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Hey there,<br><br>
As a birth enthusiast (birth junkie, lol), I have been looking for info on close pregnancies, but can't seem to find what I'm looking for. So, I thought I'd turn to you ladies for some practical wise advice.<br><br>
I've had two close pregnancies (sorta planned) and am considering a third. My first two pregnancies were nearly 5 years apart they were both full term and healthy HOWEVER six months after baby 2 was born I got pregnant with number 3. Again, healthy full term pregnancy. Baby 3 is now 15 months old. Would there be any cause for concern if I were to get pregnant again? I'm mean physically speaking. Could I be denied midwifery care? I'm young'ish 27 years old. I'd like to have one more go 'round to try for that boy baby <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> .<br><br>
I dislike the medicalization of birth in healthy women and if having too many close pg's puts me out of the low risk category, then I'd wait another year or so. I'm hoping for a homebirth this time too.<br><br>
Are there any other reason (medical or otherwise) for waiting? I feel fine, dd 3 is starting to sleep through the night and I feel up for the challenge.<br><br>
Any advice? Comments, questions and personal experiences? Am I crazy?
 

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I've personally never heard of someone being denied care because of their preg's being too close. It is considered to be hard on the body though, and since it would be your fourth, you might want to take that into consideration. ALso if your third is still nursing, that can be really hard on you and her. I have heard it takes around 4 years for your body to recover from having a babe, I believe I read this in Robin Lim's book about after you have a baby.<br><br>
Of course, it's up to you. And I don't think you would be denied care. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"> I personally wouldn't do it yet, simply because you're really young, and there's no rush in terms of that. I think it can be really hard having them close together. For a variety of reasons. If you are really concerned, I would talk to your local MW and see what they say about it. As it sounds like your only true concern. Good luck
 

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I have absolutely no medical knowledge on the subject but I'll throw in my opinion, lol.<br>
My first two were 18 months apart and my "baby" will be 2 when this one is born. My personal and very untrained opinion is that if your body is ovulating than you are physically ready to carry another baby. Emotionally ready is a different matter. I started ovulating when my baby was 4 months old but there was no way I was ready for another. But if your body and mind are both ready than I say go for it.<br>
So far this pregnancy is as uneventful and healthy as my last two. I have been seeing and CNM and the words "high risk" have not been mentioned once. I feel fine, a bit more tired chasing two children around and carrying one, but I have been gaining wieght fine and feeling really really good. 2 years apart really isn't too close. Even LLL suggests a space of 2 to 3 years. I don't think you would have any trouble at all finding a practitioner to treat your pregnancy as normal.<br>
Good luck in your choice! I think I want to keep having them 2 years apart, but of course we will see how it goes this time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br>
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With 3 already, you know how pregnancy affects you. If you're feeling ready, I can't see why you wouldn't be.<br><br>
Just to put your mind at ease, schedule a pre-conception visit with a midwife. Mine had us in for 1/2 hour and didn't charge. Start pre-nates now and bring the bottle in with you for her to look at. Talking to her in person will do more for ya than asking us <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Good luck!
 

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well, as asomeone who has had close pregnancies I don't think anything of having babies close together. All of my babies have been healthy full term babies. (with the exception of our stillborn son - who died from a true knot in his cord - not preg related at all - just a fluke thing)<br><br>
First (DD) was born 5/98 - planned<br>
Second (DS) - not full term - was born 3/99 - not planned.<br>
Third (DD) was born 5/00 - planned<br>
Fourth (DD) was born 12/01 - again not planned<br>
Fifth (DD) EDD 12/03 - planned]<br><br>
My SIL has had very close pregnancies as have most of my friends. It seems the mentality around my circle of friends and family is kinda like have them now and get it over with instead of spacing them out. LOL<br><br>
Good Luck in whatever you decided.
 

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As far as the close pregnancies being hard on your body, it probably depends on the person. If you're in relatively good overall shape and not crash dieting, I think you'd be fine. My own great-grandmother had 18 (yes, that's eighteen) children, with two sets of twins, but still, she was either pregnant or nursing from the time she married until she hit menopause. She lived to be 97 or 98 years old. I know it's anecdotal, but still...I don't think I personally could handle 18, regardless of spacing, but I am having a second baby 18 months after the first one was born, as did my mother, and it hasn't been harder on me; my old OB did say that two years between pregnancies was ideal, but my pediatrician thinks closer spacing is okay, and I like her more than the old OB. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Just make sure you're eating well and getting plenty of that folic acid!<br><br>
ETA: And calcium and vitamin D, too.
 

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Just another reason to check this out for sure... Dh's aunt had 3 close pregnancies and on her 4th they made her get a d&c and not have the baby. They said her insides were all mush and she ended up having a hysterectemy...<br><br>
SO I am sure it was not the right thing to do at the time but it was 25-30 yrs ago so who knows what would have happened now but it was really sad for her and I don't think she has wanted to research to find out if she made a mistake.
 
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