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I'm a first-time mom and haven't been around babies much. I'm willing to research, but haven't yet invested in books because of the overwhelming choices.<br><br>
Any advice on these topics would be sooo appreciated!<br><br>
1. How to dress a newborn for cosleeping? Swaddle or no swaddle?<br><br>
2. Cover the baby's feet with the blanket, or push blanket down? One blanket for bed, or one for mom, one for dad?<br><br>
3. Peggy's editorial recommends not changing diapers during the night. What about rashes? We're using cloth, but I feel guilty if I don't change or check a diaper.<br><br>
4. Do you think dad has just as good of an instint as mom? Those two are in bed right now and I sometimes want to check on them.<br><br>
5. Would one glass of wine with dinner at 7 p.m. really affect cosleeping at 11 p.m.?<br><br>
6. I look like crap (circles I've never before had are under my eyes) and am starting to get headaches (I think from fatigue). Do you count how much you sleep? Should I nap to ensure I get X amount of hours' sleep?<br><br>
(These may be more for the bfing forum)<br><br>
7. How to deal with leaking breasts and the baby spitting up all over the bed? Then we're all wet while sleeping.<br><br>
8. If switching breasts, then how do you not disturb the baby, since isn't the goal to wake them as little as possible?<br><br>
I welcome any other advice, no matter how basic you might think it is! Thank you!
 

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<i>1. How to dress a newborn for cosleeping? Swaddle or no swaddle?</i><br>
Whatever works for your baby. I was hell-bent on swaddling, but it did not work for my DS - he hated it.<br><br><i>2. Cover the baby's feet with the blanket, or push blanket down? One blanket for bed, or one for mom, one for dad?<br></i><br>
For us, we did one blanket for mom, one blanket for dad, and a very light knit blanket half or 3/4 up DS's body. Verrry light blankie.<br><br><i>3. Peggy's editorial recommends not changing diapers during the night. What about rashes? We're using cloth, but I feel guilty if I don't change or check a diaper</i>.<br>
Check it when you're up for bfing. If it's cloth and wet, I agree with you that you shouldn't leave it for hours. Have supplies right by your bed and change right in bed to minimize disruption (better yet, have DH do the change while baby is latched on your breast!)<br><br><i>4. Do you think dad has just as good of an instint as mom? Those two are in bed right now and I sometimes want to check on them.</i><br>
I think it really depends on the person. I found my DH's instincts were so-so - I mean, nothing ever happened, but a few times I caught his arm flopping over DS. In retrospect *I* would have gotten more sleep had we had a guard rail or co-sleeper on my side of the bed instead of having DS between us...but on the other hand I think it contributed to bonding for all three of us, to have him in between us.<br><br><i>5. Would one glass of wine with dinner at 7 p.m. really affect cosleeping at 11 p.m.?</i><br>
Nah.<br><br><i>6. I look like crap (circles I've never before had are under my eyes) and am starting to get headaches (I think from fatigue). Do you count how much you sleep? Should I nap to ensure I get X amount of hours' sleep(These may be more for the bfing forum)<br></i><br>
Sleep when you can/when you feel like it. Let all other obligations go for a while (housework, returning phone calls, etc.) I would think that tracking your sleep hours specifically would just be another thing to do, another stressor. You are going to look like crap for a bit - it's a badge of motherhood! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br><i>7. How to deal with leaking breasts and the baby spitting up all over the bed? Then we're all wet while sleeping.</i><br><br>
Are you using prefolds or flats? Lay a few out in a broad-ish area where baby lies. Top the arrangement with a recieving blanket, maybe. When it's wet, toss it in the diaper bucket & replace.<br><br><i>8. If switching breasts, then how do you not disturb the baby, since isn't the goal to wake them as little as possible?</i><br>
Baby will probably not be that disturbed, really. If they are still hungry, they'll just happily latch on and get back to it. Have you tried sidelying nursing yet? This takes a bit to get the hang of, but it's a godsend! If you are small-breasted enough, you can switch sides without rolling over (just rolling your "bottom" boob under you and switching to the "top" boob.) . Alternatively, try scooping Baby onto your chest and rolling over to your other side with baby secure against you - with practice, you'll even be able to do this while baby is still latched on.<br><i><br>
I welcome any other advice, no matter how basic you might think it is! Thank you!</i> You're bringing back memories of those days for me....I'm nursing my 26 month old now, and it's a whole new world, but it all happened bit by bit, day by day. Don't expect everything to be perfect yet, go with the flow. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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We're on baby #4. Here's my answers, not to be confused for actual advise. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/pinktongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="raz"><br><br>
1. Diaper, cover, t-shirt or light cotton jammies, socks, cotton flannel swaddle. If it's very cold, we use a fleece swaddle.<br><br>
2. Sheets and comforter on the bed, cover up to about baby's waist. I use an additional fleece cover up around my upper half and over my shoulders, but that's just me. My body temp goes up but I feel cold when I'm sleeping. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
3. I change 'em if they're poopy or soaked, but not if they're just a little wet. We use cloth, too, and have never had a rash that wasn't from thrush or a food issue.<br><br>
4. I know my husband is very aware of baby in the bed, but mommy instinct should not be ignored, ever. If you want to check on them, do so. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
5. Probably not, but I don't drink when I'm pregnant or breastfeeding at all. Not a judgment, just a personal choice.<br><br>
6. I don't keep track of how many hours I've slept. I do take a nap with baby in the late morning or early afternoon if I'm very tired. I never sleep more than 2-3 hours during the day, though, or it's too hard to sleep that night.<br><br>
7. Crib sized waterproof pad under a fleece blanket, just where me and baby sleep. The fleece keeps us from feeling wet, and the pad protects the mattress.<br><br>
8. Hehe, this one's a bit more complicated. I actually have to get up on hands and knees, scoot baby over, and resettle on the other side if that's what I want to do...but usually, I don't. I'm extremely large breasted, so, unless I need to roll over anyway, I just scoot a bit further away from baby and sort of...roll my top half over enough that the top boob half dangles right into his mouth. LoL<br><br>
My advise would be, relax and don't worry so much about the "right" way to do things. Find your and your baby's right. Good luck and happy nursing!
 

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1. How to dress a newborn for cosleeping? Swaddle or no swaddle?<br><br>
Listen to your baby. Mine HATED to be swaddled and slept HOT. She slept in a t-shirt and diaper most times.<br><br>
2. Cover the baby's feet with the blanket, or push blanket down? One blanket for bed, or one for mom, one for dad?<br><br>
We all used the same covers- a sheet and a light blanket. Up to my shoulder, down at her waist.<br><br>
3. Peggy's editorial recommends not changing diapers during the night. What about rashes? We're using cloth, but I feel guilty if I don't change or check a diaper.<br><br>
We always checked and changed if wet.<br><br>
4. Do you think dad has just as good of an instint as mom? Those two are in bed right now and I sometimes want to check on them.<br><br>
Depends. Some do, some don't. Be a touch wary until you know for sure.<br><br>
5. Would one glass of wine with dinner at 7 p.m. really affect cosleeping at 11 p.m.?<br><br>
Doubt it.<br><br>
6. I look like crap (circles I've never before had are under my eyes) and am starting to get headaches (I think from fatigue). Do you count how much you sleep? Should I nap to ensure I get X amount of hours' sleep?<br><br>
I never counted. BUT do try to nap when baby naps.<br><br>
(These may be more for the bfing forum)<br><br>
7. How to deal with leaking breasts and the baby spitting up all over the bed? Then we're all wet while sleeping.<br><br>
Sleep on a towel <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> And we always had a prefold under dd to catch any assorted wetness.<br><br>
8. If switching breasts, then how do you not disturb the baby, since isn't the goal to wake them as little as possible?<br><br>
We put dd on a folded receiving blanket or a little changing pad and I slid her over and I turned over.<br><br>
Hope that helps!<br><br>
-Angela
 

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I'm having baby #5 but really I think everyone figures out what works for them and their baby... everybody and every baby is different! But this is what we do...<br><br><b>1. How to dress a newborn for cosleeping? Swaddle or no swaddle?</b><br>
All of my babies have been swaddle babies. They wouldn't sleep without being in a tight baby burrito.<br><br><b>2. Cover the baby's feet with the blanket, or push blanket down? One blanket for bed, or one for mom, one for dad?</b><br>
We always start off with baby between a bedrail and myself so dh and I had one blanket and I had a separate baby blanket for baby if she/he needed it.<br>
If the baby was between us we'd just use separate blankets, I found baby just got too warm being swaddled and under our blankets.<br><br><b>3. Peggy's editorial recommends not changing diapers during the night. What about rashes? We're using cloth, but I feel guilty if I don't change or check a diaper.</b><br>
I've always changed the baby every time he/she woke up. This is my first cloth-diapered baby so I'm not sure what I'll do. Especially in the early weeks my babies pooped every time they ate so I always changed them.<br><br><b>4. Do you think dad has just as good of an instint as mom? Those two are in bed right now and I sometimes want to check on them.</b><br>
I'm really not sure about this one because my dh has sleep apnea so that affects his instincts. I really don't know about men without sleep apnea.<br><br><b>5. Would one glass of wine with dinner at 7 p.m. really affect cosleeping at 11 p.m.?</b><br>
I have absolutely no idea.<br><br><b>6. I look like crap (circles I've never before had are under my eyes) and am starting to get headaches (I think from fatigue). Do you count how much you sleep? Should I nap to ensure I get X amount of hours' sleep?<br></b><br>
Eye circles and fatigue most definitely come with motherhood. I try not to count how much sleep I get because it just makes me feel MORE tired knowing how little it is. Most definitely nap if you can!! I never took advantage of "sleep when the baby sleeps" when I could and I really really should have. Now I only wish I had the opportunity to do it!<br><br>
(These may be more for the bfing forum)<br><br><b>7. How to deal with leaking breasts and the baby spitting up all over the bed? Then we're all wet while sleeping.</b><br>
Until my breasts settled down I laid on a bath towel, under baby's space in the bed I always laid down a receiving blanket - that way if she/he spit up I would just whip it away and put down a clean one. This saved me A LOT of laundry - and saved us from a pee/breastmilk bath every night.<br><br><b>8. If switching breasts, then how do you not disturb the baby, since isn't the goal to wake them as little as possible?</b><br>
I would switch when the baby would let go of the first breast, or sometimes when he/she would slow down... sometimes it meant sleeping lop-sided if he/she didn't stir enough to go to the second breast but there was no way I was going to wake them to get them to nurse the other side.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">8. Hehe, this one's a bit more complicated. I actually have to get up on hands and knees, scoot baby over, and resettle on the other side if that's what I want to do...but usually, I don't. I'm extremely large breasted, so, unless I need to roll over anyway, I just scoot a bit further away from baby and sort of...roll my top half over enough that the top boob half dangles right into his mouth. LoL</div>
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Hehe, here I thought it was easier to switch boobs sidelying without rolling over with my ittybittytitties.<br>
I LOVE your idea of a crib pad & fleece blanket - must try to remember that for my next one,
 

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I will answer all your question in how I did it.<br><br>
1. How to dress a newborn for cosleeping? Swaddle or no swaddle? <b>I believe I swaddled the newborn because it kept his hands out of the way.</b><br><br>
2. Cover the baby's feet with the blanket, or push blanket down? One blanket for bed, or one for mom, one for dad?<b>My first two were born in the winter so I had the blankets pulled up to my shoulder. Since baby was at breast level that made him covered also. My body made a tent for the sheet over him. I did have to wear a long sleeve top because I could not hold the cover tight around me.</b><br><br>
3. Peggy's editorial recommends not changing diapers during the night. What about rashes? We're using cloth, but I feel guilty if I don't change or check a diaper.<b>We changed oddles of diapers over night. Everytime he would nurse he would poo. They did not like poo diapers.</b><br><br>
4. Do you think dad has just as good of an instint as mom? Those two are in bed right now and I sometimes want to check on them.<b>No, the newborns did not sleep next to dad or big brothers.</b><br><br>
5. Would one glass of wine with dinner at 7 p.m. really affect cosleeping at 11 p.m.?<b>I did not restrict my drinking. I would have a wine a few days a week. I did not see a difference in our sleep.</b><br><br>
6. I look like crap (circles I've never before had are under my eyes) and am starting to get headaches (I think from fatigue). Do you count how much you sleep? Should I nap to ensure I get X amount of hours' sleep?<b>I slept whenever he slept and then some with baby #2 and even more with baby #3. Always sleep when baby sleeps! I was exauseted even with that. I don't work well with 3 hours at a time. Getting through the first few months was difficult in the sleep department. Especially when you have to care for others during the day and can't get the naps you need.</b><br><br>
(These may be more for the bfing forum)<br><br>
7. How to deal with leaking breasts and the baby spitting up all over the bed? Then we're all wet while sleeping.<b>I put a waterproof pad under the two of us and had a towel handy. I had to change my clothes, his clothes multiple times. Frustrating but necessary. I would put towells to my breasts to keep the leaking at bay.</b><br><br>
8. If switching breasts, then how do you not disturb the baby, since isn't the goal to wake them as little as possible?<b>I did not switch at each feed. I would offer the other one at the next feed. I would only feed when he was awake, remember I did not like 3 hours sleep stretches. 4 hours was a blessing!</b><br><br>
We well with your newborn, to be back there.......
 

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1. How to dress a newborn for cosleeping? Swaddle or no swaddle? <b>DD was a hot baby, as well as PR just being hot in general, so at night when sleeping between us, she was warm enough in just a dipe and a shirt. We did swaddle for naptime occasionally.</b><br><br>
2. Cover the baby's feet with the blanket, or push blanket down? One blanket for bed, or one for mom, one for dad?<b>I had my own blanket, and so did dh. I like to be covered up all night, he does not sometimes. Baby never had a blanket, too hot for one.</b><br><br>
3. Peggy's editorial recommends not changing diapers during the night. What about rashes? We're using cloth, but I feel guilty if I don't change or check a diaper.<b>We changed dipes but tried to be as quiet as possible, no turning on lights or talking, etc.</b><br><br>
4. Do you think dad has just as good of an instint as mom? Those two are in bed right now and I sometimes want to check on them.<b>DH tells me that during the first few weeks of us cosleeping, I would push him away if he got too close to dd. I don't remember ever doing that, but he says I did. But after awhile, it wasn't necessary anymore as he became more aware of dd. I think as long as dad doesn't do drugs, drink a lot or have some sort of sleep disorder, cosleeping can be safe. After all, in many countries around the world, everyone sleeps together because there is only one bedroom.</b><br><br>
5. Would one glass of wine with dinner at 7 p.m. really affect cosleeping at 11 p.m.? <b>I really doubt it, especially if it's a small glass. If you see there is no effect, then carry on. If you see an effect, you'll know to stop then.</b><br><br>
6. I look like crap (circles I've never before had are under my eyes) and am starting to get headaches (I think from fatigue). Do you count how much you sleep? Should I nap to ensure I get X amount of hours' sleep? <b>Welcome to motherhood! You're probably going to look like crap for a while! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Do nap while baby's napping! Too many moms try squeezing in housework and cooking and laundry while baby's napping, and end up exhausted. Forget the house and the dishes, they will still be there. Get your rest. And don't count the hours! That will just make you more anxious, bad for sleeping. Putting away the alarm clock is another good idea, so you're not looking at the time.<br><br>
If during one of your baby's naps, you're not sleepy, do something relaxing, hot shower, good book, chocolate. Don't waste such precious time on housework. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"></b><br><br>
(These may be more for the bfing forum)<br><br>
7. How to deal with leaking breasts and the baby spitting up all over the bed? Then we're all wet while sleeping. <b>I used prefolds on top of a waterproof mat.</b><br><br>
8. If switching breasts, then how do you not disturb the baby, since isn't the goal to wake them as little as possible? <b>I just picked up dd and moved her from one side to the other. Then again, I had giganormous boobs! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> But you'll eventually find a way to switch that will disturb everyone as little as possible.</b><br><br>
I welcome any other advice, no matter how basic you might think it is! Thank you! <b>1) Everyone in the first few weeks wants to help out with the baby. NO! Get them to help do dishes, laundry, food, etc. This is <i>your</i> time to bond with baby.<br>
2) Everyone will also have advice. Tell them you'll keep what they said in mind, then discard. Do things the way <i>you</i> feel is right. Listen to <i>your</i> baby. After all, you were the one that carried that baby for nine months and pushed them out, not them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"></b>
 

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Oh wow! Thank you so much! I'd been doing some of these things and wondering if it were the "right" thing to do. Thanks for the advice: if it's working, it's right for us.<br><br>
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