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mine is one year old and i just am plan o'l sick of nursing at nite. back is achy and it would be nice if dd could sleep at daddys house once in a while. so, is 1 year too young to start night weaning?
 

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Yep. Way to young. Sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Personally I don't think one should nightwean unless they are ready for the child to wean all-together as that seems to happen a lot..<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> hope things get easier for you soon!<br><br>
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It really depends on the child really. Some babes can be gently eased into not nursing at night, some it is just too early for them. And while full weaning can be a risk, if a mama is on the verge of losing it and ending the nursing relationship because she is just feeling touched out, night weaning can sometimes help a tired mama continue with nursing during the day.<br><br>
Are you a single mom? I ask because you said "spend the night at her daddy's" It must be so hard to be the only one to do the day parenting AND the nighttime parenting!! But....just because you nightwean, doesn't always mean that your dc will stop nightwaking either. The two don't always go hand in hand, kwim?<br><br>
I nightweaned my ds when he was 25 months old or so and I had lots of help from dh and ds was actually very ready and it went smoothly. But....he still nightwakes. He just doesn't need to nurse to go back to sleep. A cuddle or pat on the back, drink of water is what he needs now. But dh is able to help me more with that since he isn't nursing. I'm in charge of the nursing babe, dh handles the weaned ones!! And my ds, at two years old didn't day wean when I nightweaned him. He went on to nurse into my 8 month of pregnancy ( I got pregnant right when he nightweaned!) with no milk for most of it!!<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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Being a single mama is pretty tough, I've been there! For 4 years I was there. It's hard to parent a young child completely by yourself day and night, especially being AP! Kudos to you! I hope you find a solution for you and your dd. It's hard getting no sleep at night, I am there now with my 9 month old. Waking every hour or more to nurse. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
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thank you for the support gals, I am a single mama , but dad only lives two blocks away and he is over at my place alot (i dunno if thats a good thing?) But, it is hard to be the only one there at nite. She is a good babe though, she wakes about two or three times at night, I try to not give her milk at first but if she starts crying i do....its gotten to a point where i sleep through her breastfeeding at night now. I tried counting how many times she nursed last night but i couldn't keep track. I think she is too young as well....
 

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My son's dad and I aren't together either. Around a year he started sleeping over about once a week, but continued night-nursing at home. At his dad's he slept through the night just fine from the first try, grrr. I night-weaned him a couple of months later, but regret it. I really think he was too young, but it was a really easy process and I was happy about it at the time. Within a few days he was sleeping through the night and has ever since (except now he gets up to pee at night, but goes back to sleep without nursing). We started doing two nights in a row over the summer (at 2.5) but usually he only goes over there two far apart nights a week (like Wednesday and Saturday). Julian is 2.75 yrs. and still nurses a lot at home, and definitely is nowhere near weaning.
 

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I have an acquaintance who nightweaned at six months (some allergy/medical issue that I don't recall exactly), but her daughter continued to nurse till she was over 3 years, so I don't think it necessarily leads to total weaning.<br><br>
If your sanity is at stake, you could give it a try and see how it goes. You'll know if she's really not ready. Also, if you ex partner is willing to try, she may be able to stay at his house and not nurse at night, while she would continue to nurse at night at your house. (If the milk isn't there, she might be able to do without it once in a while.)
 

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We nightweened over the past month and are still nursing during the day. I don't think it has to lead to complete weening. DP and I just moved in together, though, and he gets up with ds. I couldn't have done it as easily while I was single. I tried a couple times (just to try to get him to sleep for more than 4 hours at night) when we were co-sleeping just the two of us, and he just wouldn't have anything to do with it. Talk about a MAD baby. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blush"> - could have been timing though as he was just 1 yr at that point.<br>
He and DP have a good little routine now and it was not traumatic at all. DS and I will nurse before bed (either to sleep or close to) and then DP lays him down to bed and gets up at night with him.<br><br>
If you're set on night-weening, I think it would be a big help if your ex came over for the bed-time routine for a while and helped soothe ds to sleep. Also, follow your DS's cues, as usual, he'll tell you if he's not ready. At 12months, DS was definitely not ready, but at 13.5 months, he put up a little fuss (the toddler equivalent of "fine! be that way <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: ") and then settled down and fell asleep.<br><br>
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When my ds was around 13 or 14 months, he started waking up more and more at night to nurse. It started to drive me crazy because I just wasn't sleeping. At around 15 months when he cried every 1-3 hours to nurse (and there wasn't enough there to keep him happy), I night weaned. He still wakes up at night between 12 and 3am (he's 21 months) and comes in to sleep the rest of the night in our bed.<br><br>
But I have to tell you, it was rough, and I used hubby for calming at night A LOT. If I were single, I think it would not be worth the effort. Unless you aren't sleeping. That can ruin your nights and days. I (like most people) am a better parent with adequate sleep.<br><br>
In the end, you will do what is right for you and your baby.<br><br>
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I night weaned DS at 14 mos. He is still nursing, milk supply is fine, etc. He acutally seems to sleep alot better since we night weaned. We cosleep as well. I do agree with PP that night weaning might not stop all night waking. I night weaned DD at about 25 mos and she still woke often and still does at 5yrs old now. Good luck with what ever you decide. It's not always an easy decision or process, but your needs are important too.
 
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