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10. "I know what she'd love... some JELLO!" <oh yay, empty calories, lots of sugar. let's get that sweet tooth and taste for overly processed, unnatural foods started as early as possible.><br>
9. "You can get sugar-free JELLO!" <oh yes, that's much better. artificial sweeteners with the empty calories.><br>
8. "You can mash the rice too." <accompanied by a helpful demonstration, as if using a fork to smush a grain of rice is something I'd need assistance with figuring out><br>
7. "It's good to give her food on a spoon, so she'll know that food is only what Mommy gives her." <as opposed to allowing her to regulate her own intake by self-feeding><br>
6. "How about a PLAYPEN?" <no, thanks, I don't need a cage for my baby girl.><br>
5. "Everyone needs a PLAYPEN." <no, really, I don't want it.><br>
4. "How about {three pack of bibs, 3 little dresses, some pajamas, a few onesies, some socks...}?" <uhh, thank you, but we don't need it.><br>
3. "Not even the bibs?" <you already put a pack of 2 bibs in the cart.><br>
2. "<gasp> Not even a complaint!!" <well, duh, it's part of the responsibility of being a parent: even FATHERS CHANGE DIAPERS.><br>
1. "Weren't your parents IMPRESSED with her?" <huh? impressed? huh?><br><br>
Thank you for listening. This vent, brought to you by In-Laws, Inc., hopefully not to be repeated anytime soon.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> I like Jello!<br><br>
Sounds like they mean well, but are maybe a little overbearing... I know people like this, I try to chalk it up to a generation gap (esp. stuff like the playpen and the wonder at a man being able/willing to change a diaper).<br><br>
Were the bibs/pjs/onesies really ugly or what?
 

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Yikes! So exhausting, dealing with people like that...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> I like Jello!<br><br>
Sounds like they mean well, but are maybe a little overbearing... I know people like this, I try to chalk it up to a generation gap (esp. stuff like the playpen and the wonder at a man being able/willing to change a diaper).<br><br>
Were the bibs/pjs/onesies really ugly or what?</div>
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thank you for listening -- they weren't ugly, but I'm just trying to avoid accumulating stuff we really do not need. (And, like the bibs, there were already 5 onesies and some pjs in the cart.)<br><br>
I agree with the meaning well and the generational difference: they are loving people who are thrilled to death with their grandchild, and, even though they are ignorant about breastfeeding, they have been generaly supportive and not blinked an eye. So on the important stuff, they are great, and I am fortunate. And heck, I am fortunate to be in the position of turning down gifts like this: I know many families are scraping. So last night was truly just a vent borne of the frustration of a month's worth of visitors.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> I like Jello!<br><br>
Sounds like they mean well, but are maybe a little overbearing... I know people like this, I try to chalk it up to a generation gap (esp. stuff like the playpen and the wonder at a man being able/willing to change a diaper).</div>
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Uh, huh...a couple of years ago, we were visiting my in-laws, and having dinner at dh's aunt and uncle's place. DH's grandfather looked over and saw dh with dd sitting on his lap, and said, "say - you'd make someone a good wife". DH's uncle jumped in and started explaining that things have a changed, and dads are much more hands-on than they used to be. GFIL looked a little bewildered, but at least he wasn't condemnatory. He's in his late 80s or early 90s...can't remember which.
 

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So many people in our culture are conditioned to show love by giving *stuff* For some people, if you don't want to accept the things they are offering you (because you don't need or want them. cribs, playpens, extra onsies ect.) they can sometimes feel like you don't want to accept their love. I think that's why some grandparents go overbord they way they do. Rather than try to get them to stop giving stuff all together, a bigger task than I can take on<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I try to direct them to thing I <i>do</i> need. (We have plenty of PJ in that size. Maybe get some in a larger size for when she grows, you know how fast they grow at this age!)Or better yet, non material ways of showing love. ( bet dd would love it if you read her a story/sang her a song/played peek-a-boo)
 

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So that Mommy has to feed her for the rest of her LIFE?? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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That reminds me of the time my Grandma tried to give my exclusively bf 3 month old chocolate ice cream. She was very insistent that 3 month olds *could* eat chocolate and ice cream. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> That was followed by a story from her about the time she gave my father chocolate as an infant and he had tummy troubles for days. Grandmas are so funny.
 
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