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Hello.<br>
I'm writing with a great many questions.<br>
My partner and I are considering moving from Indiana to North Carolina. I have really liked the stuff that I have read about the Mount Airy area. Though we have by no means made a final decision on where we are going.<br><br>
Thank you ahead of time to anyone that can answer some of our questions<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
A bit of bio about us:<br>
We are both 25 and trying to conceive our first child now. We are both into sustainable living and are hoping to get land and build a cob house. We are going to be raising our children vegan and unschooling them.<br>
With that being said all of our moving decisions are based on the best place to do some of those things.....so here goes the questions.<br><br>
1. How easy is it to homebirth and get all of the documents afterwards?<br>
2. Is homeschooling easy and are there any good links about the info involved in it?<br>
3. What area would be the most friendly to anarchist-ap parents? We are hoping to go pretty rural but still go into town to visit people.<br>
4. Where are the best no vac-prolong breastfeeding doctors?<br>
5. For any of you that own land/houses...where is a pretty afordable area?<br><br><br>
Thank you thank you...to anyone who can respond.<br>
Lovingly,<br>
confused in Indiana<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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1. How easy is it to homebirth and get all of the documents afterwards?<br><b>Relatively easy. I've had 4 HBs, 3 of which happened in NC. I've had varying degrees of ease in getting a birth certificate afterwards, but certainly its not an impossibility. There is a big underground homebirth movement in various parts of the state so naturally HB is going to be less of a hassle in those areas.</b><br>
2. Is homeschooling easy and are there any good links about the info involved in it?<br><b>There are LOTS of HS'ers in NC. We don't HS right now but I did a fair amount of research on it. You need to have your kid registered by age 7 with a name of your "school." You have to keep end of grade test data that can be audited at any time. There are lots of co-ops and groups out there...both religious and secular.</b><br>
3. What area would be the most friendly to anarchist-ap parents? We are hoping to go pretty rural but still go into town to visit people.<br><b>The Triangle!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbsup"> But I'm pretty biased, LOL! Asheville is pretty cool, too.</b><br>
4. Where are the best no vac-prolong breastfeeding doctors?<br><b>We've got a few in the Triangle area.</b><br>
5. For any of you that own land/houses...where is a pretty afordable area?<br><b>If you're looking for a more rural area there is plenty of affordable land surrounding Chapel Hill/Durham/Raleigh. Places like Siler City, Pittsboro, or Garner are all still pretty rural and affordable.</b>
 

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Subbing and hoping that you get more info! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> DH is being transfered either to Texas or NC. We are from Mass. His company is in Raleigh - is that where 'the triangle' is?
 

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Mt Airy does not spring to mind when i think of anarchy in NC...<br><br>
you know MT Airy was the basis for the Andy Griffith show and Mayberry, right? it's been awhile since i've been there and there may perhaps might be more of an organic sustainable movement there, but i've not heard of it. i'd steer you toward the triangle (raleigh, durham, chapel hill/carrboro) or asheville as well. there are plenty of small towns around chapel hill that are sustainable-friendly. you might like to look at <a href="http://www.carolinafarmstewards.org" target="_blank">www.carolinafarmstewards.org</a> which will (if they've gotten through updating their site) a look at sustainable/organic/certifiedorganic farms in NC and SC.<br><br>
hth -- think you got good answers to all your other questions...
 

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i am in durham and pretty much have options for all of those things in my life here.<br><br>
we had a homebirth, don't vax and if we actually ever took our babe to the doc, they would be supportive of no vax, BF, homebirth, etc. we live on an acre in a passive and active solar house with compost and a woodstove. i am vegan. my town, durham and my house are very affordable. i live a mile from the mall and dh commutes about 10 miles to work in downtown durham.<br><br>
pittsboro is pretty exciting these days for sustainable life. they are huge on organic farmers, have a great breakfast shop, community independent school, farmer's market, habitat thrift store but is still small and rural. it's affordable and not too far from larger cities should you want them.
 

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1 - alternative health practices (AP docs, no-vacs, HB, etc.) is all doable... provided you are smart enough to network with like minded people (which, duh, you are obviously!) and i can't imagine it being horribly difficult in comparison to indiana (where i was born and have lived as an adult.) there is a lot of intelligent life out here and NC is probably considered to be one of the most civilized states in the south. that said....<br><br>
2 - i am biased against raleigh. i grew up there and find the wacky shake-and-bake boom there to be mostly sad and mildly amusing. i like durham waaaay more, but it is a long-neglected city with those kinds of problems. the joke when i was growing up was that it was 9 parts ghetto, 1 part duke. that's not so much the case now, but rebirth (and the cleanup of decades of city corruption) does not happen overnight. it is the single most affordable city in the triangle, depending on what kind of neighbors you want. chapel hill and carrboro are pretty nice too but getting more expensive by the minute. pittsboro is happening. hillsborough is okay. if you're talking about mt airy, you're probably looking for more rolling elevations? keep to the west side of the triangle; it kinda bottoms out and gets really hot on the east/southeast sides. asheville and the surrounding mountain counties are probably the "hippest" places to be (while also simultaneously being just as backwards as the rest of the south....) and my personal favorites. you might also like boone, which is not very far from mt. airy. the last time i passed through there (mt airy), it was suffering from the same economic depression (post manufacturing collapse) as much of the rest of central NC (particularly along the VA state line). so those areas are definitely more affordable... but they are not very happy places to make your vegan home, i would think. we've been looking for a good semi-rural place to park ourselves out here for the last year, and we have visited a lot of sad mill towns. we haven't picked a spot yet (our version of affordable is most people's version of bargain basement) but we've crossed a lot of towns off the list.<br><br>
3 - the only catch i can remember for homeschooling here is that (at least 10 years ago) you had to submit official HS transcripts to the state with your application to homeschool to prove you're competent to school your kids... and for some reason my dad's weren't good enough and they wouldn't let him qualify as my homeschool teacher. he was educated in indiana. maybe get some transcripts ahead of time?<br><br>
4 - a lot of old hippies settled down in various weird spots in NC. if you can find a food co-op (store or buying group) you might find some hidden pocket of like-minded folks in an unexpected place. there's even an amish community in caswell county with a good bulk/natural foods store. i've been all over the country and i still come back here more than anywhere else. good luck and happy travels.
 

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9 parts ghetto, 1 part Duke. Funny. Not!<br><br>
We are in Durham and love our neighbors! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Edited - I was hijacking the thread - going to start my own! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Mt Airy does not spring to mind when i think of anarchy in NC...<br><br>
you know MT Airy was the basis for the Andy Griffith show and Mayberry, right?</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: She took the words right out of my mouth. If anarchy friendly and homebirths and crunch is what you want, Mt. Airy is NOT where you wanna go. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: The triangle is where you need to head. Durham or Chapel Hill or Carrboro, specifically.<br><br>
I'm with supervee, I <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb"> Durham. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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It sounds like you are thinking of Asheville<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">3 - the only catch i can remember for homeschooling here is that (at least 10 years ago) you had to submit official HS transcripts to the state with your application to homeschool to prove you're competent to school your kids... and for some reason my dad's weren't good enough and they wouldn't let him qualify as my homeschool teacher. he was educated in indiana. maybe get some transcripts ahead of time?</div>
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Now you just have to prove that at least one parent has a high school diploma or GED.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Yup...except for the affordable land thing Asheville meets all of your wants. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
There IS affordable land in the area, but you really have to go at least 1/2 hour outside the city for land to be truely cheap (in my 'perpetually broke' opinion, anyway<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: She took the words right out of my mouth. If anarchy friendly and homebirths and crunch is what you want, Mt. Airy is NOT where you wanna go. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: The triangle is where you need to head. Durham or Chapel Hill or Carrboro, specifically.</div>
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Totally agree with this. I grew up about 1 hour from Mt Airy--- very Bible oriented area.<br><br>
Definitely seek out area in the Triangle or Asheville.
 

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and i didn't mean to imply it was; mostly i want to make sure anyone moving here has a real idea of what unique challenges it poses to new residents. let's face it; durham is more like oakland than berkley. my husband and i have tried twice now to rehabilitate old, neglected properties in durham with not much more help than heel dragging on the part of the city. in fact, i just got my first serious reply from the city regarding project #2 and i've come to the conclusion that they would rather demo the house we're trying to save, rather than work with us in a time frame acceptable to us (we're expecting #2 in july). this doesn't surprise me as the mayor is part owner of one of the demo companies here in town that gets grants from the city to do the demo. the police/sheriff's dept. are constantly tarnishing the idea of "to protect and serve" with fun things like cocaine trafficking. the downtown development folks are notoriously anti-small business, anti-free expression, and anti-independent. the owner of our beloved jo & joes of downtown fame (now closed) was told six years ago NOT TO OPEN by these people, presumably because they didn't have a "hand in". ALL THIS SAID: we are still looking at property (today in fact) in durham, because it is cheap enough to provide reasonable opportunities for the uniquely minded to participate in creating a city that is a wonderful place to live. right now there are some very nice pockets. and it is nowhere near as bad as when i was a teenager. just in the past three years, since we started working on projects there, the improvement is palpable. there's a good co-op! there's a farmer's market! real estate is affordable! i'd rather have another vegan anarchist in durham than asheville, myself; they have plenty!!! come help us! portland oregon has more crime per capita! help us fight the good fight for homebirth and health care choices!<br><br>
i apologize to any durham mamas that i may have previously offended. i will buy you all coffee at elmo's. hopefully we will be relocating to the east end soon.
 

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FPS I think we disagree on what Durham Is and What Durham Should Be, so I will spare you my point-by-point "but, but! what?!" But I'll take you up on that cup of coffee! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">FPS I think we disagree on what Durham Is and What Durham Should Be, so I will spare you my point-by-point "but, but! what?!" But I'll take you up on that cup of coffee! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Yeah, I'll take you up on the coffee, but can we go to international bean trader's on 9th instead? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:
 

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Ooo, me likey. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Hi, we're in the process of moving and were also looking for a pediatrician and were recommended to Dr. Ramsdell by a couple of people. We're set up to try here because she's totally pro bf and delay/no vaccs.<br><a href="http://www.ramsdellpediatrics.com/" target="_blank">http://www.ramsdellpediatrics.com/</a><br><br>
Incidentally, we found a house (rent) in Alamance County (technically Graham) but South of Saxapahaw and just 15 minutes west of Carrboro. It's on 3 acres and super quiet.<br><br>
Laura<br><a href="http://movingtoargentina.typepad.com/pregnantexpat" target="_blank">http://movingtoargentina.typepad.com/pregnantexpat</a>
 

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Hi Laura! That area is beautiful. Glad you found a place!
 

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alright ladies... coffee, monday morning, 10:30 am. bean traders is fine (it's funny not calling it blue coffee) if someone can figure out where their bathroom is! look for the toddler flirting with anything that moves and the mama with the blue caribiners in her ears. downstairs, more than likely. look forward to it!!<br><br>
by the way, i'm not buying quadruple mochas. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
look forward to meeting y'all!
 

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Sweet! I am going to check my calendar as soon as I stand up. (stuck under a sleeping baby, y'know)<br><br>
Quintuple mochas, really? Wow, you are too generous. heehee (Don't worry, I'm a latte gal.)
 
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