under 1 year old at the time)... but really as long as they don't see the actual insertion, I wouldn't worry. They have that huge piece of paper-thingy covering the area, and the attention will probably be riveted on the screen. If you're unsure, have them step out while you get situated.
 

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Both my husband and my 2.5 year old came to my 7 week transvaginal ultrasound. Everyone was fine with it. I wasn't at all concerned about her seeing the insertion or anything though.
 

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I would have some concerns about my DD seeing/knowing about something being inserted into the vagina, only because as a PP said, I don't want her getting ideas about experimenting with things and hurting herself. I normally don't have much concern about DD being around nakedness/self care/etc, but I did have to rethink whether I she should see me inserting a tampon (way back last year....yikes!...it's been so long already!), as she saw once, and I could see a wave of concern/puzzlement cross her face.<br><br>
I say as long as there is some discretion about the wand issue, go for it.
 

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My daughter came to my first ultrasound, and it was fine.<br><br>
For the 18 week anatomy scan, the nurse wouldn't let her come into the room. She said it was an hour appointment where the only thing she would be able to do is sit in the dark, and there was no way that a toddler that young was going to put up with that. I was angry at first, and tried to argue, but I did realize that she was right. My husband stayed in the waiting room with our daughter, and the nurse called him in for the last 10 minutes or so while she looked for the sex and printed out the pictures.<br><br>
So that's something to keep in mind, if this is for a longer appointment. Even if the nurse had let my daughter in, I'm sure it would have been a disaster.
 

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My 3 year old son came to mine. He was more concerned that they turned the lights off to see better then anything else. He just sat in the chair and asked question after question.
 

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Thanks for all the replies. I was worried about dd seeing the insertion because she imitates everything! The posts about having dd and dh wait outside until everything is situated makes sense, and somehow I had forgoten about the sheet which should keep everything covered when dd does come in. Thanks for your help! I feel much better about it!
 

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how far along are you? they wouldn't even allow my dh to come into *my* transvag/u/s because I was only a couple of weeks along, and there wasn't much of anything to see or "show off" rather.<br>
Here they only let the dad/sibs come in after it's already inserted anyhow, and they do their findings (measurements etc..)first.Then after that you're discreetly covered. Just keep your LO up more to your head so she doesn't see the tech moving it around etc.down below. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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