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Please tell me I'm not the only one here who has done something like this.<br><br>
Yesterday, I had to go meet my husband downtown at a bike race. The plans got a bit screwed up, to the extent that I didn't get any lunch aside from a handful of grapes. By around 2 or 2:30, I'm getting pretty hungry and I mention to my husband that we should go get something to eat. Well, he wanders off and ends up talking with some people and it's over an hour before he's ready to go. Grrr.....<br><br>
So it's 3:30, I haven't eaten since 9 am, and we're just setting off to look for lunch. Every place we try is either closed for lunch, or he doesn't want to go there. My blood sugar is dropping lower, and lower and lower, and he's just ignoring the danger signs. Finally, he says, "I'm not that hungry, I think we're just going to have to pass on lunch. I don't feel like eating out with Molly right now anyway."<br><br>
(Keep in mind that we're in the middle of a busy pedestrian mall at this point. And we're on bikes, with my 2 year old in the trailer.)<br><br>
I'm sure I meant to explain, calmly, that I hadn't eaten, and although I appreciate how frustrating it can be to eat out with a fussy 2 year old, and I know he doesn't like to leave his precious bike outside for even the few minutes it would take to go in and order something to eat, I really needed to get *something* into my stomach before I get homicidal. Instead, it came out more like me screaming in the middle of the sidewalk "I need something to eat, and I F***ing need it NOW!!! I'm pregnant, my blood sugar is in my toes, and I don't give a damn what you think or what you want!!!"<br><br>
The stares from the couple with the baby walking by us at that point were priceless. (Him: shocked and appalled. Her: sympathetic)<br><br>
I took off, and went back to the first of the half dozen or so places that he had initially rejected as potential lunch spots, and ordered food for me and Mo. He eventually caught up, and after I had a few bites and calmed down, I relented and gave him some money so he could get himself something to eat. (He wouldn't admit, it, but his blood sugar was low and he was cranky, too.)<br><br>
I'm so embarrased at making such a scene!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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I had a meltdown yesterday (and the day before) too! Mine wasn't food related, it was hormones mixed with a high intensity emotional day.<br><br>
I'm glad you stamped your feet and chose to get some food!
 

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I had a total tantrum in the mirror section of IKEA yesterday. Poor DH...he was in shock as I just sort of lsot it at him.<br><br>
Of course I was totally justified <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But I apologized once I'd had a chance to sit down, drink some water, and eat a cinnamon bun
 

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DH and I just had a long talk yesterday about how, it would seem, I really have been less than kind to him lately...<br><br>
I can assure you that my husband wouldn't be denying me food at this point, however! He will get irritated and refuse to act until I state specifically what it is that I want him to make/fetch/steal for me, but he would NEVER ignore me saying I'm hungry. I think we all know that I would melt down at least as thoroughly as you did!<br><br>
I hope you guys didn't end up with bad feelings. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><br><br>
--willo
 

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LOL. I'm glad I'm not the only one!<br><br>
No bad feelings, thankfully. Once we got to the ice cream stage of the process, I was all sweetness and light again. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
The thing is, my husband KNOWS not to stand between a pregnant woman and food. He had just finished a bike race, and I think he must have been too tired to think straight.
 

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Oh poor thing... I totally understand, I have bloodsugar issues even when I am not pregnant and they are much much worse now...<br><br>
**Hugs** I hope that you guys can talk about it while you are calm and you can help him understand how important food is to a pregnant woman...<br><br>
~Steph
 

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I am a horrid person with low blood sugar.<br><br>
In January (so not even 'that' pregnant), I was on a business trip - the flight was an hour and half late (and is only 1.5 hours), the check-in at the hotel was long and the room at the end of a really really long hallway ... I was desperate for food (at 9pm+) and the phone wouldn't work.<br><br>
I had to phone the hotel on my cell to order room service and get the friggin phone fixed (little did I know there were two phones) ... either way, I ended up in tears ordering room service. I am still embarassed by the whole fiasco but I just couldn't cope otherwise. Thankfully - that was the last of my outburst - I eat constantly now - or get apple juice (I think I drink 3 or 4 cups a day ... alll right before dinner). Huge amount of calories but I am happier.<br><br>
I think had I seen your scene - I would have run to the restaurant to get you food. I hate that feeling!
 

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Oh mama!!!!!! I can't say that I haven't been there. No one messes with me when it comes to food!!! At least you gotyour point across<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I've been there. I can't remember the specifics now since it was with my first pregnancy and I was in the 1st trimester, but essentially it was to tell Dh that I NEEDED to eat and sleep and if he denied me that and I lost the baby, I'd blame it ALL on him!<br><br>
He left me alone after that..<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I think that was completely justifiable! Telling a pregnant woman to skip lunch is just ridiculous. Glad to hear you took matters into your own hands. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 
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